I was flipping channels a few years ago and came across a movie on IFC, the name of which I forget. There was a guy in it who appeared to be quite cynical and he made the statement, "Love is nothing more than a combination of sympathy and lust."
As much as I don't want to agree with this, I do-to a certain extent. Hasn't anyone here who has ever been in a starting relationship found that the faults of someone we're attracted to are endearing? When you are attracted to someone, don't we all feel like the strengths and aptitudes are admirable and inspiring and their weaknesses forgivable and workable? I know I have felt that way, especially since I have always felt that I am someone special (both short-bus special and uniquely special, heh).
Yet in the end, after the honeymoon period dissolves, I have far too frequently found that my hormones have gotten the best of me and the faults I felt that I could overlook and/or work with the woman to overcome turn out to be annoying and I find that the love I felt, well, it just doesn't cut it.
But I do agree with the preceding descriptions of the stages of love and types of love-for most folks. Perhaps it is because I am immature (and capable of overly romantic fantasies based on enormous release of hormones and what not) or perhaps it is because I am an aspie that I find myself over-analyzing how I should feel and when. This appears to have been a good reason why relationships haven't really worked all that well for me. Go figure.
And in the end I find that what I used to believe just isn't true: Love does not conquer all.
23 Aug 2006, 5:06 pm
