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04 Aug 2011, 9:31 pm

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1. What things do you consider to be cheating?


> there is a sliding scale from eye sex to actual sex; the line is drawn at a broken heart

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2. Are you the type who has no problem compromising, or are you the type who has to dominate/be dominated (regarding sex, finances, lifestyles, etc.) Note that I wasn't referring to BDSM, or that type of dominating.


> enjoy the power struggle, helps one grow

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3. What things constitute signs of weakness in a partner?


> i'm of the mind we love peoples flaws

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4. If the lifestyles of you and your partner are opposite one another, how would you deal with that?


> one step at a time; opposites attract, no?



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04 Aug 2011, 10:01 pm

I don't give a f**k about what women think. You want love, get a hooker.


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05 Aug 2011, 12:29 am

Giftorcurse wrote:
I don't give a f**k about what women think. You want love, get a hooker.


Someone needs a nap.


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22 Aug 2011, 4:43 pm

I'm serious.


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22 Aug 2011, 5:41 pm

Stoicism


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22 Aug 2011, 9:02 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
1. What things do you consider to be cheating?


Hiding from me an intimate relationship from me rather than getting permission, or acting in ways I've explicitly asked him not to do.

it's explicitly lying and hiding that makes it cheating, not the actions themselves. He can have another girlfriend and that's completely fine (in fact in some ways preferable), but if this was without my knowledge, then it'd be cheating. Similarly, if he asked for permission to have sex with someone, then it'd not be cheating, if this was done without talking to me and hidden from me then it'd be cheating.

Loving someone else is explicitly not cheating. Feelings aren't cheating, hiding actions are.

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2. Are you the type who has no problem compromising, or are you the type who has to dominate/be dominated (regarding sex, finances, lifestyles, etc.) Note that I wasn't referring to BDSM, or that type of dominating.


It varies, I can't stand making decisions, but I'm fine with compromising as well. I mean, he also hates making decisions so its necessary sometimes so anything happens :p.

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3. What things constitute signs of weakness in a partner?


Not being true to themselves.

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4. If the lifestyles of you and your partner are opposite one another, how would you deal with that?


I can't understand the concept of this happening.



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22 Aug 2011, 10:12 pm

Giftorcurse wrote:
I'm serious.


Therein lies the comedy/tragedy.


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23 Aug 2011, 11:21 am

Tim_Tex wrote:
This isn't another one of those "what qualities do you look for?" threads. Rather, this is a "what are your views on certain relationship-related issues?"

Here are some questions that would fit that description:

1. What things do you consider to be cheating?

2. Are you the type who has no problem compromising, or are you the type who has to dominate/be dominated (regarding sex, finances, lifestyles, etc.) Note that I wasn't referring to BDSM, or that type of dominating.

3. What things constitute signs of weakness in a partner?

4. If the lifestyles of you and your partner are opposite one another, how would you deal with that?

I may come up with more, and feel free to come up with some questions of your own.


1) anything your partner says
2) i hate compromising and will do anything possible to avoid it, but i still do it
3) lots of things are signs of weakness, but who cares? everybody has so many weaknesses and thats why we need a partner in the first place.
4)lifestyles? like she's a crack addict and i'm a buddhist monk? If our lifestyles were different why would we be together?