My boyfriend.... slapped me.

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leave him. It starts with a slapp but soon he will be hitting your head against the wall. Trust me, i've seen this kinda stuff with my own eyes. And even if he gets therapy or something and stops hitting you, he'll still be a mysogynistic jerk and will just find other ways to be abusive. This i've seen with my own eyes too, trust me.

That's part of the reason that I'm not in a relationship, or don't wish to be in one. I don't want some man dominating me.

I think that you should leave him. Good luck on the big escape. Don't let him read this, or else he will try to track you down.

Yes, leave him. He needs to learn that his actions are not to be tolerated.

"Sorry" from him means nothing too, as abuse is a cycle:
1. They hit your or physically harm you.
2. They express guilt and apologise and try to make it up to you, everything is lovey dovey.
3. They lose their temper one day. Rinse and repeat 1-3.

You don't "need" him, remember that. You don't need to put up with abuse just for the sake of staying with him. That's probably what he's thinking, he believes he can mistreat you without ramifications because he thinks you're too dependant on him to leave. Prove him wrong.

Get rid of him.... Sorry I had to say this but being slapped by your boyfriend is not a good sign and that sign is gonna get worse, so the only thing you would do is get rid of him and move on or you can simply take the risk but it will only lead to being more miserable.

Trust me, I once I had a girlfriend who most people would think is psychotic because of her violent outbursts and whenever it happened to me, it would only terrify me and I would always be feeling like I have done something wrong when clearly I haven't not only it is scary but it also knocks down your confidence too and it's taken me such a while to get back on my feet again.


- SBI.

I would also counsel leaving him. My son's father lashed out at me several times, and even when I fought back he didn't stop. In fact, he then started saying I was the abuser. I remember one time he was pushing me around the bedroom in his parents' house, and I fell backward on the bed. I swung wildly and connected with his jaw, and he shouted, loudly enough for his parents to hear, "don't you ever hit me again." Of course, they then believed I'd started it.

He only started lashing out at me when I was pregnant. It continued after the birth, and I wish that I'd left him when he started hitting me, because then my son would never have had to witness anything like that.

First time he hit me, I rationalised it as a one off. Big mistake.

Not only for the physical violence, but to do something like that to you is a big breach of trust.

While he's never hit you before, has he abused you emotionally in other ways in this relationship? Even if he's never hit you before, I'd imagine the abusive behavior isn't the first?

Leave now. Don't try to rationalise it or wait for him to try and play it down. He slapped you!

It doesn't matter that your exes did worse things; they're not the standard you should be comparing him to.

Leave him. There is no excuse for violent behaviour. It is not an overreaction.

As another poster has said, just because he is not as bad as your previour partner yet doesn't mean that you should tolerate this behaviour.

Leave. Now. If you wait, you'll get sucked into the cycle the other poster described above. Even if you have to live in your car, it's important that you get out now.

I totally agree- you should leave him.
But I know sometimes that's easier said than done, sadly.

Damn him for hitting you! If you are not willing to slap him back, get outta there! Make your preparations. You didn't leave right away when he hit you, so it reinforced his idea of control. Maybe he could be a decent guy but you are not strong enough to change him but be strong enough to save yourself.

All is a bit vague, to hard to make a clear judgement. Since I don't know the history gone off before, his side of the story, comparing/differentiating stories and going for several rounds of talks.

But chances are that it won't stay with one slap if you don't know what provoked it.
Besides setting your borders might be a wise move too.
Talking about it might clear-up things - possibly with help.

If all this doesn't help then it might be a wise decision to leave him. There is always somebody else to love.

Cheerfully,
Wallourdes

You should absolutely leave. This behavior starts small, but escalates (watch Cops sometime). There are no situations whatever that justify physical violence in a relationship. If you don't leave, he'll think he can get away with more and even if you leave later, he'll try it with the next girl he's with. Zero tolerance when it comes to physical abuse.

OP, you know you have to leave. I'd also suggest getting into therapy, cause you're having doubts about whether you should leave this guy or not. And you're having those doubts after having been through one abusive relationship already. Please get help to figure that out.

And to the men who are suggesting there may be some reason to "justify" a man hitting a woman - you fail.