Blog post on the epidemic of forced celibacy in males

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Earlier, my sister said to me that if I made myself more presentable and got onto dating sites, then I would get someone. I had to say it 3 times and she still didn't get it that there is something missing in Aspies that stops people being attracted to you. These bloody NT's get on my wick, I should whack them all and be done with it already.

This article pretty much sums up my thoughts. He obviously watches Married With Children.

No one, including myself or the article writer, is proclaiming Sodini, a hero. He was a nutcase. But there is something wrong with a society that doesn't reward the guy that works his a$$ off and plays by the rules, and allows emotionally and physically abusive men to get all the women they want.

I can say that if it weren't for the internet, I would never dated a girl, kissed a girl, felt a pair of breasts, and so on. Now I'm relying on the internet and internet dating and the like to meet someone to take the V-card, so hopefully I can realize what many tell me - that sex is overrated - and move on with a life that doesn't involve the pursuit of women.

I think article is good thinking material and does to bring to light how the rules and roles of the sexes have changed over the past 30 years. Some of it the betterment for some, some of it to the detriment of others.

I think it somewhat true that lonely, socially awkward men would still have a decent chance at having a normal sexual life provided they worked hard. Nowadays, that just isn't enough anymore. It's harder still when sex is thrusted into everyone's face by the media, getting people to think that this is normal, desiring it, then letting them down when the reality is that it isn't normal, it's the exception for a few.

The growing class inequality in this country is certainly not making matters any easier as it's even harder to live to by the rules than it was before. The article does have that part right, there's a lot more ways society and politicians screw regular people over than there used to be.

I'd like a loving relationship, the kind where there's mutual physical attraction and two people truly understand each other, but I feel that's a thing of the past in general. Women are as tempted by men as men are by women, if not for different reasons. Men see attractive woman and think "sex"...women see jock/man in uniform/pretty boy/whoever and think "He's a challenge." Whatever happened to two people being enjoying one another's company and loving one another? Now everything's a game. If you don't study the game, you're screwed (which a lot of men, including Aspie men, don't)...and if you do study it (which I do) it can only help you so much.

Typical feminist view.

I never said women were rewards for good behavior. If you read what I posted correctly, I said that women choose to go for emotionally and physically abusive guys instead of going for well-behaved men because well-behaved men aren't "exciting" enough. I guess being beat and cheated on is exciting, *shrugs.*

I apologise then, but you also mentioned that society doesn't reward men who work hard and play by the rules - it isn't up to society to reward them, it's up to women to realise that they're better than batterers and cheaters - and if they don't it's the woman's loss. Those types of women typically have issues that make them rather unstable in relationships and certainly not all women are like that.

I wasn't exactly clear...by play by the rules, I meant dating-wise.

I just think a good portion of women expect too much out of men...and the men that can provide what they're looking for are just good liars and manipulators and have the physical look that the women like.