After being away at school for a number of years, upon my return, I attempted to reestablish contact with various people I knew from high school who lived in the area. I went out with a couple of girls I knew, had one date with one, and a couple with another girl. Nothing ever clicked, and one I courted for quite a while only to have her choose another guy whom I dubbed "The Tool."
Ultimately, I realized these girls were wastes of time, because they were in cliques in high school, and kept those cliques in college, and if you're not a part of it, you can't be a part of them. Judgmental, and shallow. And really, they were all quite mediocre...one was a saleswoman for a faceless medical conglomerate, and the other a meaningless functionary in a government bureaucracy. After they rejected me, I rejected them, severing all ties with them, deleting them from my facebook,and removing their numbers from my phone. I've also severed my ties with my high school alumni association, simply because I don't want to have anything to do with a bunch of twits and losers I hated in school.
Now I've been focusing on OKCupid. I've written easily a hundred people or more since I started, and gotten perhaps half a dozen responses, three of which yielded dates. Two never went out with me again after the first date, and the third won't respond to my phone calls, even though we had an amazing date with a great kiss at the end.
The whole process of dating f*****g sucks, and I've grown to prefer solitude to wasting time with women, but I must give props to OK Cupid, for giving a great outlet that, though requiring persistence, yields some success (though not lasting, though I fault the girls, not the website for this).