Do people find you "cute & quirky" at first?

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If you do, make me one too!

That's completely awesome. I want one too!

More often than not I find myself having to get over unwittingly bad early impressions. So I expect to be seen more along the lines of: awkward, creepy, arrogant, pretentious. I find from experience that if I stick around patiently and be nice and accommodating with people, it gradually turns into: quirky, offbeat, insightful, amusing, kind. (The "kind" and "amusing" parts help turn "awkward" and "creepy" into "quirky" and "offbeat", and "arrogant" and "pretentious" into "insightful")

For certain people who came to know me even better and no longer find me charming: anxious, lazy, rigid, unreasonable.

I sometimes appear to make good first impressions on women my age, but this is fairly uncommon. Even less common is gathering that there is anything particularly attractive about the way I come across.

Dyingofpoetry brought up what I thought was a point: At a certain age, you just appear to be cranky and creepy, whereas when you're younger and dealing with a younger crowd, it's cute and endearing.

I wouldn't know as there aren't relationships I've been in.

Honestly, it just takes time. Too many people define a relationship as one where you have to be involved with someone else. You can have a relationship simply by sitting on a plane, or on a car and having a long conversation with someone. Most of the time there is little difference in the type of conversations you could have with a spouse versus a total stranger. When we think we need or are out to get something from someone, well.. we'll switch into the guarded mode and alter our behavior.

Yes, "cranky and creepy"... That's what I hear NOW... Thank you.

Brundisium & Nekowafer:

If I ever get one made for myself, I'll be sure to make a post so others can get in on it, too.

lol, if I ever get a successful one going I'll do the same!

For the same reason, I find myself attracting girls who look like Anne Hathaway. I'm attracted to them as well but don't really push beyond anything more. Since, it's as you said, hard for some with AS to converse on the intimate level.

Upon first impression, people think I am charming and full of life. After a while they get to see different sides of me and some have concluded that I am narcissistic and odd.

I been told that I was cute, but not quirky.

Zazzle.com allows you to upload personal images and have it printed on a shirt (for decent prices too, imo... ) -- So go for it!

Although I believe there was an XKCD shirt or something that was awefully similar

And yes... people think I'm rather cute initially (depends on setting), and then notice the weird... depending on the person though, they tend to think that long after... (one guy irl fell for me because of it... even after we parted ways, it was clear he still loved my quirky/clumsy/spazztastic side... another guy irl likes/treasures that side (dunnoifhelikesmeyet), then of course there are all those ppl I've me online, who all enjoy that quirky side... and the "cute"ness usually comes from various things I say like "OMG ITS SO CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTE!! !! !! !! !!" to strange things, to the fact I dress differently than others, but still in a "cute" fashion... I guess *shrug*)

Dunno, I think its a good thing... defines me well, and would much prefer to be considered "cute and quirky" than anything else really ("beautiful and intelligent" is great and all... but lacks personality :3 xD)

Nope. Instead, I've just been seen as some sort of hideous monster. A few months ago, some b***h at the service station called me a "freak", all because I looked daggers at the slut for spreading a contagious illness.

And everyone wonders why I'm such a "misogynist" - well, look at most females in this hellhole, especially the underclass ones. Conformist violence-fetishists that think they're the queen of the universe, even if they're the biggest swamp-donkey in town.

....O_O;;;

Jeeze man, I think you have some issues....

I'm thinking that calling her a slut, even just in your own mind, makes you react differently to her, and therefore it upsets her. You could try being nice no matter what kind of person it is.