I don't want a girlfriend when I'm older.

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I have a girlfriend and it's nice to have one.
I wil defenately not go without one ever again

When i was a kid i used to say i'd never wanna have a gf or get married.
I thought that way up til like 14.
At that age most people were already into kissing.

I want a boyfriend now.

I did have one before but I broke up with him because he was too independent on people and he wouldn't do anything to help himself and he wanted people to do everything for him. He wouldn't study for his driver's license and he complained all the time and he started to complain to me how he has to pay me for gas money. He used to not mind it until June, he started to say it was ret*d. He wanted a mother, not a girlfriend because he wanted me to tell him when to study for his license, do this do that and I don’t want a guy whom I’m going to have to nag for the rest of my life to get him to do things like he’s my own child instead of a husband. Also he made up excuse not to do things and I didn’t like his politics. Also whenever we argue, he wouldn’t want to keep talking about it or the problem wouldn’t get solved but we were arguing about something we didn’t agree with. I told him on the phone, “What is there to solve, we don’t agree so it’s redundant to keep arguing and fighting over something we don’t agree with. We’re not going to change our minds. I had to pretend I agreed with you to get you to shut up.”
I also told him that was the reason why I broke up with him because I don’t want to be with a guy for the rest of my life who is going to shove things in my face and not stop until I agree with it and then I asked him why am I not allowed to have my own opinions. He said am too and I asked him then why did he keep shoving his politics in my face and other sh!t and he said “You will never know, you might change your mind if you would just listen and not interrupt me.” Also when he wanted something, he keep asking for it until you gave in and it angered my parents. They didn’t give in on him but got annoyed by him and me I had to threaten him to get him to stop. I’d tell him if I heard another word about it or if he asks me that question one more time, I’d scream and he wouldn’t ask me it anymore. One thing that angered me was he was one of those people who refuses to look up information on something to learn more about it because he thinks he already knows what it is. He refused to look up aspergers and read about it and he said but it wouldn’t be telling about me it wouldn’t be telling about Beth (me) and I told him but it would help him understand me better and he would find some that sounds like me and some others not. I think it was one of his excuses of not looking it up. Heck when I was first diagnosed with it, my mother had to read about it to understand me better. She had another staff person (where she worked) look the information up for her because we didn’t have internet and she didn’t have the time to look it up because she had special ed kids to take care of and she printed out the information and put it in a folder and gave it to her and Mom looked it through and highlighted the most important stuff that was me. Jeff (my ex boyfriend) assumed everything I did was AS. Because he would compare me to his friends. I’d do something none of his friends ever did like getting mad at him as they’re talking and I would.

Now I’m out looking for other guys to meet. I drove 60 miles to meet a guy I met on myspace and we walked around and went to three second hand stores, went to his apartment and talked but I did most of the chatting. I asked random stuff.
I do not plan on meeting my next guys and jumping to a relationship right away and having sex like I did with Jeff. Even if they say sex is just sex and it wouldn’t matter if we broke up because it’s just sex. I’m just going to take it slow since I’ve had my first bf.

I don't really want one, either. I cannot stand the sound of kissing, nor can I stomach "cutesy" talk shared by so many couples.

I guess it's the brothel for me.

I'm asexual but still very much romantic.

The fact that sex doesn't rule my love life doesn't mean I'm not interested in pursuing romance.

King Charles XII of Sweden probably never had a woman, although he was the most famous ruler and warrior in Europe at that time. Many princesses wanted to marry him, but he turned them all down. His warfare was more important to him. In Sweden he's known as the Warrior King, because he fought wars half his life, from he was 18 to 36, when he got killed at an invasion of Norway. He successfully defended Sweden against Denmark, Poland and Russia at the same time. He also was very good at maths, languages and history. He's either admired or hated by most Swedes, because after his death, Sweden lost its position as a great power in Europe and lots of people died either in the wars or because of starvation. Many modern psychiatrists think he had Asperger's...

It seems to me that having a significant other is a very useful, and rewarding thing. Not that I have any firsthand experience mind you.

I have seen a few good relationships. (And a lot more bad relationships)


I think there's something in the human psyche that really needs companionship.


When two people that have real depth are in a relationship it's really something that has a lot of value.

And that's what I'm after.

I wouldn't mind having one now, and I wouldn't mind having one when I'm 106, and probably for most of the time in between.

The problem is, I can't find anybody interesting, let alone compatible. I don't want to be with anybody who is like any of my exes, and, as far as I can tell, there isn't anybody who isn't like them.

So I'm better off alone until someone figures out that there's more to life than booze and babies.

I'd like to be with the right type of relationship so I'd say that I'd want to be in a relationship with a female NT who can understand my needs and that I don't mess it up for myself thinking that is my only chance.