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04 Sep 2006, 1:59 pm

Man, she's asexual? Good thing I didn't hook up with her then.


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04 Sep 2006, 2:50 pm

I can't believe that you got an aspie girl and are staying asexual. That's like hitting Golconda and saying that you're morally against mining.


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04 Sep 2006, 3:35 pm

subatai_baadur wrote:
I can't believe that you got an aspie girl and are staying asexual. That's like hitting Golconda and saying that you're morally against mining.



i dont consider my self asexual at all, but i would rather be in a relationship with a girl and not getting any than alone and not getting any.



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04 Sep 2006, 3:48 pm

lastwish wrote:
subatai_baadur wrote:
I can't believe that you got an aspie girl and are staying asexual. That's like hitting Golconda and saying that you're morally against mining.



i dont consider my self asexual at all, but i would rather be in a relationship with a girl and not getting any than alone and not getting any.


I agree with that. But It would be a formula for sadness if we (me and you) did hook up
with an asexual girl and we wanted a closer relationship later. In other words it might
be better to be alone.



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04 Sep 2006, 4:03 pm

Shadowgirl wrote:
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LePetitPrince wrote:
u may turn to heterosexual .....
in fact you both heterosexual in denial ....let me clarify : why you picked an "asexual" girl and not an "asexual" guy?why you loved a girl and not guy? Then you both have hidden heterosexual feelings ...and please don't understand me wrong i mean that as seomthing good ;)

good luck for you both
AVEN will help you understand this better. I know you weren't trying to be mean, but please check out AVEN and read up on asexuality. We could get sexual, but it's not something we expect.


and the chances are 0 to none.
Exactly. ;)

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I'm curious about this kinda relationship to. Like mine and Werbert's joking post
(we know what asexual means) seem to not get any LOL (what we live for!) which got
me thinking do you two enjoy humor?
Uh, your posts weren't very funny...

Maybe you guys live for sex, but Shadowgirl and I don't. ;)

DirtDawg wrote:
This is great! I wish you two the best.

Certainly, your freedom from one major source of potential problems, anxiety, insecurity and jealousy from your relationship should give you a better than average chance of success.

Good luck!
Thanks!

TheBladeRoden wrote:
Man, she's asexual? Good thing I didn't hook up with her then.
You have one sick mind if you'd honestly admit that...

subatai_baadur wrote:
I can't believe that you got an aspie girl and are staying asexual. That's like hitting Golconda and saying that you're morally against mining.
I never said sex was immoral. I just don't want any for myself. I prefer to get intimate in other ways.

lastwish wrote:
i dont consider my self asexual at all, but i would rather be in a relationship with a girl and not getting any than alone and not getting any.
Well, asexuals don't desire sex. We just don't have the cravings.

TheMachine1 wrote:
I agree with that. But It would be a formula for sadness if we (me and you) did hook up
with an asexual girl and we wanted a closer relationship later. In other words it might
be better to be alone.
Sex doesn't necessarily mean a closer relationship. Look how many sexual marriages end in divorce, for example. ;)



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04 Sep 2006, 5:21 pm

gnulinuxman wrote:
Shadowgirl wrote:
gnulinuxman wrote:

LePetitPrince wrote:
u may turn to heterosexual .....
in fact you both heterosexual in denial ....let me clarify : why you picked an "asexual" girl and not an "asexual" guy?why you loved a girl and not guy? Then you both have hidden heterosexual feelings ...and please don't understand me wrong i mean that as seomthing good ;)

good luck for you both
AVEN will help you understand this better. I know you weren't trying to be mean, but please check out AVEN and read up on asexuality. We could get sexual, but it's not something we expect.


and the chances are 0 to none.
Exactly. ;)

TheMachine1 wrote:
I'm curious about this kinda relationship to. Like mine and Werbert's joking post
(we know what asexual means) seem to not get any LOL (what we live for!) which got
me thinking do you two enjoy humor?
Uh, your posts weren't very funny...

Maybe you guys live for sex, but Shadowgirl and I don't. ;)

DirtDawg wrote:
This is great! I wish you two the best.

Certainly, your freedom from one major source of potential problems, anxiety, insecurity and jealousy from your relationship should give you a better than average chance of success.

Good luck!
Thanks!

TheBladeRoden wrote:
Man, she's asexual? Good thing I didn't hook up with her then.
You have one sick mind if you'd honestly admit that...

subatai_baadur wrote:
I can't believe that you got an aspie girl and are staying asexual. That's like hitting Golconda and saying that you're morally against mining.
I never said sex was immoral. I just don't want any for myself. I prefer to get intimate in other ways.

lastwish wrote:
i dont consider my self asexual at all, but i would rather be in a relationship with a girl and not getting any than alone and not getting any.
Well, asexuals don't desire sex. We just don't have the cravings.

TheMachine1 wrote:
I agree with that. But It would be a formula for sadness if we (me and you) did hook up
with an asexual girl and we wanted a closer relationship later. In other words it might
be better to be alone.
Sex doesn't necessarily mean a closer relationship. Look how many sexual marriages end in divorce, for example. ;)

I know that you're not morally opposed, but my point was that you've hit the jackpot with an aspie girl and have decided to not take it. You won the lottery, took the money, and threw it all in the nearest lake.


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04 Sep 2006, 5:35 pm

subatai_baadur wrote:
I know that you're not morally opposed, but my point was that you've hit the jackpot with an aspie girl and have decided to not take it. You won the lottery, took the money, and threw it all in the nearest lake.
You're sick...



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04 Sep 2006, 5:42 pm

I hope your relationship lasts a long time!! :D



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04 Sep 2006, 5:48 pm

gnulinuxman wrote:
subatai_baadur wrote:
I know that you're not morally opposed, but my point was that you've hit the jackpot with an aspie girl and have decided to not take it. You won the lottery, took the money, and threw it all in the nearest lake.
You're sick...


Thats kinda extreme to say about what he said. You posted the details of your sexuality
here so I assumed you were comfortable talking about it. Your smart and know your in
a small minority (asexual).

I think everybody feels if this is what you two wants thats cool. The comments are coming because we can not understand the asexual concept. And yes I have a one
track mine focused on sex. Part of what its going to take for us to understand you is
for you to get very comfortable with talking about this. I mean if you have to fake a
LOL it could bring down alot of walls here.



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04 Sep 2006, 5:52 pm

gnulinuxman wrote:
TheBladeRoden wrote:
Man, she's asexual? Good thing I didn't hook up with her then.
You have one sick mind if you'd honestly admit that...

Well, would you recommend that asexuals get into relationships with very heterosexuals? I wouldn't. I think it's asking for trouble later on.


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04 Sep 2006, 6:05 pm

en_una_isla wrote:
I hope your relationship lasts a long time!! :D
Thank you! :D

TheMachine1 wrote:
Thats kinda extreme to say about what he said. You posted the details of your sexuality
here so I assumed you were comfortable talking about it. Your smart and know your in
a small minority (asexual).

I think everybody feels if this is what you two wants thats cool. The comments are coming because we can not understand the asexual concept. And yes I have a one
track mine focused on sex. Part of what its going to take for us to understand you is
for you to get very comfortable with talking about this. I mean if you have to fake a
LOL it could bring down alot of walls here.
I'm not uncomfortable with the topic of asexuality. I am more upset about some of the things that were said here ("Maybe you'll change..." "That's like throwing your jackpot in the lake..."...) We asexuals are tired of getting those same lines over and over again and think they're kinda rude.

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TheBladeRoden wrote:
Man, she's asexual? Good thing I didn't hook up with her then.
You have one sick mind if you'd honestly admit that...

Well, would you recommend that asexuals get into relationships with very heterosexuals? I wouldn't. I think it's asking for trouble later on.
No, but it wasn't the best idea to put it that way. ;)



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04 Sep 2006, 6:17 pm

Well I'm comparing asexuality as an alternative lifestyle to homosexuality. The homosexual I have meet (no not in a park mens room at night) seem to be very
willing to joke about homosexuality. I'm getting the vibe you can not joke about it
for reasons related to why you are asexual (the physical/mental mechanism). For
example and do not get mad have you had your testosterone levels checked?



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04 Sep 2006, 6:27 pm

TheMachine1 wrote:
Well I'm comparing asexuality as an alternative lifestyle to homosexuality. The homosexual I have meet (no not in a park mens room at night) seem to be very
willing to joke about homosexuality. I'm getting the vibe you can not joke about it
for reasons related to why you are asexual (the physical/mental mechanism). For
example and do not get mad have you had your testosterone levels checked?
The reason I am offended by your so-called "jokes" is that we are constantly bombarded by sexual messages in our culture and most of us are sick of them. Whenever we tell people we're asexual, we get laughs (especially if we're male). It's just annoying.



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04 Sep 2006, 7:21 pm

gnulinuxman wrote:
TheMachine1 wrote:
Well I'm comparing asexuality as an alternative lifestyle to homosexuality. The homosexual I have meet (no not in a park mens room at night) seem to be very
willing to joke about homosexuality. I'm getting the vibe you can not joke about it
for reasons related to why you are asexual (the physical/mental mechanism). For
example and do not get mad have you had your testosterone levels checked?
The reason I am offended by your so-called "jokes" is that we are constantly bombarded by sexual messages in our culture and most of us are sick of them. Whenever we tell people we're asexual, we get laughs (especially if we're male). It's just annoying.


Now we are making progress. Part of how you describe asexuality would be very much the same way a fundementalist religious person would define pre-martial sex or even
sexuality after marriage. Though the biggest difference being your not making a moral
judgement or maybe you are? In that context sure I would not joke with a young
fundementalist christian couple about having a 3 way.



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04 Sep 2006, 9:24 pm

I'm sick? How the hell am I sick? If you asexual types want to start throwing around insults, then I'll encourage FOX to lose the semblence of decency and just go for hard core porn.


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05 Sep 2006, 4:29 am

subatai_baadur wrote:
I'm sick? How the hell am I sick? If you asexual types want to start throwing around insults, then I'll encourage FOX to lose the semblence of decency and just go for hard core porn.
What the hell do you call your judgement of how Shadowgirl and I choose to live?