Anyone here NEVER had a relationship?

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Yes I know. But the vast majority of the people who posted in there probably haven't had a relationship either.. just a general assumption.

I just wanted to clear things because I thought your post said that everyone who posted there has never been in a relationship.
Maybe someone should start a thread about those who have never been in a relationship where users with similar issues could talk to each other.

I suppose this could be such a thread?

I qualify as never having had a relationship, but I'm not sure what to add here. The opportunities do not present themselves. I was never sure what that said about me, or what to do about it (besides going out more and seeing more people, which has already been mentioned). I also don't have any experience of any particular plan or tactic working for me.

Most of the advice I see on this matter that I'd consider to be helpful applies more broadly to all social situations: how to endear yourself to people, how to make friends, how to leave a good impression. I agree with a great deal of it. I take a skeptical stance on mostly anything else I've read.

Part of the foundation of my present skepticism is that a lot of this advice conflicts with other advice. Some say "speed up", i.e. make your romantic/sexual interest known quicker than before, some say "slow down". Some say "make it your primary goal", some say "focus on other things". Thus, much of this advice has the air of anecdotal speculation.

MY closest thing to a relationship was half year of quadrille dance lessons for the high school graduation ceremony, 5 years ago. She was very nice girl, i still miss her

Most relationships are over-rated.
You're lucky you didn't rush into bad ones.

I'm ALMOST 28, never even been close to being in a relationship. Pretty much I'm exactly the same as Hector above.

follow up to my earlier post. Ive gotten far too much female attention, so yeah I have become numb to it. Its just like stop bugging me I want to just sit in my corner absorbed in my own thoughts. Its kind of annoying that I can easily come across as the mysterious brooding type in person, it somehow triggers the whole "I want to run up to him and give him a big hug or at least play around with him for a bit" response in women. Sometimes I swear NTs are the ones who cannot comprehend body language, because if I am gonna push you away, it obviously means I want to just be left to my own devices. Yet then somehow the whole pushing away and/or ignoring them turns them onto me even more so :/

Yes, I have always chosen my own company over getting a girlfriend. It doesnt mean I hate women, because I do have plenty that I am on extremely good talking terms with, its just, I don't need a relationship, a friendship is enough for me.

Never even had a POSSIBILITY of a relationship. That's how bad it is. Nobody coming to me thinking I'm their soul mate. Nobody even trying to get to know me to determine that.

I hate small towns.

Hey there

I am in the same position. I'd love a relationship, a commited one. I am totally uninterested in the world of trial and error dating, too. I want to skip all that rubbish, and find 'the one' straight away. The odds are astronomically against us in this day and age, people don't seem to be willing to work at anything anymore, even a relationship. It's sad.

I hope you don't have to wait too much longer either.

:jester:

Well, I'll admit that the fact that I have never been in a relationship does sometimes play havoc with my self-esteem, but I am not desperate. I am not going to beg.

No, you aren't alone.

I'm 34 and never really had a RL relationship like that, though i've had those online (and i do enjoy them). This is relatively recent though in my life, the last few years. For me its down to a mixture of decreased interest coupled with a lack of social skills, what little i have had i've had to teach myself.

I'm 31 and going as far back to when I was in high school, I've been on 6 dates my entire life. I've never had a repeat date (usually because I didn't want one), and I've never come close to changing that.

You actually may have it easier, in that you will be able to meet someone who has been through the experimental stage of dating as is looking to settle down with someone.

I am exactly opposite for you--I have no use for a committed relationship, and often question whether I even want a relationship at all. For me it is ALL about the experimentation, about feeling the emotional ups and downs and the excitement of first being intimate with another person. I don't actually want another person who competes a lot for space in my life with other things, or really even companionship, as much as just the ability to experience the feelings of mutual attraction, that I have been deprived of all my life--or at least since high school, when I last had women in real life who were interested in me, though I didn't jump on the opportunity and still sometimes wonder what I was thinking.

One of my pet peeves has always been people who think those like me, who missed out on dating in high school and undergraduate college, actually have it better because they avoided those relationships that "don't really mean anything in the long run" or similar crap. I'm not ready for the long run, stupid!

I've never been in a relationship. I've never even been on a date. I used to be fairly okay with this fact, but recently it's been starting to bug me a bit.

Starting to think on things a bit, starting to feel that I really only dont want a relationship at all because I dont feel like sacrificing my individuality for the sake of others, don't like being tied down and making obligations I might not be able to keep, and the fact that I just cannot keep interested in people whatsoever.