Do you think it will be hard?

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I recently went on my first date in about 3 years. I never intended it to be my only date with this girl, but I had to have that first one be pretty safe because I knew I'd be a bundle of nerves. The only real goal I had for that date was to get through it without embarrassing myself, hopefully have good conversation and get to know her as a friend, and get this particular monkey off my back. I didn't do anything physical or even remotely flirty or romantic mainly because I was too nervous, and as a result, it probably killed any shot at a relationship there may have been. I was further distracted by the fact my mother was seriously ill that day. I didn't really intend to have a "practice date", but that's kind of how it ended up because of the circumstances.

Are you sure the girl isn't an aspie? That's a very blunt and direct thing to say. I don't think I can recall ever having heard of a girl saying to a guy that he was practice. It happens, but it's usually not so directly stated. If this happened to me, I might be disappointed if I was really into this girl, but I'd still respect and appreciate the honesty, since I'd at least have a clear idea where I stood and what was going on without having to try to interpret the usual fake reasons people give like "not ready for a relationship", "it's not you it's me", etc. I say count your blessings that she was straight with you. Some girls would string you along just to have a back-up guy, and those are the ones who I dislike most.

Not that they would actually say it, I too have been many woman's "dating guinea pig". I may be a Pig, but don't make me a guinea pig.

I know what you men about awkwardness. i mean what society fails to understand is that not every human being is great at interpersonal interaction. i can understand why social skills are important in the dating but people look for different thing i mean there has to be somebody out there who looks beyond all the awkwardness and may even like the social ret*d personality type. Unfourtnatly though it does seem that a lot of people tend to follow the crowd and don't like to date people like that?

I guess even though it may not seem that way there is a more to life than relationships, even if you would like to be in one you might have to come to terms with the fact that it may just be an area you are good in and that some people have the same problems as you if that makes it any easier to cope with?

social skills aren't everything.
i think plenty of people look past them - especially as people get older.

Yes as people mature there out looks on life and in the dating world changes.

I kept telling women who talked to me at work that I did not liked to be touched when they showed anytype of intrest in me. I shoved people away from me out of fear of showing my emotions and being close to someone. I do not even touch my parents or have shown them anytype of affection. Now I am in my 40's and I am full of regrets pushing everyone away for wanting to like me. Do not end up like me get out there and meet people. It fills you full of hate being alone for this long.

I had women show intrest in me through out my 20's and early 30's that my friends said I ignored or did not know they were hitting on me. I would always hear them say stuff like "dude what were you thinking, did you not see what we saw?" "No one is that stupid" is another thing they would say to me. When I was at the resteraunt they did not really seem turned off by my lack of social skills. I actually think I got a lot of intrest from women with a kid or two who were looking for someone who wanted to stay home and be responsible.

THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID!

Ahem, anyway...



She sounds like a waste of time anyway.

I'm in a similar situation to you, but the secret is to find girls who are just as awkward as you are.

I kinda wish they were You seem more relatable to me