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24 Nov 2010, 4:46 am

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...a pattern in her life where she is sexually or romantically attracted to a majority of the men who show any interest in her, yet the guys all see her as no more than a friend, and this causes frustration? Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern, but I think this is partly because almost no woman is ever in that position. Though I'm welcome to be proven wrong.


I'm romantically interested in most any woman who's nice to me but NO women are ever interested in being anything more than a friend with me(except maybe for an emotional tampon that they use to complain to about how the jerks they are with don't respect em). I'm unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance(unless homosexual guys who hit on me count) yet it seems like most every woman has guys interested in em but the women may not interested in those guys. Are there any women here who are not able to have a single guy interested in em even if the guys are creepy, perverted ect because NO women at all are interested in me


Honestly you really wouldn't want a creepy, perverted (or female equivalent of) woman interested in you. It is not fun to have someone you are NOT attracted to, and don't want anything to do with pursuing you. It is not a good thing.

no my ex aspie bf was always saying how he couldnt understand about womem complaining about creepy men coming onto them and claimed he wouldnt mind. so I suggested he imagined a middle aged aspie lady we know, squeezing his knee and he imediately was grossed out and shuddered. Its because guys imagine ok women busting moves on them, not creepy or gross ones (which are the ones who bust moves on us). Even the sexy NT lady in my local shop said it was only the old creepy men 3 times her age who busted moves on her.



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24 Nov 2010, 4:49 am

lotusblossom wrote:
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...a pattern in her life where she is sexually or romantically attracted to a majority of the men who show any interest in her, yet the guys all see her as no more than a friend, and this causes frustration? Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern, but I think this is partly because almost no woman is ever in that position. Though I'm welcome to be proven wrong.


I'm romantically interested in most any woman who's nice to me but NO women are ever interested in being anything more than a friend with me(except maybe for an emotional tampon that they use to complain to about how the jerks they are with don't respect em). I'm unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance(unless homosexual guys who hit on me count) yet it seems like most every woman has guys interested in em but the women may not interested in those guys. Are there any women here who are not able to have a single guy interested in em even if the guys are creepy, perverted ect because NO women at all are interested in me


Honestly you really wouldn't want a creepy, perverted (or female equivalent of) woman interested in you. It is not fun to have someone you are NOT attracted to, and don't want anything to do with pursuing you. It is not a good thing.

no my ex aspie bf was always saying how he couldnt understand about womem complaining about creepy men coming onto them and claimed he wouldnt mind. so I suggested he imagined a middle aged aspie lady we know, squeezing his knee and he imediately was grossed out and shuddered. Its because guys imagine ok women busting moves on them, not creepy or gross ones.


That doesn't really gross me out. Age is not important to me & looks are not really important to me either. I just want someone who won't butt-f#ck me or want me to suck a d!ck


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24 Nov 2010, 4:50 am

Chronos wrote:
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...a pattern in her life where she is sexually or romantically attracted to a majority of the men who show any interest in her, yet the guys all see her as no more than a friend, and this causes frustration? Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern, but I think this is partly because almost no woman is ever in that position. Though I'm welcome to be proven wrong.


I'm romantically interested in most any woman who's nice to me but NO women are ever interested in being anything more than a friend with me(except maybe for an emotional tampon that they use to complain to about how the jerks they are with don't respect em). I'm unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance(unless homosexual guys who hit on me count) yet it seems like most every woman has guys interested in em but the women may not interested in those guys. Are there any women here who are not able to have a single guy interested in em even if the guys are creepy, perverted ect because NO women at all are interested in me


Honestly you really wouldn't want a creepy, perverted (or female equivalent of) woman interested in you. It is not fun to have someone you are NOT attracted to, and don't want anything to do with pursuing you. It is not a good thing.


This seems to imply that the definition of "perverted" is "unattractive" or "unwanted". Female sexual perverts (as in, agressive or into "kink") are not necessarily unattractive or unwanted. But if you define it as unwanted, as a woman who wants me to constantly buy things for her would be, then yes there is no good in being able to attract those people.



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24 Nov 2010, 5:19 am

Why does this matter? Is this theorizing helping you guys meet women?

None of this is re-inventing the wheel. Women don't like men they don't find physically attractive, especially if he doesn't have a fun, social personality. The answer is to find the female equivalent, which is the not-so-good looking woman...the one that checks you out but you ignore her because she doesn't fit your standards and isn't at all attractive to you.



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24 Nov 2010, 5:41 am

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Why does this matter? Is this theorizing helping you guys meet women?

None of this is re-inventing the wheel. Women don't like men they don't find physically attractive, especially if he doesn't have a fun, social personality. The answer is to find the female equivalent, which is the not-so-good looking woman...the one that checks you out but you ignore her because she doesn't fit your standards and isn't at all attractive to you.


I'm much more attracted to women who are not good socially & unattractive to typical guys but they will NOT give me a chance :x


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24 Nov 2010, 5:42 am

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...a pattern in her life where she is sexually or romantically attracted to a majority of the men who show any interest in her, yet the guys all see her as no more than a friend, and this causes frustration? Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern, but I think this is partly because almost no woman is ever in that position. Though I'm welcome to be proven wrong.


I'm romantically interested in most any woman who's nice to me but NO women are ever interested in being anything more than a friend with me(except maybe for an emotional tampon that they use to complain to about how the jerks they are with don't respect em). I'm unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance(unless homosexual guys who hit on me count) yet it seems like most every woman has guys interested in em but the women may not interested in those guys. Are there any women here who are not able to have a single guy interested in em even if the guys are creepy, perverted ect because NO women at all are interested in me


Honestly you really wouldn't want a creepy, perverted (or female equivalent of) woman interested in you. It is not fun to have someone you are NOT attracted to, and don't want anything to do with pursuing you. It is not a good thing.

no my ex aspie bf was always saying how he couldnt understand about womem complaining about creepy men coming onto them and claimed he wouldnt mind. so I suggested he imagined a middle aged aspie lady we know, squeezing his knee and he imediately was grossed out and shuddered. Its because guys imagine ok women busting moves on them, not creepy or gross ones.


That doesn't really gross me out. Age is not important to me & looks are not really important to me either. I just want someone who won't butt-f#ck me or want me to suck a d!ck


What if she treated your poorly and was always putting you down?
What about poor hygiene?
Skin tags?
Rotten teeth?
A bad fungal infection?
What if she were your aunt or some other close female relative?

The point is, you really only want people attracted to you who, for some reason, you are attracted to, or at least are not adverse to.

Being in a relationship with someone alone is not what most people seek. Most people seek to be in a relationship for the happiness aspect. There are many people in relationships who are not happy. The relationship does not fulfil them in some way.

Just because someone is interested in you does not mean that is a person you will be happy with.



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24 Nov 2010, 5:54 am

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What if she treated your poorly and was always putting you down?
What about poor hygiene?
Skin tags?
Rotten teeth?
A bad fungal infection?
What if she were your aunt or some other close female relative?

The point is, you really only want people attracted to you who, for some reason, you are attracted to, or at least are not adverse to.

Being in a relationship with someone alone is not what most people seek. Most people seek to be in a relationship for the happiness aspect. There are many people in relationships who are not happy. The relationship does not fulfil them in some way.

Just because someone is interested in you does not mean that is a person you will be happy with.


I think I could handle a women putting me down. I'd ask her to help me improve myself so she wouldn't have a rezone to put me down as much & she might would start treating me better after she realized how much I care for her.
I don't really notice hygiene to much. I have low vision so I do not notice things in appearance that others typically would & my nose is usually stopped up anyways so I probably won't notice smell & it's possible she might start caring more if she had a guy.
What are skin tags :?:
I don't notice teeth. I don't really look in people's mouths.
Why would a fungal infection matter? Infections can get treated & clear up.
The only family members I'm close to are my parents.

My point was that I am unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance but it seems almost all women are able to have guys interested in em even if they don't like the the guys,. I really wished we had arranged marriages because I think lots of women would like me if they gave me a chance. I'll give most any woman a chance because I think I'll probably like em after a while


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24 Nov 2010, 8:23 am

You know, for a long time I couldn't get women to look at me, and then one day I stopped caring so much about whether women liked me. I had girls in school come up to me, and two attractive girls, including my best friends sister, threw themselves at me. Imagine that! Girls like guys that allow her to decide for herself whether or not she likes him. Who would have thought that the idea of rape doesn't appeal to most women?



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24 Nov 2010, 8:26 am

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You know, for a long time I couldn't get women to look at me, and then one day I stopped caring so much about whether women liked me. I had girls in school come up to me, and two attractive girls, including my best friends sister, threw themselves at me. Imagine that! Girls like guys that allow her to decide for herself whether or not she likes him. Who would have thought that the idea of rape doesn't appeal to most women?


I spent the 1st 20 years of my life not worrying about women & no women were interested in me. when I was about 21; I spent least 6 months not really focusing on finding a woman; I was mostly trying to have friends & but none were interested in anything more with me. Women won't give me a chance because they are not attracted to me. I'd need to have an arranged marriage


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24 Nov 2010, 11:51 am

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Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern


Interesting choice of words. I personally think whoever brings up the problem is the one who's complaining, and a lot of times in a dating forum like this, men are almost always the ones who complain endlessly about whatever is wrong with the world that day. Women, on the other hand, simply respond to the thread to refute some of the idiotic conclusions about women they've ever heard while occasionally throwing in some stereotype-based insults that may or may not hurt.

As for why men are more likely to complain about their love life, I read an interesting post about this the other day:

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When a man is interested in a woman and is rejected, he asks, "What's wrong with her?"
When a woman is interested in a man and is rejected, she asks, "What's wrong with me?"


I wonder why that is?



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24 Nov 2010, 12:31 pm

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When a man is interested in a woman and is rejected, he asks, "What's wrong with her?"
When a woman is interested in a man and is rejected, she asks, "What's wrong with me?"


I wonder why that is?

Blaming ourselves leads to low self-esteem which is generally considered to be a very unattractive quality to typical women. That's why A-holes get women; they have confidence


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24 Nov 2010, 6:07 pm

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This seems to imply that the definition of "perverted" is "unattractive" or "unwanted". Female sexual perverts (as in, agressive or into "kink") are not necessarily unattractive or unwanted. But if you define it as unwanted, as a woman who wants me to constantly buy things for her would be, then yes there is no good in being able to attract those people.

okay, so you don't want a woman who expects you to buy a lot of things for her. and some women don't want men who just want sex from her. everybody has the place where they draw the line, and has certain groups of people they find attractive.

i think the problem is that sometimes men don't want the women they can get. and vice versa. no point in picking on women for being just as difficult as men.


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24 Nov 2010, 6:13 pm

I've talked to bio about this, hyper, and suggested a prostitute if he wants sex with a girl out of his league.



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24 Nov 2010, 6:14 pm

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...a pattern in her life where she is sexually or romantically attracted to a majority of the men who show any interest in her, yet the guys all see her as no more than a friend, and this causes frustration? Women seem to complain endlessly when men report their lives following such a pattern, but I think this is partly because almost no woman is ever in that position. Though I'm welcome to be proven wrong.

to answer the OP's question... how about when some women pursue man after man, but they only want her for her body and don't care about a relationship or love? and they don't care about her personality or intelligence or anything? this is every bit as frustrating to some women.

just because women and men don't have the exact same problems doesn't mean they don't suffer just as much.


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24 Nov 2010, 6:27 pm

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When a man is interested in a woman and is rejected, he asks, "What's wrong with her?"
When a woman is interested in a man and is rejected, she asks, "What's wrong with me?


That's not true at all.



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24 Nov 2010, 11:23 pm

nick007 wrote:
Chronos wrote:
What if she treated your poorly and was always putting you down?
What about poor hygiene?
Skin tags?
Rotten teeth?
A bad fungal infection?
What if she were your aunt or some other close female relative?

The point is, you really only want people attracted to you who, for some reason, you are attracted to, or at least are not adverse to.

Being in a relationship with someone alone is not what most people seek. Most people seek to be in a relationship for the happiness aspect. There are many people in relationships who are not happy. The relationship does not fulfil them in some way.

Just because someone is interested in you does not mean that is a person you will be happy with.


I think I could handle a women putting me down. I'd ask her to help me improve myself so she wouldn't have a rezone to put me down as much & she might would start treating me better after she realized how much I care for her.
I don't really notice hygiene to much. I have low vision so I do not notice things in appearance that others typically would & my nose is usually stopped up anyways so I probably won't notice smell & it's possible she might start caring more if she had a guy.
What are skin tags :?:
I don't notice teeth. I don't really look in people's mouths.
Why would a fungal infection matter? Infections can get treated & clear up.
The only family members I'm close to are my parents.

My point was that I am unable to get any woman at all to give me a chance but it seems almost all women are able to have guys interested in em even if they don't like the the guys,. I really wished we had arranged marriages because I think lots of women would like me if they gave me a chance. I'll give most any woman a chance because I think I'll probably like em after a while


How much do you talk to women? How much do you ask them out?