How did you get a boyfriend or girlfriend?

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I didn't.

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we met through friends. he was one year older and used to come visit my high school after he had graduated to visit his friends and a girlfriend he had for a while. i asked mutual friends about him and finally there was a party at someone's house after school had ended. i hinted to lots of people that i wanted to meet him to make sure he knew. we crossed paths a couple of times but he was still dating that girl. he found me annoying as all hell, at first, because i was opinionated and outspoken.

by the time the party rolled around he had broken up with his girlfriend. he was sitting in a chair, poolside (rich friend), so i plunked down next to him and started nattering. i am an aspie and he has social anxiety, so we sat side by side looking at the water, not facing each other, and talked for several hours.

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the next day i gave him my number and he called. that was over 20 years ago, and we are currently married.


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i saw him out of the corner of my eye, and he drew my attention physically. i didn't go for a certain type, but something about the impression he gave made my breath completely stop. he was very attractive to me, but he was not very aware of female attention and was not very successful with women up to that point.

i asked around about him to fill in some blanks about his personality and interests. and when i finally talked to him, he was sort of aloof yet also gave me his full attention, somehow. like, he kept his thoughts to himself but i could tell when he was interested.


i have lots of acquaintances, and i am working at building friendships but i am not usually successful. it was the same back then.

That's actually quite romantic for real life, it would be the start of a good film

HowCan't remember
Age 18?
Why I liked her crazy hair
That only lasted a month tho

HowMy mate introduced me to her
Age 22?
Why I was intruiged about her
Only lasted six months but hey, that's my longest stint

With my wife, we knew each other from having worked together at a previous employer, and we got together when we both found ourselves without partners. I had actually hired her into that previous job after she was suggested as a candidate by a mutual friend, but we hadn't worked at the same place for a few years.

I was 38, she was 28. We were married 2 years later, which was 11 years ago.

I liked her because she was smart, attractive, I liked her personality as it was similar to mine, and we had some shared background in that we both went to the same university and lived on the same dormitory hall 10 years apart.

I have a few other friends, though most have moved out of the area over the years.

By contrast, with my previous girlfriend before that, we got together because she found me physically and mentally attractive, and since she was more intelligent and far more socially adept than me, she got what she wanted.

Not a question

How (talking in person, online) and where (church, school, club, other)?

I met my first one on myspace. He messaged me first saying we should get together and play video games together. The second one was on a fetish dating site, he messaged me first also and he came out and saw me that month and I came out and saw him. My husband was on a adult fetish site and I posted a thread asking for men in the area to come and hang out with me and he sent me a PM saying he liked one of my stories I wrote. We chatted for three weeks on AIM before we met at Starbucks on my 22ns birthday.



20 and 21. 21 when I met my husband online, 22 when we met in person.




With my husband it was because of personality. He also accepted me for who I was. When I first met him, he came off as naive and socially inept. He even said the first time we met he can see we are going to get married and have kids and that almost scared me off. But somehow he talked me into giving him a chance after I said I didn't want to speak to him anymore nor want to see him. He was also aspie like too.



Not really. Only online ones and I have an old friend who lives in Washington but we're not that close.

My first one I actually felt sorry for...she wasn't a looker at all either...so I tried to like them for their personality (I was 16 I think), I actually cringe at that thought now.

The second one was because they pitied me...I shouldn't of took it as she was also not a looker...she was pretty awful with me too...even going as far as stating taking a picture of me would be like "Taking a picture of a pervert", how charming...so I did what came natural...neglected her and stuff. (Also 16).

My third (and final), I asked out online as I remembered I liked her...another big mistake...she was an improvement on both fronts (looks and personality), but she kind of didn't want to meet up (I think I was almost 17 by this time), so it was just online dating for a year before I broke up with her (which is strange now that I think about it), I see her nowadays but I don't plan on getting back with her as I much perfer her as a friend.

So yeah....three crappy relationships.

How (talking in person, online) and where (church, school, club, other)?

Every relationship I have had in the last 10 years (3 of them in total) were with people that I met online via a dating site.

How old were you?

24, 29 and 33

Why (because of how they looked, personality, or a combination, or something else) be truthful, I want to hear the most sincere reply?

We had the same sexual interests *ahem* in all 3 cases and in 2 of the cases they also had an hilarious sense of humour!

Oh, and do you have a lot of friends otherwise, or any friends, or some friends otherwise?

Err no friends otherwise lol. I really lose interest in socialising with anyone else once I meet someone I bond with in a romantic way. I don't tend to like socialising that much even when I'm single though. I have not had a friendship only friendship in over 17 years.

In every case, I was patient, relaxed, and didn't expect much. I spent less time trying to be her girlfriend and more time trying to get to know her. There are enough guys that go into a relationship thinking they know how it's going to be, and women don't like that for some reason. Bottom line is, if you convince yourself you can't live without someone, how are you ever supposed to live with them?




This is just a more in-depth way of saying that I meet people when I'm comfortable with myself.

thank you. i think there's romance everywhere, if you look for it.

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I have been engaged and dated a lot of people but I am going to ignore that completely because all that matters is who I am with now.
I met Gregory online on Gaiaonline. I was fishing and he entered my room and somehow we started talking. He was more so focusing on his fishing and told me I talked too much and to be quiet. Oddly enough we both happened to be Jehovah's Witnesses and oddly enough him seeming rude made me fall in love haha. At that time I had no idea he was an aspie or anything.
We somehow became friends and talked more and eventually he gave me his e-mail. He was too hesitant to call me. He thought I was a weirdo. I was 20 and he was 17 years old.
Eventually he gave me his number and we talked for over 4 hours our first night I think and ever since then I couldn't really let him go. I am obsessive and clingy because of my BPD but he works because I have to be patient and let him do his own thing because I know he is an Aspie (undiagnosed) I diagnosed him with KS and Aspergers, We struggled for awhile and we even broke up twice.. but we know we can't live without each other. We're best friends. We need each other and we love each other.
I had met him in person last July and he stayed here for 2 weeks with him mom.
later in October around our anniversary probably he broke up with me. I hated it. I made sure he was still my friend and not to refer to me as an ex. Ex is an ugly word to me, like the final goodbye, which I refused to be. We really did not talk for a good month or two maybe. Our relationship was unofficial but we didn't change. We still treated each other like we were together eventually.
So I convinced him to come back, I had him stay with me the whole month of January and we made it official. So we are together again and hopefully forever.
He was never necessarily interested in me, or my looks for whatever reasons but he admits to being with me because I understand him. I know he does like me for other reasons though, he was jealous when I had dated someone else first instead of him.
I was always attracted to him. Even before I met him. I had no idea what his name was for awhile or what he looked like for probably a few months. When he said I could call him "Greg" I was like <3
When he gave me his FB and I saw him I was like "oh"
when he updated his pics to ones where he wasn't 14 I was like "damn! he is so sexy!"
and when I met him in person he was just as lovely
I love just about everything he does, I love him physically and emotionally..
His love for me probably isn't as strong seeing as he lacks a lot socially and he's still tormented inside from his ex before me, whom he loved, but I accept that. It hurts sometimes, but I would rather have him than not to have him. We both have a lot of disorders but I think that's why we can get along. I'm not some normal person who thinks he is a creepy jerk like everyone else and he isn't some normal person that thinks I should be in a mental institution so we work. We enjoy the same things and sharing new things and we're both artists and writers. We both like games and anime.. him more so than me.. but you know.
So yeah. He's 19 now and I will be 22 and he recently got a job and he is gaining more independence. When he goes back to Alaska from Cali he's going to college and hopefully we can get married in the future.