Cuddling

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All cuddling (with me) has turned into sex and/or a full blown relationship. Maybe I smell nice, maybe she gives off pheromones. However, cuddling is really an expression of sincerity and intimacy, something you generally only share with someone you care for and trust.

And if you care for someone enough to cuddle, why wouldn't you want to date them?

Playful banter is vastly different.

You might not date them because you don't have sexual feeling for them?
Sexual feelings are caring for them deeply isn't the same thing, imo.

Yes. If there are no sexual feelings towards someone, I find no reason to date them. I care for a great many people, however, I choose not to date a great many people.

Is there a discrepency? I don't believe so.

You may care a great deal for friends, children of friends, etc. However, it doesn't mean you date them. Dating is a step in finding someone for a committed long term relationship, and this should include offspring (biologically speaking). Even without procreation, the expressed intimacy between couples (e.g. homosexual, transgender, old) should still be there.

So for me, sexual feelings = feelings of profound intimacy. If I couldn't see myself capable of expressing myself that way (where I could with someone else [counters a possible point of being castrated I guess]) then I wouldn't seek a relationship with that person.

Same here. I dunno if it's b/c I'm so lonely, but I tend to grope & get semi-sexual when cuddling which usually ends up leading to sex (which isn't usually my goal).

Don't get me wrong, I can see cuddling as nothing more than that (and I can easily cuddle without it spontaneously turning into sex), but I can't *casually* cuddle anymore than I could have casual sex. The emotional intimacy (whether it is romantic or not in the case of cuddling) needs to be there for me to be able to handle the physical closeness, but if it is there, being that close to someone physically is a very transcendental experience...

I've never had sex so cuddling is the best I can do for now. I like cuddles and kisses so it's okay!

Cuddling is fun. I enjoy it.

I love to cuddle. I want to be held :\

Amen to that-only by someone I trust and like very much.

Just from experience, especially since you both haven't known each other for a while and you're not gay (Trust me, if a girl meets a gay guy and becomes friends with him, she'll be all over him!), there's a chance that she does like you. Though, that's not what all girls are like. I've met some that are just straight out personable and don't have any feelings for the person at all. But, from what you described, it's quite possible.

This is very much not true. Some girls may do this, many girls may do this, but not all. Not even close.

It's been a long time since I've had sex and even then I wasnt a big cuddler. I'm surprised so many aspies on here enjoy it and not have over sensory issues.

QFT!

The trust and liking is key. I don't like most people touching me. I am very much aware of my tactile sense and am conscious of even being brushed against (though this may be partly because I'm so unaccustomed to touch). I also suspect that my hands are far more sensitive than most people's, so touch involving my hands seems very intimate. I'm usually uncomfortable with hugs even when it is someone I like. But! With the right person, I can relax and love a good cuddle.

i love cuddling =D!
& would especially like to with my girlfriend right now
i miss herrr =//...

Cuddling is such a good loving feeling and I absolutely love it, even more with a girlfriend.

Lately, I've been getting followed by a romantic kiss and so far its the best cuddle i'll will receive.

I love cuddling, whether there's sexual attraction involved or not.