At what age do most Aspies kiss for the very first time?

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Willingly - 19 (almost 20), forced - 15.

not sure what counts as a "kiss". my sister's boyfriend (age 13) used to take turns kissing her (age 12) and then me (age 10). there was no tongue, but it was lingering kisses on the mouth.

at age 12 i kissed a girl for the first time (she was 13), and even though it wasn't french-kissing either, it led to other things.

i had my first french kiss at age 15.

13.

Everyone in my class was doing it and my best friend got her first kiss which she kept talking about for a week.
One day we were taking a break from a homework assignment and she asked if I wanted to kiss her, she was very nice towards me and she was quite pretty so I saw no reason not to do it.

She then told me not to tell anyone and she told some people the following day just to see my reaction(we had been bantering around/hiding feelings for months).

It wasnt the best kiss ever but it was an enjoyable experience.

I did have my first kiss at 5-ish with some boy in my class, we used to hide in the school cloakrooms and kiss on the lips. :3
But I was 10 when I kissed someone properly with open mouths and that, he was 9 at the time.

I wish I knew how some aspies manage to decrypt the signals...

Direct asking maybe?
I'm guessing that would be the case for the under 14s anyway.

None. Completely untouched lol For some reason gals want me as friend and not as boyfriend. The thing is I don't know how to do boyfriend stuff only friend stuff because I never had a GF lol. So it's so hard... If I lived 10,000 years ago tho it would have been so easy to get a girl :

There was nothing to decrypt for me. It was quite obvious what he wanted from me.

Hmm but you do have Asperger right? Maybe because you are older than me you like gained experience on body language and all that and were ready when the time came?


For those of you who haven't kissed a girl and are older than 25, do you want to? Have you tried and been rejected? Or did you not try yet? Do you go on lots of dates?

Personally my last date was a disaster, she was willing to spend every evening having a walk with me but because I was so shy and never dared to go further she then started going out with the Headboy.
And the one before as I found out during the school ball was a lesbian! Why on earth did she agree to go to the school ball with me if she was a lesbian?

Now thinking back a girl did ask ME out once but she was so ugly and crazy that I refused. (You can't possibly imagine how messed up she was...)

I hope I do get another chance...

It's kind of hard to misinterpret someone's intentions when they're slobbering on your neck and groping your breasts.

I first learned about French kissing when I was 9. But I was forced. He was in his 40s or maybe older. I HATED it. After that, he would kiss me every chance he got. I dunno if he thought I liked it or if he thought if he'd make me enough I would learn to like it, but I never did. He was a horrible creep. I still don't really like it.

what a jerk that guy was. it's totally understandable for you to dislike kissing still.

He wanted a lot more than just to kiss me. But that's another story. From what I understand, he was quite the pedophile....at least accused of it. At any rate, he messed me up big time for life, because after I finally stood up to the creep, he went out & murdered a young guy in cold blood. He only got 3 years in prison before they released him on good behavior. He was pure evil & I really hope he's dead, & that he died or dies miserably. He deserves nothing less.

so he was so many people's worst nightmare. cold-blooded killer and pedo. if he kissed you like that, he qualified 100% in that category. i am glad that he did not get his way with you more so than that, though even what he did manage would be pretty damn traumatizing.

EDIT: sorry, i got pissed off at him and forgot to give you (((hugs)))

Thanks hyperlexian. I am still working on getting over that part of my past. Mom suspected it was happening (this went on for like 3 years), but she scared me so badly I never said anything to the authorities. She knew how to keep me quiet. He did those things to me right under both my parents' noses & even once had the bollocks to ask my dad permission to take me off in some trees. Dad ok'd it btw. So within just feet of my dad he was french kissing & groping me. It was gross.

I should also say that it's something that really upsets me when I hear stuff like this still happening to kids today. No child should have their innocence destroyed by a pedophile.