Girls boast about male promiscuity....

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If this is common here, and common in Canada, two civilizations that have little in common in term of location,culture, ethnicity and history, then the root cause of this discrepancy is most likely genetic-based.

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I've never noticed this. I'll have to pay closer attention the next time a girl talks about a guy shagging a bunch of chicks.

I always assumed it was disgust, but I do tend to read people wrong a lot.

I think a lot of people don't like to look at the mechanics that underlie male female relationships in too much detail, it does rather remove a lot of the romantic ideas people build up about them.

If that's your idea of sex, I can't imagine you're very good at it. This post makes me glad I'm a lesbian.

Not all guys think that sex is just the act of penetration.

well, i don't like to be confronted with what the herd does because then i feel like i am forced to accept it as being "normal". and i find ideas like these really distasteful, yet if they are "normal" then i should just suck it up and be fine with it. but i don't want to do that.

EDIT: wow typos.

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No, I think I understand what he's getting at. Women are all different, just as men are all different (although you'd struggle to tell sometimes with both sexes).

So you would rather be confused and think it's a strange thing to do than to understand the underlying cause?

It generally is disgust. Face of Boo is pointing out a very interesting exception which is when the girl and the guy are blood relatives.

A girl gains nothing when she pairs up with a man who is sleeping with lots of women and will continue to do so in the future. She gains something if he did that in the past but doesn't anymore; he has been vetted by other women as having something worthwhile. But if he does it in the present and will continue to do it in the future, she is best to avoid him. He will cheat on her and then his resources that would go to her child (with him) will have to be shared with other women. That's the genetic reason for the disgust.

But if the man in question is not a potential mate because he is a blood relative, then his conquests are seen in a very different light. His conquests spread her (family shared) DNA without her having to do any of the extra work of raising more children. That's a genetic reason for it, anyway.

Like Face of Boo also pointed out, this is pan-cultural. It doesn't matter if you are in Lebanon or Canada or anywhere else on the globe. I can't think of book titles off the top of my head (because it's been 20 years since I read them) but I think some feminist historians and anthropologists scoured the globe and historical records in search of any exceptions to this slut/player double standard (they didn't use that slang, but you know what I mean). They claim to have found evidence of matriarchal societies where this double standard didn't exist but this is controversial since they are accused of overreading into the evidence and inserting some wishful thinking. But what they wrote about was that this sexual double standard didn't exist when women were thought to be the major facilitators of reproduction and men's role was a little less defined (since women gave birth, after all), coinciding with goddess religions. And that the double standard came into existence as the goddess religions died out, monotheism was created, and women were seen as vessels for men's seed rather than the major reproductive force.

I have a sneaking suspicion that there are other posters here that can expand on this a great deal. I just dabbled many years ago. But anyway that's an explanation for the sexual double standard being global and also for women to be supportive of blood relative males who impregnate multiple women.

I don't think it's a coincidence that the more monotheistic (and theistic in general) a culture is, the more harshly this double standard is enforced.

IDK... I never boasted about my whore of a brother. I get the explanations here, but I still don't understand.

I had a female friend boast about how her friends' brother had reached 400 sex partners at the age of 26. Not only was I disgusted at the idea, I was disgusted that she found it kinda cool that a guy would be that attractive to females when as she put it "he's not even that hot, you just kinda wanna bang him anyway".
Why do women claim they are all attracted to different things when this guy living in a city of 100k people can manage a steady average of 1 girl a week since his 18'th birthday

Because they are. It doesn't stop them also being attracted to nonentities like him and other similar Jeremy Kyle-esque freakshows though.

some women may be genuinely attracted to a guy like that, but mostly they fall prey to the fact that he is most likely using manipulative PUA techniques in order to seduce them. i doubt that a man who has slept with over 400 women has much sincerity in his approach.

most women don't fall for that twice, but given his demographic he is probably able to keep finding fresh young women to fall for his tricks.

one other note - all 400 of those women could have been seeking the same kind of man too, and thought that he was that type of man... but i doubt it - i think he is a bit of a chameleon and pretends to be whatever he thinks the girls will want.

Good point and one I hadn't thought of. People like that are nasty individuals.

I would imagine a lot of the women wake up the next morning feeling very used.

yes. there are women who do that to men too, and it is just as terrible. most people don't actually want to be used, once they personally experience what that entails.

More that mate I been having a look this PUA its a bastard child of something I trained in NLP & really some of them techniques when used without integrity can be like Rohypnol!! I use my learning in NLP to help people, build long lasting relationships & make a positive change. I heard of too many abuses of Ericksonian hypnosis in the area of sexual relations.