How many guys here actually prefer psychologic healthy girls

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14 Feb 2011, 1:23 am

Most guys want girls like this from my experience, if you go onto a dating site all the guys have listed "I want someone who isn't crazy for a change"

I however, don't fit the bill, I'm not only crazy, I'm broken and have some warped views on people and alarming views on myself, and extremely emotionally unstable.

I think you would be hard pressed to find a girl who is completely healthy. My flatmate is sort of like that (perfect :roll: ) but she pushes all her emotions inward.



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14 Feb 2011, 1:38 am

I get almost exclusively crazy/damaged girls. The most insane ex (love her to death, but I can't be with that kind of instability) went to a mental hospital twice in the last two years for suicide attempts. Incredibly beautiful girl and an actually good girlfriend (never cheated, was really sweet), but she just had these moments of total insanity where she'd just become a puddle.

Another ex was a scientologist. The current girl I'm having sex with (can't say dating because she doesn't date according to herself) has never had emotional sex and is 21. I don't know what that means, but it's bad.



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14 Feb 2011, 1:43 am

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I get almost exclusively crazy/damaged girls. The most insane ex (love her to death, but I can't be with that kind of instability) went to a mental hospital twice in the last two years for suicide attempts. Incredibly beautiful girl and an actually good girlfriend (never cheated, was really sweet), but she just had these moments of total insanity where she'd just become a puddle.

Another ex was a scientologist. The current girl I'm having sex with (can't say dating because she doesn't date according to herself) has never had emotional sex and is 21. I don't know what that means, but it's bad.


Whats emotional sex? Crying then laughing then frowning during it?

Also the reason all you guys have "attracted crazy girls" is because deep down, we are all a bit crazy. Even NTs have TERRIBLE trouble finding "non crazy" people.



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14 Feb 2011, 2:08 am

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Whats emotional sex? Crying then laughing then frowning during it?


hahaha :lol: That could be pretty distracting for a partner.


I dont think I could date a scientologist, too crazy.



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14 Feb 2011, 3:21 am

Yeah, this doesn't have to do with stability... maybe more of a herding instinct. Girls that see and that crazy stuff on shows like "Bad Girls" and think that's what people expect/want of them. Frankly, I think they must be stupid. I never went along with any mass-behavior like that, nor did I ever consider it, so I view people that do that consistently to be weak-minded. I am not the date you are looking for.

As for actually psychology, I NEED someone stable, because I'm not. I'm trying to recognize and understand my emotions, but "stability" is a long way of and I make no promises. While my instability largely stems from the fact that at least one person I know or am related to dies every 2 years or less, but it extends to all aspects of my life. I generally try to disregard people, because it takes to much effort to be concerned about them, and if I do become truly close to someone I'd probably latch on and never let go. I'm either detached or clingy, no middle ground here. And actually saying how I feel? Forget it. Chances are someone else knows what I'm feeling long before I do.





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14 Feb 2011, 4:35 am

hale_bopp wrote:
roadGames wrote:
I get almost exclusively crazy/damaged girls. The most insane ex (love her to death, but I can't be with that kind of instability) went to a mental hospital twice in the last two years for suicide attempts. Incredibly beautiful girl and an actually good girlfriend (never cheated, was really sweet), but she just had these moments of total insanity where she'd just become a puddle.

Another ex was a scientologist. The current girl I'm having sex with (can't say dating because she doesn't date according to herself) has never had emotional sex and is 21. I don't know what that means, but it's bad.


Whats emotional sex? Crying then laughing then frowning during it?

Also the reason all you guys have "attracted crazy girls" is because deep down, we are all a bit crazy. Even NTs have TERRIBLE trouble finding "non crazy" people.


I have no idea. I think sex is an emotional thing for everyone, lol. She sure likes to cuddle for someone who isn't into emotional sex. Maybe she meant she doesn't get attached after having sex with someone a bunch of times, which is a bad thing, lol.

I have difficulty attracting stable women because I myself am slightly insane or fully insane. Read my last thread if you need a peak into how weird I am.



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14 Feb 2011, 7:47 am

sterfry wrote:
I like a little bit of crazy. I understand crazy.


Crazy in bed? No problem. Pathologically crazy? Big problem.

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But nobody likes those who MCalavera describes as psychologically unhealthy or what I refer to as b*****s.


Actually, there are. They're called masochists ... or sex puppies for short.



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14 Feb 2011, 7:48 am

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Actually, there are. They're called masochists ... or sex puppies for short.


You rang? :wink:



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14 Feb 2011, 7:51 am

roadGames wrote:
I have difficulty attracting stable women because I myself am slightly insane or fully insane. Read my last thread if you need a peak into how weird I am.


Better for you to stay single. Not worth all the hassles that you have to go through. And if you need sex badly, there's always prostitutes.



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14 Feb 2011, 8:01 am

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Actually, there are. They're called masochists ... or sex puppies for short.


You rang? :wink:


I don't think you're a b***h. And I don't make phone calls just to say hi.



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14 Feb 2011, 4:03 pm

MCalavera wrote:
And if you need sex badly, there's always prostitutes.

8O I hope this was a joke.



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14 Feb 2011, 4:05 pm

I don't want a normal person. I want her to be completely insane, very eccentric, highly intelligent, beautiful!



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14 Feb 2011, 5:44 pm

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I don't want a normal person. I want her to be completely insane, very eccentric, highly intelligent, beautiful!


Eccentricity, intelligence, and beauty is fine. Insanity, not so much. Being with an insane person makes for an exhausting relationship.



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14 Feb 2011, 7:40 pm

abaisse wrote:
Aspocrat wrote:
I don't want a normal person. I want her to be completely insane, very eccentric, highly intelligent, beautiful!


Eccentricity, intelligence, and beauty is fine. Insanity, not so much. Being with an insane person makes for an exhausting relationship.


I am a very bored person. An insane person would keep me busy.



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15 Feb 2011, 2:38 pm

I like girls who some would consider unhealthy. I doubt I'd be considered healthy & if I was with someone who was helathy they would probably end up being more like a parent with me than a partner because we'd be on different levels. I'm like a 13year-old girl in some ways. I HATE mind-games, lying & playing that hard to get cr@p but I have a real soft spot for things like depression, anxiety, OCD, moodiness, low self-esteem, dependent, codependent, needy, clingy, high maintenance, ect. I have some problems like that myself & If she has problems to; we could relate better & we could maybe help each other out; support can make a major difference


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17 Feb 2011, 7:29 pm

Aspocrat wrote:
abaisse wrote:
Aspocrat wrote:
I don't want a normal person. I want her to be completely insane, very eccentric, highly intelligent, beautiful!


Eccentricity, intelligence, and beauty is fine. Insanity, not so much. Being with an insane person makes for an exhausting relationship.


I am a very bored person. An insane person would keep me busy.

Trust me: You don't want that.