Does this happen with AS men?

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LOL Yeah, I thought about him right after I posted that!

The Hugh Hefner situation is an interesting point for discussion.

It's doubtful Hef has Asperger's-- more likely he's just a hedonistic douche-- but I could see a guy with ASD in a similar situation. Think of an Aspie in his 60s, 70s, or even 80s who has never been in a relationship, or only ones that ended badly. He may even be a virgin, but if he's not, he certainly started late and was never able to have a significant other as a young man. He's had a successful career as an engineer or whatever, and never had a family, so he's financially well-off. He's lonely and has no one, but a part of him never really grew up and could never attract someone even close to his own age, and he wants someone to spend the twilight of his life with. So he begins a relationship with, I suppose you could say, a mistress, who is very young, in her 20s, early 30s at the oldest.

And then of course they both have to deal with the stigma American society has created around May-December romances, but hopefully he's so smitten with her, he doesn't let it get to him, and she holds herself in enough regard that she stays by him until his time has come.

I can see something similar to this happening to me, when my parents are gone I will have no one and I will likely be very lonely indeed... I would want to be with someone who makes me feel alive, who has a sense of adventure, who invokes my lost young adulthood and who won't judge me for being odd.

I'm sure if you looked at a lot of relationships where the male partner is significantly older, and they seem to have largely separate lives but are still happy with one another and clearly function in the long term, the guy has Asperger's.

Then there's the whole eccentric component that just tends to attract foreign women, often younger. Look at Woody Allen, he supposedly has Aspergers...

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Sorry to snip your comment but it just strikes me that if one is to be a douche, one should be a hedonistic douche. That must be the best kind of douche to be.

I know NT or NT-atypicals who are all about Asian women, one dated Japanese girls through college and is even over in Japan right now for law school - from that stand point I don't think its an AS thing, maybe more cultural per upbringing? For whatever reason Asians have never been real high on my own list, for me if I were to cross ethnicities I think I'd most likely date a latina, s north African, or someone who's an interesting blend of all kinds of things.

LOL-- well I consider myself to be a hedonist beyond any shadow of a doubt, but not a douche.

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My dad...and because of him I was born and now stuck on this miserable planet having to deal with the racial stereotyping cycle. I feel like every geek in the USA is pursuing me because I'm Asian and therefore "I'm easy". Forget that I'm only technically 50% Asian and that I was born and raised in the US. I even have a hardcore Hoosier accent. I also have to deal about a hundred other different stereotypes about my "Asian Female self" when in reality it's my Asperger's enforcing the stereotypes and not my Asian side. I could go on about this but this is Love and Dating, not the Haven.

Wow this is really interesting. I've had several people say to me, in China and in America, that I act too much like Chinese men. It hadn't dawned on me that they might be picking up on my AS traits. I am surpised by it because I don't have any East Asian decent. My AS traits just happen to line up more with acceptable behavior with East Asian cultures vs acceptable American behavior.

AS men are prone to being attracted to Asian girls because, in many cases, those girls share, to some degree, a feeling of being an alien. Especially if they're first- or second-generation immigrants.

This feeling of being an alien can be bonding, and create chemistry.

I resent the idea that "geeks" think Asian girls are "easy". Well, they may be more often nerdy than other ethnicities, perhaps, but nerdy doesn't mean easy, either. It's just another potential point of attraction.

Really? I sure hope so. I like Japanese & Chinese women.