How to talk/act to girls?

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Heres some friendly tips coming from a girl who had to figure out how to communicate with girls. This is just friendwise, if you wanna know how to pick up a girl, date a girl, I cant tell you.

Dont act stupid, generally save the dumb jokes and stupidity for the guys, there are some girls that are cool with it but not all.

Dont talk about sex or dont make references to sex. If your a guy, you'll come across as a creep. Coming from my observations, the nature of conversation about sex amongst girls is very mature when they do talk about it.

Yes manners, try to be very nice and sweet.

Dont be blunt and upfront. If your gonna say something thats not so pleasant, sugercoat it as much as you can.

Dont insult them and try to keep the joking insults to a minimum. Many girls are sensative, even if they know the insults are joking too much of them will begin to get to them.

Try to be as agreeable as possible, girls like to be validated. Dont invalidate their opinions

Dont try to domineering and make them feel inferior.

Dont be nessarily be dishonest, cater your statements towards what they wanna hear.

You should show interest in her as a person instead of getting her to show interest in you. Also, the conversation should be about the things you are both interested in, not about you or about her. If the conversation is about either of you as a person, she will get weirded out. The conversation shouldn't be a big deal, because she isn't a big deal. She might be a big deal when you know her better. More pressure= less chance for success. It must flow naturally.

mindslave, you want the girl to show interest as well in you
you hit the nail on the head though, for autistic males approaching NT girls they are usually shy (too shy) to approach. things work out better for guys on the spectrum when the female puts the guy at ease - but then there's the problems associated by a lack of understanding of body language and tone of voice (both of which NTs use to subtly indicate interest)

how do you go about approaching a girl you like (directed to mindslave primarily, by extension open to others)

and yes conversation should be a bit about each person and more about things both of you are interested in. (but if you talked all day about that- is that really showing interest in other person or are you just going to bore them)

platonic friendships between man and woman are some of the best, especially when both people feel open about discussing anything (appropriate)

Remember that girls are closely watching and analyzing everything you say and do. They do this 5x to 10x more than men.

Last edited by Venger on 27 May 2011, 12:37 am, edited 1 time in total.

Very carefully? (Vague reference to a joke) First of all, let me just say that this is much easier said than done. There are so many factors that are involved, but chief among them is your reason for approaching her. Why do you like her? Your approach should reflect your reason for talking to her. Remember that if you walk up to a girl and approach her, you are setting something in motion. You are basically telling her that you are a social animal who isn't nervous about approaching women you are intimidated by. Can you sustain that? Starting a relationship under false pretenses is never a good thing. Typically we don't think of that as false pretenses, but it is. Any girl I've ever known, I didn't approach. In most cases, she approached me. I just put her at ease. So naturally I don't approach girls, because this isn't my strong suit. I just go out and do whatever it is that I'm doing, and if the situation lends itself towards a conversation with a girl, then so be it. It's less pressure that way, less pressure on both of us, and it's easier to sustain a friendship with less pressure.

If you approach a girl the way you see in the movies, you have to keep your foot on the gas, (because there is more pressure to succeed) and you probably don't know how to do that if you are asking how to approach girls. I don't know how to do that, but I know how it's done. If you feel comfortable walking up to a girl and saying something like "Hi, I haven't insulted you yet, have I?" and continue the conversation in that direction, with that theme, and put her at ease and not give her time to think, then she will sleep with you at the end of the night if you play your cards right. The trick is to show lots of interest for the first few minutes, but go back and forth like you aren't sure, test her mettle, then take her in the back and put your stamp of approval on her. This works because her confusion keeps her interested, and humans are curious creatures. It's a sneak attack, and it's not very nice, but it works. Of course, you can't sustain that type of thing into a workable relationship, which is why only womanizers use that approach. Salesmen do this as well, only they sell TVs.

Never try to be something that your not. Just be yourself women are easy to get a long with once your around them enough.

Generally I would say that this will work. Other people say roughly the same about dating.

But I often don't have the guts, and sometimes women are not waiting for my interest in them. It can actually be hard to talk with them.

Yesterday I saw a group of women, looking like the members of the band Kiss. They have painted their faces in the same way the members of Kiss once did. To the woman that has the same paint image like Gene Simmons, I stuck the tongue out (as a joke) and said: "Greet Gene Simmons from me!" She, smiling: "I will do that!"

Remember their limits when you are talking to them, and make sure to remind them of their limits if they forget.
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I'm kidding.

I love it. Especially hilarious because I'm currently involved in a discussion about how great kittens are (seriously)... with a woman.

tried all these things and still no luck

...not funny. More misogynist crap. I know it's satire but it's still insulting.

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