Do I write her or not?

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I've tried hundreds of women, with the same result. It would be absurd for me to assume something is wrong with all of them for not wanting me, and so it must be that something is wrong with me, that I am not worthy, dateable, loveable. So I must change and make myself better and more desireable...making money, getting a better place to live, improving my athleticism, and building a name for myself as a respected member of the film industry. I have come to believe I as who I am is not someone any girl would want, and so I must accrue as must external proof of worth, which I am doing. Surely she or someone will see I am worthy.

But hundreds of attempts, only half a dozen first dates, no second dates? There's something wrong with that, and it can't be the fault of all of them, so the fault must be me. And so it seems there is something about me I must fix to be dateable. Damned if I knew what, so I just try to remake myself in every way, to be the kind of person a girl would want.

I just go for women who are intelligent and have a few common interests to me. I'm a competitive runner, and like someone who pursues SOME kind of physical activity...doesn't matter what...just not sedentary.

I don't think that's too crazy demanding.

If you want to improve yourself you should work on your personality, not material external validating BS. Clothes don't make you the man, only the right mindset does.

Did any of these hundreds or girls happen to be asked out by you on a dating site?
Because people have way high standards over the internet.