I don't care if people call me a "misogynist"

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Well, there are certain situations where being one's self is such a problem for them that they really have no other reasonable choice but to change (within reason) to start towards a more tolerable state of existence.

I'm certainly not the same person I was ten years ago; I'm not even the same person I was five years ago, or even three. Even one, for that matter. I've changed. Because I saw things in myself and in my life that I didn't like, knew I could change, and then went about changing them. Not over night, though, for sure. But over a period months and even years. I changed because I realized what other people didn't like about me, and in turn I came to not like about me, and decided to try to change myself, little by little. To put in the extra effort to be a little more positive, politer, more social individual.

I'm still not there yet, and I highly doubt I ever will be; but I'm trying, and that's what counts, right? Because all we can ever really do is try.

To MXH: I think it's not nice to call someone a troll just because He's sharing his problems on online. that's what this forum is for. to share concerns and problems. it's really annoying when people like you can't find anything nice to say so instead you resort to calling someone a troll.
you should work on that or just do not come to forum if you are going to start calling everyone a troll.

people come to this forum to feel accepted and understood by people with similar issues and being called troll by someone unknown like you, is not something we should experience.

and I disagree with sacrip. I don't think its HIM that needs to change. and I personally think of sacrip as someone who believes that Aspies are the ones who need to change their ways to deal with the NTs.

Because I personally believe it's "people" that need to change whatever their evil, violent, selfish, ignorant ways of perciving things, judging things, categorizing things and doing things.

that's like saying people with Bright minds need to change their ways so that they can function with less bright minds in ordinary ways.

I would never tell Aspies or anyone who feels like this poster that it's YOU that need to change.

it's just matter of finding a person who accepts you for who you are.

and Never ever believe it when someone tells you its YOU that has a problem.

Because People who know the truth and the ones who speak the truth are truly rare in this life.

so of course if you tell the truth of what you know, you will be shunned and misunderstood by the general public. and General public do not like to face the truth nor do they even want to understand the truth about life??

its them that want to exist in ignorance and start calling everyone a CRAZY person.

As for being rejected by women, it's woman's job to reject every single men in order to protect themselves and in order to find the devoted and persistent men. that's how they go about finding the "REAL" one who is interested in something serious.
so it's not you that has experienced this with women but in fact, majority of men including the super stars have experienced the exactly the same stuff you are talking about. it's just that Most men do not want to admit it publically.

and its perfectly understanable to dislike most people. because most people are insecure, self-centered, ignorant, impatient, judgemental, filled with hatred etc.
I can't say I am so much better than them because I am a human being with issues afterall.
but I feel rightful by asserting that Most human beings are extremely selfish and Do no deserve to be Saved by GOD or Do they deserve to end up in such a place like "heaven".
and they certainly do not deserve your unconditional love.

although it's rare but there are often few human beings who truly cherish human lives and practice love in everything they do.

so you are doing the right thing by not necessarily changing your ways to adapt to their ways but by being extremely selective about whom you want to give your trust and unconditional love and avoid the ones who will eventually cause conflict and troubles in further down the road.

I am a misanthrope myself but I treat everyone equally and fairly.

Don't mind if they call me a misogynist either. Misogynists aren't born...they're made.

Every women, whether on-line or in real life, has treated me like dirt.

Have you ever tried to have female friends?

Sure....I don't have much of a sex drive (at least not anymore), so companionship is what I really want. I was trying to be friends with a girl on here and we were for awhile, but she stopped talking to me once she saw how ugly I was.

Why would she care about your appearance if you were just friends?.

You would have to ask her that question....maybe it's because I said she was beautiful, but again, you'd have to ask her. Sure seems like an awfully big coincidence...

I don't care if people call me a "misogynist"

I'll bet it was because you called her "beautiful" - if they think you're hitting on them, whether you actually are or not, they will usually take off like a bat out of hell. Make a conscious effort not to say things like that, even if it's just a sincere compliment...

I don't care if people call me a "misogynist"

You have a problem that inhibits your ability to play a 200,000+ year old game. That's not the fault of the opposite sex.

You are still young and have plenty of time to learn if you choose to do that.

Don't mind if they call me a misogynist either. Misogynists aren't born...they're made.

Every women, whether on-line or in real life, has treated me like dirt.

Believe it or not, I understand a lot of the pain of many of the men here, not because I have some fine tuned empathic abilities, but because as a person with AS, I've struggled socially as well. I haven't experienced the pain of being rejected by girls of women but straight women with AS have their own basket of difficulties on the dating scene to deal with and while they might seem not nearly as bad to men as what they have to deal with, that's only because they aren't as relevant to men; but if you were a woman, they would be just as relevant, frustrating, and difficult for you to deal with as the things you deal with now as a man.

My point is, we are all really in the same boat, so to speak. We all have experience our fair share of hurt, and negative social experiences, and when you come on here and attack "all women", you are also attacking female members with AS who might feel just as low and hurt as you do....a female version of yourself.

Anyway, some social difficulties can be overcome and I might be able to help you address them if you wish but not everyone is up for making certain changes to themselves or their life.