SiegePerilous wrote:
. . . I see you're old enough to drink, so going to the bar with friends is a good idea, even just to people-watch. Practice conversation with people you trust. . .
Notice that this is the recommended way. You go to a public venue or party with friends. It is much more socially ambitious to go by yourself, or to a meetup.com group, or to a Sierra Club outing. Doesn't mean it's wrong, just means it's a lower percentage chance of success. You kind of have to have this watchful, observant energy where you hang back, and ready to reciprocate but not overdo it. And at other times, making a medium overture without thinking about it too much and without making a big deal with it either working out or not working out. It's tricky. (more right brain set of skills, more loosey-goosey repertoire person draws upon, inherent imprecise! Medium steps, and if it turns out to be a medium mistake, it's all for the good, might even add texture to the conversation. Just let a medium mistake be a medium mistake without a big deal about it)
18 May 2011, 12:08 pm
