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19 Dec 2010, 1:26 am

She called and seems shy so we are going to the movies.



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19 Dec 2010, 1:32 am

ci wrote:
She called and seems shy so we are going to the movies.

hey that's great. have fun!

i knew she would call, because she told you before she was interested. it does sometimes work to give a girl your number - not every time, but there are lots of girls that prefer to get a guy's number so that she can decide whether to call.


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19 Dec 2010, 1:44 am

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So would it be ok to go up to random people I do not know and ask if they want to go out on a date and hand them a card with my written phone number? That way a person is not pressured. All this trying to figure out who is available and not is not efficient. I suppose this is a new kind of marketing in dating. I call it direct marketing potentials.


You really don't get it, do you?
If you ask a girl if she wants to see you and she says yes, then you say "What about lunch tomorrow or dinner next Friday?"

You don't just hand her a card and walk off.

(Aside: You don't get laid very often, do you? Gee, I wonder why?)



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19 Dec 2010, 12:23 pm

Wombat wrote:
ci wrote:
So would it be ok to go up to random people I do not know and ask if they want to go out on a date and hand them a card with my written phone number? That way a person is not pressured. All this trying to figure out who is available and not is not efficient. I suppose this is a new kind of marketing in dating. I call it direct marketing potentials.


You really don't get it, do you?
If you ask a girl if she wants to see you and she says yes, then you say "What about lunch tomorrow or dinner next Friday?"

You don't just hand her a card and walk off.

(Aside: You don't get laid very often, do you? Gee, I wonder why?)


The point is if she really likes me she will bother to call instead of my pressuring for a date. I want to go out with someone that really likes me. That way I do not waste my time on someone not as interested in me.

As far as laying I have no comment as I never did the locker room talk but if it's social science I am formally descriptive.



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19 Dec 2010, 12:48 pm

ci wrote:
Wombat wrote:
ci wrote:
So would it be ok to go up to random people I do not know and ask if they want to go out on a date and hand them a card with my written phone number? That way a person is not pressured. All this trying to figure out who is available and not is not efficient. I suppose this is a new kind of marketing in dating. I call it direct marketing potentials.


You really don't get it, do you?
If you ask a girl if she wants to see you and she says yes, then you say "What about lunch tomorrow or dinner next Friday?"

You don't just hand her a card and walk off.

(Aside: You don't get laid very often, do you? Gee, I wonder why?)


The point is if she really likes me she will bother to call instead of my pressuring for a date. I want to go out with someone that really likes me. That way I do not waste my time on someone not as interested in me.

As far as laying I have no comment as I never did the locker room talk but if it's social science I am formally descriptive.


This isn't true ci, a girl can like you and end up not calling you for various reasons such as being too shy, expecting the male to take the lead, etc. But, you are lucky because the girl called in this instance. I have given girls my number lots of times in the past and ended up with no response. That didn't mean they didn't like me. It means I went about things the wrong way.


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19 Dec 2010, 12:58 pm

Maybe next time I will try this other technique should it be needed. IF a girl really really likes a guy then she will call despite I think. I want to go out with ladies that like me allot first and I don't have to try to acquire them liking me anymore then initially needed.