richardbenson
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15 Feb 2011, 7:05 pm
15 Feb 2011, 11:47 pm
abaisse wrote:
It's not about money or what you own. Here's my take as a girl in New Jersey. 
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
Bravo!
16 Feb 2011, 1:28 am
Esther wrote:
abaisse wrote:
It's not about money or what you own. Here's my take as a girl in New Jersey.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
Bravo!
so wait being miserable or lost is a negative? f**k! where is that good paying job with benefits and a nice car to boot with my 6 pack abs and my ipad? and dont forget the designer clothes.
its all about finding the one, and most f**k that up before they even know who they are.
so you must both have a future to have a future together. wait what?
and seriousness is only when you are compatible mentally, socially, sexually, emotionally, financially, morally and all other -ally's. quite a big list to fit and check off from one date, dont you think?
but maybe its just me and the fact that what defines a girlfriend these days is too f*****g complicated and vague to describe.
im just not getting the superficiality of this supposed security in a relationship. people say one thing about what they want in a relationship and do the complete opposite in relationships. hmmm...it must be just for the sex or something.
16 Feb 2011, 5:33 pm
Musicprophets wrote:
Esther wrote:
abaisse wrote:
It's not about money or what you own. Here's my take as a girl in New Jersey.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
Bravo!
so wait being miserable or lost is a negative?
Of course.
16 Feb 2011, 5:50 pm
16 Feb 2011, 6:25 pm
17 Feb 2011, 11:59 pm
18 Feb 2011, 2:36 pm
18 Feb 2011, 3:57 pm
20 Feb 2011, 3:33 am
Musicprophets wrote:
Esther wrote:
abaisse wrote:
It's not about money or what you own. Here's my take as a girl in New Jersey.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
There are a lot of guys out there who don't have their lives together in any way. You can have a relationship with them, but when you are looking for something serious, it's hard to see a future with someone who doesn't have a future paved for themselves. You can, of course, help them along the way. But you may get accused of trying to change them or may not be on the same page.
It's all about finding a guy who is happy enough with him that he can be happy with someone else. Deep down, if he's miserable or lost, it's going to spill over into the relationship.
The women I know want security. Not financial security (though that's a bonus, I guess). They want someone who is stable and happy with who they are, so they can have the stability of a secure relationship.
Bravo!
so wait being miserable or lost is a negative? f**k! where is that good paying job with benefits and a nice car to boot with my 6 pack abs and my ipad? and dont forget the designer clothes.
its all about finding the one, and most f**k that up before they even know who they are.
so you must both have a future to have a future together. wait what?
and seriousness is only when you are compatible mentally, socially, sexually, emotionally, financially, morally and all other -ally's. quite a big list to fit and check off from one date, dont you think?
but maybe its just me and the fact that what defines a girlfriend these days is too f***ing complicated and vague to describe.
im just not getting the superficiality of this supposed security in a relationship. people say one thing about what they want in a relationship and do the complete opposite in relationships. hmmm...it must be just for the sex or something.
You certainly don't need all of those "ally's" figured out on the first date. Some of them don't matter, ever. Most of those can be dealt with by compromising down the road and a relationship will only work if both people are willing to compromise and understand each other. For a serious relationship, I just want someone to have direction in their life. The finances don't matter, as I'm an adult with my own financial independence & benefits. I've never had a guy with a six pack. I'm convinced they're a myth and every photo of them is airbrushed.
I guess my point is, I don't want a guy who hates himself to the point where he later takes it out on me. BTDT. Relationships should be content and drama free. To an extent, boring is good.
