Do aspies attract each other?

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I've heard that while they might 'attract', those sorts of relationships tend not to be very stable.
And the ones that last are between like minded people.

I know I've got a bit of a thing for some of the other forumers

I agree in that like-minded people are more likely to attract. But I also try to keep an open mind.

Tim

I think aspies can be attracted to each other. I once had a crush on a girl I'm 99% sure has AS. But really, I think Louise and emc are right. It depends on everything from where on the spectrum to personal interests, et al. So its possible, but don't obssess over trying to find an aspy girl, if you can't find one, I can say that aspies can date NTs. I've done it twice, not to mention that most Aspies can't find another aspy in their area, and thus simply marry an NT.

~Chris

As far as dating other Aspies, I think one of the most pressing issue is the necessity of a long-distance relationship, in case no Aspie women are in the town where I am going to college. I am very flexible, I just don't know if the prospective mate is.

In a long distance relationship, here is what I feel should be the plan:

I will live wherever I will be going to college.

The mate should keep living where she is currently living, and I will try to visit her every year if possible (maybe more frequently if the distance is only 200-300 miles). The meetup would be in the summer (or spring break in the year that I have my summer internship).

After I get my Bachelor's degree, then the mate and I will decide where we would live.

Tim

I like geeky looking types. I don't know if that is the same. horses for courses.

i don't know if aspies particularily attract each other.

moreso i think that the aspie males are so desperate that they will take whatever.
and say, whatever to get some opposite sex attention.

I don't go out with just anyone, I would like someone with similar interests and similar beliefs about things. I won't go into detail here.

Tim

what about for sex?

are you as discriminating when it comes to the poontang?

I will only do it with someone I am in a committed relationship with.

Tim

Not all aspie males are desperate, at least i'm not, i've never had a girlfriend and i don't feel the need for one. (i'm 25 yo).

are you in the market for a boyfriend?

Sorry, you're not my type

I've been seeing a fellow Aspie for the last six weeks now and it's just, well, cruising along nicely. It's a bit unusual though, first time with an Aspie for either of us and it takes a bit of getting used to each other's quirks...

pretty please....

I'm 24 and had suspected that I was an Aspie for a few months. So I met this girl, and for some inexplicable reason I just had to talk to her. I did, and we've been, I suppose, 'dating' for 4 months now. Over that time, I've seen a lot of the classic signs of AS/HFA in her and her siblings that I cannot objectively observe in myself.

We have a lot in common:

We like the same type of music
We're both vegetarian
We find each other's humor amusing
We both make lists (her a lot more)

When I tell her that I think I'm boring her or talking to much, she reassures me. She's the very quiet type, so I reassure her when she runs out of things to say.

In my mind, we're right at the point were my main obsession may start to interfere with our relationship, and I'm a quite worried.