what according to you is more important in a relationship?

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Emotional attachment comes later right? I said intellectual stimulation because I'd be bored without it, emotional attachment at that point is a bit pie-in-the-sky.

I'll pick intellectual as long as its balanced with goofy. Being serious all the time can get old real fast.

I'd pick emotional attachment. I'm dyslexic & I really struggled with lots of my classes. I'm really stupid sometimes when it comes to intellectual stuff; I'm worse than an NT in areas Aspies are supposed to be great in. Being less intelligent in typical ways can really confuse & frustrate me sometimes. My girlfriend is very smart but we do not really have intellectual conversations(maybe because I'm not smart in typical ways) however we both really like & care about each other & that's what's important to us

I go with good intellectual chemistry every time because emotions are so variable that I don't think a relationship would last without something more solid to hold it together.

I see, so for most people its like a feed back loop -- intellectual stimulation feeding emotional attachment.

intellectual, emotional not so much except maybe cuddling. i usually hold mine in. nobody needs to hear my problems. hopefully i will someday be problemless, the only problem will be not having any.

That's not possible and not healthy to think that way. A better goal would be to become better at handling the problems life will inevitably throw my way in a manner that causes the least pain to me and those around me.

I'd consider neither most important.... for me common interests and compatible personality to top the list.... I guess common interests is closer to intellectual stimulation than emotional attachment,

Which is more important depends on the stage of the relationship. Intellectual stimulation has a way of rousing the emotions. Once you are emotionally attached, the intellectual discussions aren't quite as important (though still important) to a healthy relationship.

I picked emotional attachment. Mostly, this is because it's more important for a longer period of time.

This. +1000

What would you guys consider Intellectual stimulation/discussion like what is the definition of it. I may be thinking of something different than you guys are. I'm thinking of two nerds having a conversation about math formulas, engineering or physics

It could be anything -- the idea is to just give the brain some food for thought.. or debate on different topics if interest.

I agree.

Would having non-boring conversation talking for hours be it I'll comment more if this is it

I think that you need both intellect and emotions in a relationship. But an emotional connection is a bit more important to me because there's no real relationship without it.

This exactly, although other things feed emotional attachment for me.
Both are important IMO.