Ever tried a dating sight?

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Well it's probably a little higher than 1% if it's extremely common.

I found 'em ok.

Just have to play the numbers and edit your "pitch".

Depends on how serious you are about finding a suitable match, or how picky you are. Of course, not to say I was all that picky. I'll probably never try it again, I just found it wasteful.

Those sites would be very hit and miss. If you have Aspergers you would more than likely want to meet someone else with Aspergers who would think and share similar stories of being alone, not fitting in and you can empathise/understand each other.

Your profile should indicate you have Aspergers. I would like to talk to people on here who has Aspergers and we both understand each other. Preferably we communicate online for a long period of time before we meet up.

I have Aspergers. I am a victim through no fault of my own. It feels like the whole world is against me. I hate being the outsider and always feeling gloomy on the inside. Life has been a struggle.

I would try one of those sites, but they'd makes me seem desperate. Then again, I'm really not sure I'm in any position not to do that. As long as my profile is "What you see is what you get" I'm sure I'd get at least 0 suitors. So, in theory, a site like this should be paradise for looking for someone to be with, but they seem more for older people than anyone my age. You know what they say, I have my entire life ahead of me? That's true but I have dated a huge variety of people. So far, it seems like my only requirements for a relationship are:

~We have similar interests.
~Accept me for who I am.
~Don't smoke.
~Don't be an alcoholic.
~Don't do drugs.
~Respect yourself and dress decently.

I even dated an ugly ogre-looking person, and I've always been under the impression that since he's ugly he'll be more loyal to me. No.

But, I think I'll consider OkCupid and try Dark Lord's advice. I've tried tons of NORMAL men, and I've never given a person with Asperger's a decent fighting chance.

I'm a lot less picky about the type of man I want than I used to be, and when I become older the list will be modified to suit adult responsibilities that I still don't have. I've rather been under the impression that I can't be with a person with Asperger's Syndrome because our problems would be too similar, and he might have just as much trouble keeping a job as me (says the woman who's never even gotten a job or tried).

No, that's not misogynist at all.

You know, every single time I actually notice one of your posts, it's because of you insulting fat women,
almost out of nowhere, as if it's some gratuitous compulsion to say something malicious about us.

You should definitely get some help for that.

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^screen shot of the blog post (that was removed because okcupid was bought by match dot com) that does a number on eharmony and others.

Well, dating sites can work, but I haven't had much luck. My NT brother met his long-time girlfriend on EH and he swears by it. I was on EH several years ago for a total of 4 months and not 1 date, nothing even close. I tried OKQ a few months ago, but only for a couple of weeks before deleting my account. Again, no dates. The woman that I had the most e-conversations with matched me 0%! I wish that there was a real site that catered toward AS. Aspie Affection is a complete train wreck and not worth the time.

95% to 97% of the accounts are dead on the paid dating sites. The site does not inform you which sites are paid up and active.

Dating sites are a huge scam. I would not waste my time and money on one of those scam sites.

I tried to sign up for a couple of different ones a while back, they both told me that I didn't fit with the service they provided.

Update:
I'm deleting my OKC today-
not because of the site itself,
but I don't think what I'm looking for exists.

Males out number females around 100 to 1. Some ridiculous imbalanced ratio. Only 4% to 7% of the accounts are paid up active members and can write back. The site does not tell you who has paid up and who has not paid up. 93% to 96% of the accounts are dead accounts and can not write back.

Males will be lucky to get a few real responses from female. Females will get lots of responses but no guaranteed matches. Dating sites are a lose, lose scenario for both genders.

Online dating sites are a waste of time and money. They are scams, people prey of people's desperation by setting up these online dating sites. Dating sites are scam. Only use the free online dating sites that are online. Avoid wasting your time and money on paid dating sites.

Last edited by Dark_Lord_2008 on 21 May 2011, 6:09 am, edited 1 time in total.

I've had an okcupid for a few months... I'm getting absolutely nowhere with it now. I don't even get responses anymore like I did when I started.

I met my current boyfriend online and couldn't be happier. Online dating worked for me because I didn't over focus on trying to get people to pay attention to me. On the site I used I made my profile and that was it, I let the other people come to me almost like fishing in the middle of a pond. The fish just don't hop in the boat it takes time to catch the right one. With online dating some times it pays to be patient you don't always have to be the one to respond to others let thGem respond to you. The site I met my boyfriend on I signed up in june of last year I didn't get a response to my profile until the end of august. It takes time its not a quick process and it also helps if you are not so focused on it. Most relationships come to be when you least expect it.

Wow. Have fun meeting women with that attitude, Katatonic.

Out of curiosity can sites like OKCupid be a useful tool for just meeting people in general? Not necessarily going straight to dating and relationships but finding local activities or social groups you have a common interest with?

I did look at Meetup and there just isn't very many groups listed in my area. I don't really relate that much to the few listed like the local Pagan Witches Meetup. Unfortunately I'm in a really rural area and I would eventually like to move out of here.