Could too much honesty hurt an aspie too?

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Yes. It seems that way.

Hi guys thanks!
but don't get me wrong okay?! I do not mean that i would lie or would want to lie..
okay, i think i understand my query better now, it's just that how could I say a less desirable information without getting received or perceived as or with an undesirable intention, because I would not want to elicit a negative reaction when i just want a positive one hehe..

Yes. I hurt my ex a lot and offended him a lot and he was aspie too. He said I was self centered so I said those things he'd say.

One of my bad characteristics I have.

I think so. I think giving fewer details is helpful in some situations. To borrow the aunt and the horrible dress example, a politer-sounding answer could be "I think the blue dress would look better on you." Offer a more flattering alternative if you know one, it's a small way way of showing your intentions are in the right place.

I think the truth has the potential to hurt anyone regardless of neurological status, though Aspies may be somewhat more thick-skinned in this regard. Still, I think it is usually not the truth that is painful but the way it is said. Difficult truths do not have to be quite so hurtful when they are expressed with compassion.

I'm a turnoff for a lot of guys doing this but they seem to have no problem being honest with me and not giving two s**ts about how hurt I may feel from it.

sorry to hear that.. i'd never want to come across as offensive in any way especially if i dont really mean anything..

i was just asking this in a sense that when my aspie ask me of something that i have an answer that i don't think he'd like or something i need to tell him that he may not like, but really nothing against him, something like that.

i dont think anyone chould ever be to honest