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27 Sep 2010, 11:57 am

billsmithglendale wrote:

An interesting dynamic here -- tall women claiming they don't need a man to be tall, yet we know that tall women are limited in terms of whom they can date by height -- i.e., dating a man smaller than them is unlikely due to social reasons.

Meanwhile, shorter women do date taller. Really, logically, this would always be the case -- if height limits who one can date as a woman, shorter women have the advantage, as they literally have almost the whole spectrum of normal height men to pick from, while taller women have a smaller sub-set.

I'm 6'2", and all of the women I've dated have been 5'6" or under. My wife is 4'11". There may be a "protect me" rationale here, as someone else alluded to - It's very easy to say you can "learn to punch" at 5'9", but at 4'11", a whole 10 inches shorter than you, those women are at a significant reach disadvantage, no? Genes probably push us to mate in a way that smooths out outlier characteristics (like being too short, too tall, too masculine, too feminine, etc.)

Not to thread jack (think of it as a free BTT)...

I think that too extreme (e.g. 7' plus basketball player) is going to be a turn off too, even if the phenotype is going to present an advantage. At some point, the long term genetic sacrifices made to reach said height is going to outweigh the shorterm benefits.

I think, in a culture or society, there is a range of what is acceptable. Taking that down to the individual and we ask (e.g. in the current thread) "what is the acceptable height to you?" A better question may be, "based upon your height, how far out of the range of 0-1' and 1-2' would you date? This would help avoid ethnic and racial tendencies (e.g. Asians are shorter than their anglo-saxon counterparts) and determine what is more "acceptable".

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27 Sep 2010, 12:02 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?]

It is important to me that the man be my height or taller than me, not shorter than me.

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2- How much is your height?

I'm 5'1" so fulfilling requirement (1) is easy for most men.

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3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?

No, because it is taller than me.

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4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?]

No, because it is taller than me. Height less than 5'1" is a turn-off to me because a man who is 5' even or shorter is shorter than me.

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27 Sep 2010, 1:00 pm

why do you think anybody gives a dink if you are taller than your boyfriend? The only person calling you fat/big/a hippo is yourself. I myself am 5"11, but I really wouldn't care if my girlfriend was taller than me.

This is all just typical gender role garbage.

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27 Sep 2010, 1:19 pm

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A lot of people will look strangely at a shorter guy with a taller girl. They'll think the taller girl (whether they are fatter or not) is the "dominant" one. Which is absolute crap. And we shouldn't care. But it happens. And for a lot of us it's not even a matter of caring what other people think - it's a matter of what we are attracted to.

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27 Sep 2010, 1:27 pm

countzarroff wrote:

You're being ignorant.

"Why do you think..." People DO look at couples (e.g. interracial where the only difference is melanin, a TV show documenting two married dwarves and their children) and gauge. You will get looks and you will get questions if there is much of a height difference, ESPECIALLY if the girl is taller than the guy.
"The only person calling you..." Depending on the size of the girl (or even guy), you will get called names (either overtly or behind your back).
"I really wouldn't care..." Because it doesn't apply to YOU, doesn't mean it doesn't apply to THEM.

"This is all just typical gender role garbage" No, it's just ignorance thinking the world is a happy place and no one cares about height differences (ponder why someone even started this thread) and no one cares about how other people look (look at the other threads). People do care (warranted or unwarranted) and it does have an impact upon our psyches. If you're obese and try to fit into a swimsuit at the beach full of 20 somethings you will get stared at. You will get called names (e.g. "What does that whale think she is doing here?"). Get out, see the world and how cruel it is.

Honestly, I really can't believe you posted and believe that stuff. This is not a "Lifetime Movie"

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27 Sep 2010, 1:58 pm

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I don't care what other people think. I care how things feel to me. It feels wrong to me to look down at the man I'm with, even if I'm only looking down 1" or 2". Looking straight ahead or looking slightly up feels more right to me. I'm married and my husband is somewhat but not extravagantly taller than me. It feels right to me to look up somewhat but not have to crane my neck. For me this is not about what society thinks. It's what feels right to me. This might be what you call "gender role garbage" since it is most likely gender roles that make it feel wrong for me to look slightly down to the man I'm with, but so be it.

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27 Sep 2010, 2:32 pm

Which would a woman rather have?

1) a short man with a big penis

2) a tall man with a small penis

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27 Sep 2010, 2:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
2- How much is your height?
3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?

1. not at all
2. 5'2" (157 cm)
3. not at all
4. not at all

i've dated men who ranged in height from 5'4" (163 cm) to 6'8" (203 cm). my husband is 6'2" (188 cm).

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27 Sep 2010, 2:55 pm

Merle wrote:

countzarroff wrote:

Thanks for posting this Merle. Seriously, some people can't understand how a larger woman lives and they don't care either. After all, women are all supposed to be size 2 with DD breasts. :roll:

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27 Sep 2010, 3:18 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
2- How much is your height?
3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?

1. not at all
2. 5'2" (157 cm)
3. not at all
4. not at all

i've dated men who ranged in height from 5'4" (163 cm) to 6'8" (203 cm). my husband is 6'2" (188 cm).

At your height something like 98% of full-grown men are taller, so it's not surprising that it isn't as much of a factor in your decision-making.

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27 Sep 2010, 3:25 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
2- How much is your height?
3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?

1. not at all
2. 5'2" (157 cm)
3. not at all
4. not at all

i've dated men who ranged in height from 5'4" (163 cm) to 6'8" (203 cm). my husband is 6'2" (188 cm).

At your height something like 98% of full-grown men are taller, so it's not surprising that it isn't as much of a factor in your decision-making.

true that i am short, but i wouldn't care if a man was shorter. my grandfather was 5'0" feet tall (152 cm), and my grandmother was 5'4" (163 cm), and i saw nothing wrong or strange with that.

my own height really has nothing to do with it. i just didn't have the pleasure of meeting a shorter man to date whilst in my dating years.

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27 Sep 2010, 4:11 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

billsmithglendale wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
2- How much is your height?
3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?

1. not at all
2. 5'2" (157 cm)
3. not at all
4. not at all

i've dated men who ranged in height from 5'4" (163 cm) to 6'8" (203 cm). my husband is 6'2" (188 cm).

At your height something like 98% of full-grown men are taller, so it's not surprising that it isn't as much of a factor in your decision-making.

Even 5'1" is barely shorter than you, more like eye level. However, for a woman who is 5'8", 5'1" is a major height discrepancy.

Would you date a guy who was 4'2"?

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27 Sep 2010, 6:45 pm

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*I* don't need a man to be tall. If he needs me to be shorter, that's his issue. If he's 5'8" and takes offense to my being 5'10" then that's HIS hangup.

If I were into p*****s, I'd be a lesbian. :wink:

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27 Sep 2010, 6:46 pm

Oh and as for the height disadvantage for the 4'11" ladies...

the balls are right there.

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27 Sep 2010, 7:32 pm

1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
Kind of. I'm not usually interested in guys who are smaller than I am.

2- How much is your height?
5'4"

3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
No. But over 6'2" becomes a bit too tall for me.

4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?
Usually, but not always. Honestly, I've not encountered many men in the US who were smaller than I am. When I lived in Panama and Guatemala I looked almost all the men in the eye or was even slightly taller than they were. I didn't really like that.

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27 Sep 2010, 8:11 pm

billsmithglendale wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

billsmithglendale wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Ok ladies,
1-how much height of a guy is important for you?
2- How much is your height?
3- is a height less than 6 feet a turn off?
4- is a height less than 5.5 feet a turn off?

1. not at all
2. 5'2" (157 cm)
3. not at all
4. not at all

i've dated men who ranged in height from 5'4" (163 cm) to 6'8" (203 cm). my husband is 6'2" (188 cm).

At your height something like 98% of full-grown men are taller, so it's not surprising that it isn't as much of a factor in your decision-making.

Even 5'1" is barely shorter than you, more like eye level. However, for a woman who is 5'8", 5'1" is a major height discrepancy.

Would you date a guy who was 4'2"?

of COURSE i would! why the heck not?

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