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25 Aug 2010, 12:49 pm

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Who knows? That's like trying to figure out a Rubik cube for our kind.


Yup. Some people can solve it in 5 minutes and others may never figure it out. D:


thats the thing, I can solve a rubiks cube pretty damn fast, but I am completely lost with all forms of body language. Ive tried to learn but it still doesn't click at all.

Now yesterday on my daily walk I "thought" I was getting flirted with pretty damn obviously, but me being me I just didn't care. Ill tell yes what ended up happening, and if anyone wants to say what they thing, let me know XD.

Well, was walking past the one restaurant a street over. It was closing time for them. Well one of the girls that work there (assuming girl since it looked like she either just graduated HS, or at least is 2 year younger than me appearance wise. and I deem all that are that much younger than me as "girl") well she was collecting the signs to put away for closing that were outside. Well as I was walking there was one last signpost for her to collect and it was to my left, and she was already on my left, but a distance away. Well upon getting closer she immediately crosses my path, and scans me head to toe before heading to the last sign. To my credit though I "tried" to crack a smile,which is hard as hell considering my facial muscles are kinda atrophied I think, other than what I use to eat, drink, talk, blink, and yawn.


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25 Aug 2010, 12:50 pm

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When you say real versus fake do you mean "flirting with an intent to pursue you romantically/sexually" versus "flirting with any other intent"?


That is exactly what I gathered, and If I were the one to have asked the question, you would have guessed right.


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25 Aug 2010, 1:21 pm

I was talking to my Aspie friend about this recently, she told me she didn't get why girls flirt with guys they don't even like, and I gotta say I agree.



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25 Aug 2010, 2:12 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:
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What do you mean by "real" and "fake"? I can think of at least two notions of "fake flirting":

1. Flirting with deliberate intent to seduce you, but to trick you into doing something for them
2. Flirting with no attempt to seduce you, but rather just because they like flirting

I'd like to add #3 to the list: Flirting with no attempt to seduce you, but to play a prank on you because they expect you to think it's real

That's basically what I meant by #1.


I meant something different -- even if the intention isn't there, it may be the only way some people know how to communicate. They've been pretty their whole life, and that's all they've been, either because that's all that is there (they are undeveloped mentally) or that is all that was expected of them, because they are pretty. Thus, they flirt because that is all they know, it's their default communication style when being civil.

Kind of sad, really. I once spent a day with a person like this, and she was like a record that kept replaying itself every two hours -- same topics of conversation, same things to say, etc.

I understand the distinction you drew, as opposed to Aspie1's. I just hadn't heard of that before; I always found flirting difficult and only viewed it as a means to an end, personally, and something that some people who are more confident and able do on a regular basis because they come to enjoy it.



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25 Aug 2010, 10:23 pm

catherineconns wrote:
When you say real versus fake do you mean "flirting with an intent to pursue you romantically/sexually" versus "flirting with any other intent"?


Basically what you said; but with the "any other intent" I'd also like to figure out when its friendly joke flirting or being a jerkwad without being told :roll:.


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