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Fnord
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28 Apr 2011, 11:30 pm

Sex, Love, Fulfillment ... choose any two.


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30 Apr 2011, 2:09 am

It's my de facto mental paradigm, being asexual, but I have no clue how I could EXPLAIN it to a sexual who doesn't instinctually view them as separate.


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30 Apr 2011, 2:12 am

Sex devoid of emotion would be... odd. And I say this as someone that separates sex and love completely.

Somehow, though, I think I've missed the point of the question.


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30 Apr 2011, 2:27 am

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Its really easy for me I can feel no emotion for her a girl during sex because its about me getting off not about her needs that sounds bad but its a honest answer :twisted:


It's good that you're honest, but I hope you realize by doing it this way you're most likely deemed 'terrible' in bed.

I've been with people like you. I know how the 'un-important' party feels afterwards.


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30 Apr 2011, 6:11 am

Fnord wrote:
Sex, Love, Fulfillment ... choose any two.


:lol:


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30 Apr 2011, 5:40 pm

It's certainly something to think about but ironically, our kind may be better adapted to casual, no strings attached relationships. The reason I say this is because regular relationships requires so much emotion, and talking and caring, and overall a lot of socially exhausting work. I know that at least for me, I don't want to be forced to constantly talk to a partner everyday, be forced into friend or family activities, have drama and all the other social things that comes with being in a real relationship. Obviously with casual, it's just sex and the best part is you can keep your distance, you don't have to talk everyday, there's no drama and you can see each other whenever you both feel like it. It's not like you are obligated to care all the time. It's something to think about for sure.


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30 Apr 2011, 10:07 pm

i'm Aspie, a female, and I was able to have sex devoid of emotion, and still am. Not being promiscuous or anything like that. Men with ASD's outnumber women. Females are usually the emotional people, the nurturers. It is odd when a woman has an ASD because she rarely shows empathy or any regard for others. But because ASD is complex, enigmatic, symptoms vary from person to person. Maybe it's just me..