Would it bother you...?

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I think my fear is that a guy will see my house as part of my ex-marriage, and feel uncomfortable. I have spent time removing lots of things from the house that belonged to my ex, and were gifts to us, but it leaves lots of furniture we purchased together and, of course, the house that we bought together after we married.

All these things are legally mine now, and my ex has nothing to do with my life, but I just worry that in order for me to "move on" completely, and for any new guy to feel comfortable that I have moved on completely, I should be living somewhere different, in a house that is "mine."

However, selling up and buying a new house is an expensive process, but probably worth it, if staying in the house is going to negatively impact on my future relationship happiness.

Maggie xx

It would not bother me one bit! As long as my partner is not still in love with the ex (meaning not emotionally available), then why would I be bothered? Relationships are hard enough anyway, so what is the point of being jealous or bothered by inconsequential, insignificant, immaterial details?

Just my thoughts!

Nope. Buying a house is a big deal and in the current market there's lots of competition. You don't just buy or sell a house just because you got a girlfriend. I'm not that insecure. If he likes me he likes me. If he's still hung up on the last relationship he's just not ready for me. I can hang out at my own house.

No, I don't think I'd be bothered one bit of my partner once shared their current home with an ex. It almost seems common to me, but I've known a lot of people who have moved their lovers in or the other way around quite immediately, in fact. I think people should be more worried about the bed in this situation, but that's going to happen. There has almost always been someone else in that bed besides you. People live their lives, and you've got to take them where they are now, be it in a house they shared with a past lover or not.