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leviathans
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15 Feb 2011, 9:25 pm

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No it isn't even that. She didn't cut contact. Quite the opposite. She was the one to suggest they should hang out again. That's just about as good a result as he could ever hope to get.

Stop relying on a stupid Facebook status. Take her out and talk to her.


She suggested that they should hangout after make him suffer in silence. How could he want to do anything with her now? I personally have a "All or nothing attitude". I don't see why he would be interested to stay in touch with her.


Are you a virgin?


:oops: :D

But could you tell me why someone would like to stay in touch with a girl after that? I don't get it. Unless she was a really good friend, that is.



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15 Feb 2011, 9:38 pm

I'm just so sick and tired of not being wanted. I'm not aspiring to get married. I don't demand that I find the one. I just want SOMEONE in my life. I wasn't wanted in school. The people who I thought were my friends then won't have anything to do with me now. The couple of friends I do have are hours away. My only worth as a human being seems to be my work, the services I can give to companies as a researcher, a filmmaker. But when the job is done, I'm gone, no longer needed. They don't call to invite me for drinks after work.

I try to project confidence, to make eye contact and smile and ask a lot of questions and make the conversation about the other person. Every girl I've been out with or that I've pursued, I would've been SO WILLING to give a chance to, because they were all magnificent in some way. But none reciprocated. Is it so much to want to be wanted?



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15 Feb 2011, 10:37 pm

It sucks dude. But you just have to meet more girls.

Here's a tip. Don't bestow so much value on one girl. It will just hurt twice as much if you get burned. Instead of making a 150% effort with one girl, make a half arsed effort with 20.



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16 Feb 2011, 9:39 am

hale_bopp wrote:
It sucks dude. But you just have to meet more girls.

Here's a tip. Don't bestow so much value on one girl. It will just hurt twice as much if you get burned. Instead of making a 150% effort with one girl, make a half arsed effort with 20.


Good tip IF you are able to meet 20 girls that easily, but meeting one girl is hard enough...

Good luck op, I know it's hard.



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16 Feb 2011, 11:03 am

Just got a message from the girl saying "I think we'd work as friends"

Friend-zoned again. God for-fucking-bid that I could ever be something more to someone. f**k my life ...



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28 Feb 2011, 2:45 pm

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Dude this is Yoda (me and Jannisy) talking to Luke (you) in the swamp. If you don't want to believe what we are telling you then that's your business.

I don't enjoy belittling guys here. I just don't like seeing clueless young guys stumbling in the dark like this. Always whining, and always rejecting good advice. It is a reoccuring theme here and it's sad. :( I stopped posting because of this. It seems all my typing is futile and I'm wasting time.

The girl did nothing wrong, and that's just a conclusion we made hearing your side of the story. Who knows maybe things are even more hopeful for you on her side???


Ooh! I'll be Palpatine! Lol



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28 Feb 2011, 2:47 pm

Brianruns10 wrote:
I'm just so sick and tired of not being wanted. I'm not aspiring to get married. I don't demand that I find the one. I just want SOMEONE in my life. I wasn't wanted in school. The people who I thought were my friends then won't have anything to do with me now. The couple of friends I do have are hours away. My only worth as a human being seems to be my work, the services I can give to companies as a researcher, a filmmaker. But when the job is done, I'm gone, no longer needed. They don't call to invite me for drinks after work.

I try to project confidence, to make eye contact and smile and ask a lot of questions and make the conversation about the other person. Every girl I've been out with or that I've pursued, I would've been SO WILLING to give a chance to, because they were all magnificent in some way. But none reciprocated. Is it so much to want to be wanted?


You have money which can get all the affection you need. Just remember emotions are fleeting.