To those who are on OKCupid, does this happen often?

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I am in a way lucky to have quite a few people in my area, and while there are times when I feel like I've seen all the profiles of the ones I'd be interested in, then next thing I know a bunch more people have joined. The discouraging thing for me is that I don't feel I have much of a sense of who would be compatible with me, beyond the percentage score that OKCupid itself gives. Also is the concern that no woman would be interested in me at my current level of interpersonal development--or rather no woman who lives nearby and whom I can find.

I was talking to a guy for a year and a half on OKCupid. We got along really well and had enough in common. We really seemed to be enjoying each other's company. After I hadn't heard from him in a while I checked my inbox to see if he sent me a message that OKCupid didn't tell me about. His profile was deleted and now I'm sad. In his last message he had just told me that he was there to listen to me even if he didn't have a lot to say (I was having trouble with work), and then he just disappeared. I'm mad at him for lying to me. I have heard of people having their account deleted by someone else somehow, but OKCupid doesn't care enough to do anything. Still, it's just as easy as making another profile and looking up the person you were talking to before.

Yeah, I 'met' at least three who deleted their profiles.

One of them was a week ago, she was chatting me and she was whining something like "okc is so fake, I am thinking of deleting my account" , and she did.

Btw, jono, what happened with that girl from the other city?

I actually met my current boyfriend on OKCupid. We only had two or three lengthy exchanges on OKC chat before exchanging email addresses and communicating that way so deleted accounts weren't an issue. We've been in a long-distance relationship for about five months now and things seem to be going well.

I couldn't find anyone on OKC who lived near me; my boyfriend and I live about 300 miles apart so we can't see eachother very often. He has AS and it was after meeting him that I started reading up on it and began wondering if I have it myself. In regards to special interests, I do have a tendency to annoy him by going on about squirrels too much but we communicate about those sorts of things and so it works. In a lot of ways our temperaments are very similar and so we're able to relate to eachother though at the same time our mutual tendency toward anxiety can be hard on both of us. Still, it's nice to feel understood.

I found that most of the people who messaged me on OKC were the creeper types who go after women many years their junior. I found that being aggressive in sending messages to people who interested me seemed to work better than waiting for compatible people to contact me. Part of that is just me though, since I'm kind of turned off by guys who are really forward in their initial message, saying that they will do whatever it takes to "get me" or something like that. Sort of sends a chill down my spine. Then there was that guy who messaged me and went on and on about my eyes and asked me what my favorite color of crayon was. And the guy who tried to convince me that all guys on OKC were just looking for sex and would play mind games until they got it.

That always happens with dating sites, you talk to people then they either disappear or blow you off. Dating sites are nothing but competition. Once a girl thinks she found someone better, she'll never speak to the other guy (or guys) again.

You might as well go to a bar or club. You'll get treated the same way there, but at least you'll get some potential action out of the deal.

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