Are there normal girls who would like and understand me?

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I dated an Aspie (who also had ADD). Yes, we who don't have the same disorders can fall for you just as much as anyone else. The important thing is that you SHARE yourself and be honest with a girl. I understand why some people wouldn't say right off the bat that they are aspies and in fact I recommend you wait a few dates unless you realize there's a problem or misunderstanding as a result of it and you want to clear it up. But ultimately, you've got to be honest with her so that she knows there are certain things she needs to be aware of so misunderstandings don't happen. Unfortunately, the guy I dated wasn't able to open up about his experiences. If you are lucky enough to have a partner who accepts you as you are and just wants to understand you and you don't open yourself up or lie about who you are so she likes you, you are just lying to yourself and she'll see through it. If she doesn't at first, eventually she will, and you can't build a good relationship on dishonesty. Be true to yourself, share your experiences and what its been like for you so that she understands what's going on and can be there for you in a way that will benefit the two of you. Good luck

My husband is an asp. He had no girlfriends and had not had sex when I met him. I liked him because I thought he was cute and shy. I will also say honest,innocent,and sincere.

Other girls thought he was weak and shy and socaily akward and strange.

It depends on the girl. But I think that asp. People often attract warm-hearted, wholesome, nurturing girls rather than social prima donnas.

I will say that we had a great beginning, a stormy middle, and a good ending.

Begining was good because he was all that I mentioned above.

Stormy because I dumped him a few times because of his social awkwardness. Mostly because of miscomunicated feelings of his. He wrote me and email once that said I love you but...I don't really know what love is. He did not mean it badly but to a normal type
person...well let's just say that it did not go over well. He ended up comunicating what he had ment with a song.

Still, being forgiving and very accepting, I got over his stumbles, which lead us to the
happy end of marriage. And yes sex before that.

Aspis need to be careful to conceder how they are interpreted by other people to avoid the
pain of failure and rejection.

But I must say this:one of our 'songs' happens to be foreigner's ' I want to kow what love
is and I want you to show me.'

Most people don't understand why that is a hit with us but the song makes us both smile
and remember back when.

LINNAE - That is such a sweet story. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. ^_^