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nthach
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16 Dec 2010, 3:08 pm

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Oh no... you need to man up and lead the way. She expects you to.

Plan which restaurant you are taking her to, and which movie you'll watch. No other plans past that! :) Go by feel and be yourself.

(I just remembered the hilarious scene in Gilmore Girls. Kirk planning his first date to the minutest of details, practicing what to say, and writing cue cards. Awwww! FAIL!)

That's what I meant. :p I'll do some restaurant research on Yelp and I'm not a big movie theater guy as well - but I need to get over that.



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16 Dec 2010, 3:19 pm

Sounds great. You've done what you could, and just have to set up a time to see her.

Just one thing I've learned about bar meet-ups is that they're all pretty much one-night-stands. Now, I know that term implies sex, but that's not what I mean. Just mean the principle of an awesome time where everything seemed perfect. When meeting up a few days (months) later, the euphoria of the wonderful night has worn off and it's real easy for that attraction spark to wither.

Next time you see her, try to keep things exciting and fun and be sure to kiss her again. You'll both see each other remembering the high you experienced together, but it will take some effort to rekindle it this time.



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16 Dec 2010, 5:30 pm

YAY! sounds great, and yes, since she called you, it makes perfect sense to grab the bull by the horns and make a firm plan. i agree that it makes sense to decide on your date plans ahead of time, but check to make sure that she didn't already have a plan in mind.

good luck! :cheers:


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