My gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago

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^^ ooo , so you're starting to agree with me .....

Don't get your hopes up ... I don't agree with you on everything.

But that doesn't mean I don't have to disagree with you on everything either...

He's saying it again ..... the end of the world must be so close.

I just started to think about this a few minutes ago. I feel freaking awful right now. I never get suicidal thoughts, but right now I've just been decimated because I know I was being used for my emotional availability by this girl. She wasn't into the sex (she never got off unless she was on top and we only did it like two or three times a week), she hated me as a person, and she didn't like to do anything I liked to do. All she did was use me as a therapist to whine about her family problems to and how she hates herself. Instead of paying me by the hour, she paid me through mediocre sex where she'd tell me to hurry up and complain that I was hurting her. Then she complained that I needed to get circumcised. She'd call me gay in front of my friends. She is literally the "pickup" type girl that needs to be used or else she's gonna use you. No wonder it was such a textbook pickup and explains why she was so attracted to my friend obsessed with pickup.

What I'm going to do is block her number and facebook. She won't be calling me now, she won't be calling me tomorrow, not even in the next month, but when the next guy dumps her,or she's bored during winter break, she's going to come crying to me. Guess what, she's gonna get a message that says her number's been blocked and she's gonna scramble around desparately to contact me so she can get her therapist again.

Anyways, do I want people to feel like I do right now? Nope. I'm feeling intense feelings of neediness for someone who treated me like utter crap and I knew it the entire time. I'm not going to use anyone again. It's not cool. If I don't find myself attracted to this girl enough to be in a real relationship with her or if she isn't the type into casual sex, then I'm not going to have sex with her.

you sound like a jerk. maybe it was karma giving you some of your own:)

I think it was . What comes around goes around.

hoorah

Why don't you let the poor girl loose now? You're using her by merley being with her. You're doing the exact same thing. Let her find someone who loves her and treats her right. Wouldn't you want that same respect?

I know how you feel man. I had an ex who went bad and dumped me as well. We were insepperable as well and she just turned on me. I thought she was the one but I guess it wasn't meant to be. You'll find someone else. .

Maybe she has a good personality? Now that I've seen what a horrible personality is like, I would absolutely adore some girl that's spontaneous, fun, and great to chat with. She's not bad looking by any means. Definitely very cute (nice and slender, big boobs, lively green eyes, great sense of style). She's just not model level hot, and honestly, those girls will not want a damn thing to do with me unless they have some sort of mental disorder and extremely low self-esteem. I will never have any kind of physical relationship with that kind of girl again.

The most important thing about a girl is the brain. (Ok, a nice body is good too, but the mind is the most important thing about her.)

^^ you used to work for Chrezvychaynaya Komissiya?

You said you will run off when the next shiny new thing comes along. If you love someone, or are happy with them, you don't feel that way, ever.

I felt like that with the first guy I ever dated, and thats why I broke up with him. What you're doing is selfish. "I'll take what I can get, but if i get a better offer i'll end it" Thats not the way people deserve to be treated.

I don't feel sorry for you for not being able to get a model or the fact you never will again. Its beside the point. You're using this girl.

FYI, many, many, many women can orgasm only when they're on top. This is a function of female anatomy, and not an indication that a woman is not "into" sex.


How would you characterize how you felt about her "as a person?" From what I recall of your earlier posts, you knew she was a train wreck, and you stayed with her because she was the hottest piece of ass you'd ever been with - or hoped to be with.


She "complained" that you were hurting her? Did you try to figure out what you were doing that she found painful? I mean, if sex with you was painful for her, why are you complaining when you still got it 2-3 times/week?


But you did use her, OP. You knew she was not a good match for you, you knew you didn't have a future with her, but you stayed for the sex.

Look, you've learned a very difficult lesson. I truly hope that you've actually learned it, and that you don't volunteer for this kind of lousy relationship again.

So any new girl or two?

Nope. I jumped ship on the date last night when I didn't feel a real connection with her. I could've used a bunch of lines and manufactured enough of a connection to get her into bed, but what's the point??? Also, I felt like she was a bit inexperienced and I would've totally ended up hurting her feelings if we proceeded with getting physical.

Went to a party/club afterwards and made out with two randoms in a row, LOL. One of them was this gorgeous latina I approached on the dance floor in a somewhat ballsy way "hey my name's [blah], who are you?", *palm up handshake*, and spun her around. They never asked for my number, I don't remember their names. Last year, I would've seen last night as an accomplishment, but who cares if you got some drunk girls to make out with you. I'm really considering giving up this lifestyle, it's not me and it's so time consuming. I freaking hate playing the numbers game. It's gotten to the point that I'm starting to become obsessed with women and I'm spending more time thinking about them and trying to get in their pants than I am on the real things in life. If I leave this lifestyle, I will definitely go back to getting women very rarely, but so what?

Sure, I will have MUCH less friends, but are these the friends I want? Not really. I'll even lose my best friend at the moment (partying/being a manwhore is his life and he's the guy I learned all the social skills required to do this from) if I decide to tell him I need to take a break. Honestly, that guy is suggesting to do things that are going to mess up my personality. He's basically asking me to stop being so nerdy, abstract, and intellectually oriented. The way he talks to girls is in this very sensual, playful, and entertaining way. They love it, but that's just not me. I could come up with even more lines and routines like he has and start really manipulating girls' emotions as I talk to them instead of relying completely on their physical attraction to me. That's all a facade, though. It's like he gets pissed off with me when I have so-called "boring" conversations with girls.

Hanging out with him, I'm starting to regularly do things I would do very infrequently like smoke weed and get drunk. I feel like I do that almost every weekend now, it's ridiculous and terrible for school. I need to drop this friend, I think. He's such an intelligent, cool guy and I love him,, but his lifestyle is bleeding into mine and it's hurting my long term goals. I feel like this whole thing of gaming women has just been an attempt to overcompensate for getting no girls most of my life up until the last couple years. I've done it. It's enough, I don't care anymore. I feel like I've unintentionally turned myself into a bad/less productive person and I needed to get used/manipulated myself to see how screwed up this is.

This is gonna take a lot of discipline to end, which is something I don't typically have in abundant quantities.