Inner beauty : a myth?

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A trip to the detail shop will make it pretty, but that's for you.
Get an oil change and a tune-up and it will return your love 10-fold in breakdown-free travel.

Inner Beauty is not a myth, it is in the eye of the beholder.

I resent the implication that it's broken down! It just sort of...doesn't like to accelerate...

Yeah, a tune-up will make it scoot down the road just like it's 'spose to.

Inner beauty is very real.

People flock to people that are beautiful on the inside.

There have been some reasonable looking girls that are absolutley rotten on the inside that I know.. I just hope they get their comeuppance.

Inner beauty relates to the emotional self, the core thats deep down which not only isn't on your wrist exactly but often enough people can't even fully see whats there unless they've spent a long time getting to know you. Yeah, its a very complex and intimate thing to who you are and a lot of people find there need being someone who really sees and appreciates their inner beauty, even if they aren't hard up for outer looks.

Inner beauty is real and desirable, but outer beauty is important too. As idealistic as we'd like things to be, outer beauty can't be ignored.

Yes, A lot of things go into the scales, but is it a purely AS thing to think that the superficial (That's surface, not trivial) counts for too much, too often?

If I'm not careful, (and possibly even then) I can be biased by bad speech or an extreme accent. Even on message boards, by bad typing. Or a manner which is just culturally different.

I once knew a man dying of motor neurone disease. He could barely grunt, and drooled incessantly.
If you didn't know, you'd instinctively have considered him a near vegetable.
I played chess with him twice a week, and he beat me two games out of three.
And I played for my university.

I never meant 'we' to mean aspies, just people in general. I know there are some people who think that AS leads a person to become more 'deep', but I think that's wishful thinking.

sadly the AS lack of social skills makes it hard for us to show much inner beauty, even if we have a lot...

The problem I have with the concept of "inner beauty" is that it is necessarily contrasted with "outer beauty" and I tend not to see much of a distinction between the two if I'm interested in a person romantically. If I see a "hot" girl and then talk to her and realize she's really not all that bright, she automatically becomes less attractive to me. The same would be true were I to know someone in a purely intellectual way (for example, though the internet) and then met them in person and found them not to my liking physically. There's many aspects of beauty and the physical form is one of them, as is a great intellect. So while I do go more by "inner beauty" as opposed to looks, I don't believe that it is seperate from "outer beauty."

Asperger's doesn't cause people to be more deep, but it does mean that we have to struggle harder. Sometimes the odds seem insurmountable. It's hard to go through this without getting some depth. This does not mean that they are deep, just less shallow.

In otherwords, they're like a little creak, rather than a puddle (which is what many people's level of depth is).

I have to elaborate, inner beauty is probably far more of an introvert concept than an extrovert concept. Its very real, though if your weighing its presence in people purely on its value in the dating scene it has far less to do with how well you sell with the opposit sex as much as how well you anchor with the friends you make. For me I've had a great deal of long term friends who I've known for years because of it, trouble is it takes someone who has it or at least some degree of introversion to go along with that (even if they seem like predominant extroverts) to see it in you. As for the opposit sex, at least as a guy, I find that while the women who do get to know me and can understand it do have some degree of admiration and respect for me over it it's almost completely neither here nor there in respect to whether or not they're sexually attracted. If anything usually if you come off as that intelligent altruistic outsider with a lot of inner beauty and/or wisdom your more often putting yourself in a completely nonsexual social role with them (they might feel weird about feeling attracted to a guy who they connect with in a mentor kind of way).