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14 Aug 2011, 12:35 pm

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When a female belly aches about being lonely, guys jump at the chance of "getting laid by a desperato". They figure if she's that lonely, their chances of getting to the beef without spending a whole lot of cash is VERY possible. Women, on the other hand, figure that if a guy is SO lonely, he must be a loser. NOBODY is a loser. Life and love are chance things. Do you jump at the chance of going out with a girl who complains she's lonely?

I jumped at the chance of getting a date when I heard women talk about being lonely. It was NEVER about trying to to get laid for me. I'm a borderline asexual. I was desperate for love NOT sex & those desperate women would not even give me half a chance

That's where I was coming from too. They never gave me the benefit of the doubt.

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14 Aug 2011, 2:45 pm

What a surprise. Those awful women....

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14 Aug 2011, 2:50 pm

I noticed that in Erisad vs. ToadOfSteel.

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14 Aug 2011, 4:25 pm

nick007 wrote:

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Same thing.

You're still seeking another human to stimulate the release of "feel good" chemicals in your brain.

Whether it's achieved through carnal monkey sex, or wine, roses, and long chats on the phone about nothing at 0300, "using" someone to make yourself happy is still "using" them.

BTW, a woman being "lonely" does not mean she is willing to love/have sex with whatever crawls out of the swamp. Even "lonely" people have standards, probably more so for females whose biology makes the consequences of sex much higher.

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14 Aug 2011, 5:25 pm

XFilesGeek wrote:

That argument cuts both ways.
A woman's exhibition of loneliness is also a means of coping with the chemicals in her brain.
Her pursuit of sympathy and affirmation is also the pursuit of endorphins, dopamine, etc.

XFilesGeek wrote:

BTW, a woman being "lonely" does not mean she is willing to love/have sex with whatever crawls out of the swamp.

For the record, I crawled out of the tidepools.

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14 Aug 2011, 5:32 pm

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BTW, a woman being "lonely" does not mean she is willing to love/have sex with whatever crawls out of the swamp. Even "lonely" people have standards, probably more so for females whose biology makes the consequences of sex much higher.

I didn't really have standards; I just wanted someone who wanted to be with me so I don't get why desperate women would have high standards sense me & other desperate guys here like ToadOfSteal didn't have much standards

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14 Aug 2011, 5:40 pm

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A woman's exhibition of loneliness is also a means of coping with the chemicals in her brain.
Her pursuit of sympathy and affirmation is also the pursuit of endorphins, dopamine, etc.

I'm sorry, what?
"Exhibition of loneness" whats that supposed to mean?

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14 Aug 2011, 5:43 pm

hurtloam wrote:

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

A woman's exhibition of loneliness is also a means of coping with the chemicals in her brain.
Her pursuit of sympathy and affirmation is also the pursuit of endorphins, dopamine, etc.

I'm sorry, what?
"Exhibition of loneness" whats that supposed to mean?

You haven't met the same women I've met.
A few play the "I'm lonely" card, on blogs, in person, in their mannerisms.
I'm not trying to be judgmental I'm just calling it what it is.

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14 Aug 2011, 5:48 pm

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As a lonely woman i don't even know where to begin with this comment. Why would i have standards?!?! Why wouldnt i?

I have enough self respect to know what i'm looking for in a man with whom i would want to build a relationship. Just getting involved with the first guy who shows an interest in me just goes against ever fibre of my being. I deserve to have someone i love and respect like other people somehow manage to find. Why am i less than those who can have what they want?

I want someone who respects me as an individual, not someone who just wants to be with me because i'm female.

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14 Aug 2011, 5:56 pm

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nick007 wrote:

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I DID respect those women as individuals & I really believed that we would of fallen in love with each other if they would of given me a chance. I'm extremely lucky that Megz gave me that chance & I really am falling for her like I expected I would but she really is perfect for me to.... Anyways my point is that I simply do NOT get why me & other desperate guys think/thought & feel/felt one way when desperate women think & feel the opposite way. I would understand if it was just NT women but women in general

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14 Aug 2011, 5:56 pm

nick007 wrote:

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Having standards is not the same thing as having "high standards."

And why would I cause myself more pain by linking with someone I couldn't stand? I would find that worse than loneliness. Besides, several men on this forum seem pissed that women have standards, ANY standards, in the first place. Apparently, women are supposed to offer random men free sex.

Anyway, I have few friends. Recently, a girl on my rugby team invited me to hang out with her. She subsequently got extremely drunk, high, and shoved her mother's cremated ashes under my nose without warning. I doubt I'll be hanging with her again despite any "loneliness" on my part.

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14 Aug 2011, 5:56 pm

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

A woman's exhibition of loneliness is also a means of coping with the chemicals in her brain.
Her pursuit of sympathy and affirmation is also the pursuit of endorphins, dopamine, etc.

I'm sorry, what?
"Exhibition of loneness" whats that supposed to mean?

You haven't met the same women I've met.
A few play the "I'm lonely" card, on blogs, in person, in their mannerisms.
I'm not trying to be judgmental I'm just calling it what it is.

Really? Man, people can be so weird.

I am genuinely lonely, i don't want sympathy i just want to be treated like a human being with real feelings. I feel like people look at me and think i'm being a strong independant woman and that i don't need anyone, when i do.

Older women treat me like i'm stupid because they've been through divorces, they say things like "what, do you think a husband will make you happy?" or "you're better off on your own"

Sorry your comment felt like another, just sit down and shut up about being lonely comment.

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14 Aug 2011, 6:02 pm

nick007 wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

nick007 wrote:

XFilesGeek wrote:

I DID respect those women as individuals & I really believed that we would of fallen in love with each other if they would of given me a chance. I'm extremely lucky that Megz gave me that chance & I really am falling for her like I expected I would but she really is perfect for me to.... Anyways my point is that I simply do NOT get why me & other guys who are desperate think & feel one way when desperate women think & feel the opposite way. I would understand if I was just NT women but women in general

My reason is because my parents are unhappily married. If i get into a relationship with the wrong person i could ruin my life like they ruined theirs. I would rather be alone than suffer the pain of being in a dysfunctional relationship.

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14 Aug 2011, 6:16 pm

hurtloam wrote:

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

hurtloam wrote:

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

A woman's exhibition of loneliness is also a means of coping with the chemicals in her brain.
Her pursuit of sympathy and affirmation is also the pursuit of endorphins, dopamine, etc.

I'm sorry, what?
"Exhibition of loneness" whats that supposed to mean?

You haven't met the same women I've met.
A few play the "I'm lonely" card, on blogs, in person, in their mannerisms.
I'm not trying to be judgmental I'm just calling it what it is.

It may have sounded like that because words are not my forte, but that was not my intention.
I actually sympathize with the loneliness pretty well right now.

The brain-chemistry retort was to address XFilesGeek, who suggested that nick007's motives are inappropriate because brain chemistry is involved. In reality, brain chemistry is involved in every motive of every person everywhere who ever lived.

My condescension of the "I'm lonely" card refers only to the few people I know who personally who abuse it, who shuffle thru a new round of boyfriends every year, and still find the nerve to play the card and play the victim. Fakers ruin the scene for the rest of us.

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several men on this forum seem pissed that women have standards, ANY standards, in the first place.

I'm not pissed that they have standards. That's common sense. I just find it amusing when a woman plays the loneliness card to me, and then gets offended when I play the same card right back and then offer a solution.

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14 Aug 2011, 6:59 pm

nick007 wrote:

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What does borderline asexual mean?

Did you tell these women you were asexual?
Do you look feminine? It's a strong possibility that you may have been so nice that they figured it was too good to be true and they just ran off in fear.

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14 Aug 2011, 7:03 pm

Fatal-Noogie wrote:

RightGalaxy wrote:

NOBODY is a loser. Life and love are chance things.

So is the hand you're dealt in poker or Mahjong, and those have losers.

EAT MY BUTTA.

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