what tips for living together?

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"You will have no trouble from Frankie Pentangeli! Ciccio... a porta!"

Poor Pentangeli. He was suuuuuch a putz.

I love Godfather!

/sorry for the topic hijack

ah, well, we dont have any extra room or bathrooms. But I shall bear in mind planning food chores and visitors.

My husband & I lived together for at least 3 yrs before we got married. We'll celebrate our 18th anniv. in Mar 2011. Unfortunately, there's some things he's never learned, the most important being that I need some "me" time daily. He wants me glued to his hip (so to speak) whenever we're up @ the same time. He always wants me to sleep whenever he does. Not easy, considering I work midnites!

Life gets interesting: he has separation anxiety & is bi-polar; I'm an Aspie w/OCD.

[/quote]what in my OP makes everyone think its room mates not a lover? what did I write wrong?[/quote]

I assumed from the start that you meant living with a partner, not housemates coz you wrote "living together".
My boyfriend and I are planning to move in together in the future. We will have at least separate bedrooms and I would love to have a bathroom each too coz he moults like a demon and hairs round bathrooms drive me crazy! LOL
Having separate rooms doesn't mean that we will not sleep together at night, it just means we will have our own space (which will be nice for situations like getting ready to go out at the same time) and we will both be better people for that.
I've co-habited before with someone and having nowhere to retreat to did my head in slowly over a period of 18 months and sent me mental - he had his "games room" (i.e. he took over the spare room coz he was a selfish a***hole) and I had nowhere except my car. Eventually the constant overload and constant visitors (i.e. computer gaming with mates round the house until 4am in the week) was too much for me and I left. It was a shame coz we were very close for over 4 years but eventually his selfishness with not allowing me to have the space I needed to function along with other inconsiderateness got to me too much.

^ this. When I lived with my ex for six months at her dad's house this was my biggest problem. About the only places I had where I could be alone were in her closet or my truck >.>. If you have your own rooms (not to necessarily sleep in) then you will always have a place where you make the rules. And having a place where you can go when things get to be too much to handle is quite comforting.