Can you ACT confident?

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That's really the key is getting that internal monologue going that keeps track of the discussion and gives you your cues and reminders. It's training yourself, is all.

Grisha, IMO you're right on the money with this. Even socially gifted NT's have situations where they stammer and stutter - typically its areas where their own wiring doesn't help them out much.

I can act it but it's physically and mentally draining.

Simple answer. No.

Complex answer, No.


I can act everything else very well except for confidence. Its just not something you can "act". You can get yourself in a mood to be more confident than usual but you cant fake it.

I had times when I was in my early twenties where I felt very confident and was told by someone that moment that I looked scared. Seems like there's no necessary linkage between what you're feeling, what you think you're projecting, and what you actually are (or at least with the facial expressive blockages we have).

I can only act confident if I know what to say or do next. If I screw up, and I don't get bogged down by anxiety, I can keep going and seem confident.

I am confident I belive in myself I love myself an I have a ton of pride I do have some prodlems with socializing with my friends and family but I keep working on it an ive gotten better at gaining confidents its all about beliving in yourself

Acting confident is called courage.

very good answer

i've never been able to fake it, much less fake it sufficient to make it. at this point in living, i can't see any further utility in trying to be what i am not. it is better for me to try to be a better me, for pleasing at least myself, than some pale imitation of a better thee, and if somebody else should discover the better me, then all the better, but i am just about out of time for that.
i am praying for the OP to get himself a proper mate, and quickly.

In a professional setting I can appear very confident. In any social situation I can't pretend to be confident at all.

Don't have to act it, I am confident.

This.
Also I can act confident but I can't act social. So usually people perceive me as arrogant. They buy my acting and think that I'm not shy but they can see that I'm not socializing. Ergo I'm arrogant.

Yeah you can act it but it won't hold up for long.

I'm usually farily confident provided I have a reason to be. If there's a girl that I'm attracted to and I never say anything to her, it's because I can't think of anything relevant to talk about, not because I'm afraid of her or shy.

No , you can't act confident.

I believe that confidence is a consequence that affects your attitude and not an attitude by itself.