WHAT QUALITIES DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN?
In no particular order: Health, Hygeine, Intelligence, Tolerance, Education, Talent, Compassion, Loyalty, Patience, Sobriety, Cheerfulness, Cooperation, and a passionate love for me.
Physically? A little more difficult to decide ... not too fat and not too thin (I'd like to get my arms around her) ... not too tall and not too short (I'd rather not stretch or stoop for a kiss) ... no surgical "enhancements" or missing parts (I like women that are naturally beautiful) ... and if she can dance, do yoga, or exercise regularly enough to keep fit, then we'll be together for a long time!
Because, up to a few decades ago, our culture was predominantly patriarchal. Women were seen as useless baby-factories, while man were responsible for running the world. No one gave a sh** about women.
Judging by our society's patriarchal background, it would probably mean "shut up and bring me a beer. You b*****s ain't allowed to have an opinion."
I define true manliness as having a penis, despite your sexual orientation (and despite any mutilations yoiu may have suffered). Being a highly logical individual with Asperger's syndrome (I refuse to use the term "aspie"), I have little patience for any meaning besides the biological one. In other words, and answering your question, biologists are the only "true arbiters of real manliness".
You made me think about some extreme Muslims in the last century..
I am very curious which your culture is.
I am afraid if you will blame me for speaking. Therefore please think I am a man.
Actually, I stopped looking at that topic when it had reached the 2nd page. Since no one seemed to have read my reply, I thought my reply was not worthy of attention.
Honestly, I didn't think my reply would spark controversy (if you consider two people commenting on it to be controversy). I'm actually an extremely liberal atheist and a feminist. If you read my post in that topic, you'll see I never said I agreed with the male-dominated society of old. I was only citing examples which I thought to be the reason we use expressions like "man up" and "grow a pair". I thought my use of quotes and verbs in the past tense would be enough to avoid misunderstandings.
As for my opinion on the "definition of manliness", I stand by it. Man, woman, male, female... They are all words defining people (or animals or plants) based on their reproductive organs. Outside of sex and motherhood, there is nothing I can think that requires someone to be a man or woman. A female president would be no better or worse than a male, and the same rule applies to doctors, teachers, lawyers, janitors and every other job there is. In other words, I'm all for gender equality, because gender is nothing more than a biological concept that shouldn't have so much influence on the way our society works.
Damn, I really didn't mean to sound like a male chauvinist. I think I owe an excuse to women in general. I'm really sorry about any misunderstandings I may have caused. Honestly, I'm very ashamed. It's not the first time something like that happened, but that is no excuse.
You are not.. It was my awful misunderstanding. I am very sorry for that, and it should be obvious to me. You are from Latin America, where the Islam seems has not grown yet...
Probably I was supersensitive on that issue, and the words you used have shocked me...
But you surprised me for you saying you are a feminist, and made me suddenly think about the Suffragettes... I hope you are a mild one because I cannot see the reason for being an extreme feminist nowadays. Apart from...Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani.. But I still think her case should be a religious one or on the human right issue, instead of feminism...
I can understand your view now..therefore, please forget it and forgive my misunderstanding (it was from a woman, at least )
Probably I was supersensitive on that issue, and the words you used have shocked me...
But you surprised me for you saying you are a feminist, and made me suddenly think about the Suffragettes... I hope you are a mild one because I cannot see the reason for being an extreme feminist nowadays. Apart from...Sakineh Mohammadi Ashtiani.. But I still think her case should be a religious one or on the human right issue, instead of feminism...
I can understand your view now..therefore, please forget it and forgive my misunderstanding (it was from a woman, at least )
No problem. I'm prone to expressing myself in improper ways. Maybe I should tone down my bluntness: it causes too much trouble for me.
As for my feminism, it's nothing out of the ordinary: I simply agree with the feminists' view on gender equality. I'm not the kind of person who would go out on the streets and fight for civil rights. I think our current society doesn't require such extreme measures anymore, fortunately.
By the way, the qualities I look for in a woman are:
- Beauty: yeah, I know it sounds shallow, but I think I'm allowed to have my preferences, ok? I pay more attention to the face of a person, even though I rarely look someone in the eyes. Weight and body measures don't really matter, as long as she is curvy enough and not too thin or too fat. Obviously, this criteria also includes hygiene, which is mandatory;
- independence: I abhor the idea of depending on somebody. I wouldn't mind helping (or asking for help) the woman in question, as long as she wasn't depending on me on purpose. I would never willingly depend on somebody else and I expect everybody to think like me on this matter;
- inquisitiveness: when I'm interested in something, I will begin a search for knowledge on the topic. It could be anything: a new language, physics, biochemistry, robotics, programming. Few things are better than sharing knowledge;
- mutual interests: this kind of mix up with inquisitiveness, since searching for knowledge is one of my interests. But I also like swimming, parkour, martial arts, movies, theater, comics and video games (of course, I know it's absurd to expect to find a girlfriend who would like to play Wii Sports and talk about autism with me, but I can dream, right? );
- sense of humor: I love snide remarks, nonsense and plain old silly, childish humor;
- physically active: as you can see from my interests, I like physical exercises. A woman who likes exercises would be a big plus;
- acceptance: this is probably the most important of all. I'm weird, there's no denying. But I'm a likeable person, once you see past my weirdness. Of course, I wouldn't want a woman who simply accepted my quirks without questioning: I would expect her to point out the more unpleasant ones for me to improve myself.
And that's all. Of course, I know it's next to impossible to find a woman with all these qualities, therefore, I would settle for beauty, acceptance and any one of the others.
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- Beauty: yeah, I know it sounds shallow, but I think I'm allowed to have my preferences, ok? I pay more attention to the face of a person, even though I rarely look someone in the eyes. Weight and body measures don't really matter, as long as she is curvy enough and not too thin or too fat;
- independence: I abhor the idea of depending on somebody. I wouldn't mind helping (or asking for help) the woman in question, as long as she wasn't depending on me on purpose. I would never willingly depend on somebody else and I expect everybody to think like me on this matter;
- inquisitiveness: when I'm interested in something, I will begin a search for knowledge on the topic. It could be anything: a new language, physics, biochemistry, robotics, programming. Few things are better than sharing knowledge;
- mutual interests: this kind of mix up with inquisitiveness, since searching for knowledge is one of my interests. But I also like swimming, parkour, martial arts, movies, theater, comics and video games (of course, I know it's absurd to expect to find a girlfriend who would like to play Wii Sports and talk about autism with me, but I can dream, right? );
- physically active: as you can see from my interests, I like physical exercises. A woman who likes exercises would be a big plus;
- acceptance: this is probably the most important of all. I'm weird, there's no denying. But I'm a likeable person, once you see past my weirdness. Of course, I wouldn't want a woman who simply accepted my quirks without questioning: I would expect her to point out the more unpleasant ones for me to improve myself.
And that's all. Of course, I know it's next to impossible to find a woman with all these qualities, therefore, I would settle for beauty, acceptance and any one of the others.
Awww, if only you were 20 years older!! !
- Beauty: yeah, I know it sounds shallow, but I think I'm allowed to have my preferences, ok? I pay more attention to the face of a person, even though I rarely look someone in the eyes. Weight and body measures don't really matter, as long as she is curvy enough and not too thin or too fat;
- independence: I abhor the idea of depending on somebody. I wouldn't mind helping (or asking for help) the woman in question, as long as she wasn't depending on me on purpose. I would never willingly depend on somebody else and I expect everybody to think like me on this matter;
- inquisitiveness: when I'm interested in something, I will begin a search for knowledge on the topic. It could be anything: a new language, physics, biochemistry, robotics, programming. Few things are better than sharing knowledge;
- mutual interests: this kind of mix up with inquisitiveness, since searching for knowledge is one of my interests. But I also like swimming, parkour, martial arts, movies, theater, comics and video games (of course, I know it's absurd to expect to find a girlfriend who would like to play Wii Sports and talk about autism with me, but I can dream, right? );
- physically active: as you can see from my interests, I like physical exercises. A woman who likes exercises would be a big plus;
- acceptance: this is probably the most important of all. I'm weird, there's no denying. But I'm a likeable person, once you see past my weirdness. Of course, I wouldn't want a woman who simply accepted my quirks without questioning: I would expect her to point out the more unpleasant ones for me to improve myself.
And that's all. Of course, I know it's next to impossible to find a woman with all these qualities, therefore, I would settle for beauty, acceptance and any one of the others.
Awww, if only you were 20 years older!! !
I can wear a fake beard, if you want.
I can wear a fake beard, if you want.
Oh, and 4800 miles more northwest. Is that so much to ask?
Of course, I don't speak much Portuguese (beyond food, I'm useless), but there are a TON of Brazilians who've settled in my area.
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btw, I prefer small to average butts, and I was kidding about the color (duh! Me Mr.obvious).
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