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18 Aug 2011, 8:18 pm

For me personally there is no such thing as too aspie.

I am really REALLY Aspie. And I am attracted to people that are very aspie. I can only think of one person who i have ever dated that wasn't Aspie like and that is my ex-husband.

You seem a lot more normal then I am. There are different people attracted to different things. :shrug:


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18 Aug 2011, 9:08 pm

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Either way, I have no idea what an autistic clown looks like. Hmm. Any references? I honestly do not think many women would mind, only the really superficial / insecure ones. If you get to really like someone, why would you care what other people think. That is just silly.


I could probably find better (worse), but I think I look particularly Aspie in this one:

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18 Aug 2011, 9:15 pm

Nice shirt, but I can't spot an 'aspie look'. :lol: I understand it has something to do with the eyes, but I can't read eyes. :oops:


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18 Aug 2011, 9:16 pm

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I could probably find better (worse), but I think I look particularly Aspie in this one:


I don't know if it'd make you feel better or worse, but I have no idea why you say you look particularly Aspie in that one.

Yoga is a good suggestion. Sometimes there are aspie-specific yoga classes, if those are available then there'd be less judgement there I think



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18 Aug 2011, 9:18 pm

I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think. You have the 'flat effect' too but a lot of NT's have that especially when they're not in a good mood.



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18 Aug 2011, 9:19 pm

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I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think.


I didn't know that was particularly aspie. I am sitting like that this very second.


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18 Aug 2011, 9:21 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think.


I didn't know that was particularly aspie. I am sitting like that this very second.


I don't think it is an aspie thing if you do it alone without anyone watching you. But normally when people I've encountered have their photo taken, they change their body posture for the photo.



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18 Aug 2011, 9:29 pm

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I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think. You have the 'flat effect' too but a lot of NT's have that especially when they're not in a good mood.


I think you kind of see what I mean, I just look noticeably "different" than other people - and I can also recognize others who are like this occasionally.

The worst part is people always think I'm in a "bad mood" even when I'm not - even other Aspies who should know better think this.



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18 Aug 2011, 9:32 pm

Have you guys tried any kind of mindful movement based exercise, a martial art or something? Tai Chi really helped me use my body more effectively and fluidly. Aikido seems to be helping some too. Yoga?[/quote]

Try MMA (mixed martial arts), from what I've heard that'll make you a ladies man in no time!!

Back to the topic at hand, I'd say too Aspie would be if you pause your sports video games the same time they go to commercial IRL!! I even do the period intermission breaks with a timer!!



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18 Aug 2011, 9:33 pm

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blitzkrieg wrote:
I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think. You have the 'flat effect' too but a lot of NT's have that especially when they're not in a good mood.


I think you kind of see what I mean, I just look noticeably "different" than other people - and I can also recognize others who are like this occasionally.

The worst part is people always think I'm in a "bad mood" even when I'm not - even other Aspies who should know better think this.


Yeah. I can imagine how that would be annoying.



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18 Aug 2011, 9:33 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think.


I didn't know that was particularly aspie. I am sitting like that this very second.


I don't think it is an aspie thing if you do it alone without anyone watching you. But normally when people I've encountered have their photo taken, they change their body posture for the photo.


Oh. I don't.


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18 Aug 2011, 10:07 pm

I was going after a girl named katerine i fell for her instantly, she always seems happy in contrast to me..I thought she might have beeen an aspie too. She didn't talk much at first... She was quiet for a long period of time, then she looked at me and said "you smell delicous" o.o
I wis things would worked out wit me and her..:(
Why is she happy while i'm constantly depressed



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18 Aug 2011, 10:10 pm

Grisha wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
I think it's more his body posture. The way his shoulders are slumped and the arms are hung. Almost like he's not in complete control of them. Sorry Grisha, just trying to point out what I think. You have the 'flat effect' too but a lot of NT's have that especially when they're not in a good mood.


I think you kind of see what I mean, I just look noticeably "different" than other people - and I can also recognize others who are like this occasionally.

The worst part is people always think I'm in a "bad mood" even when I'm not - even other Aspies who should know better think this.


I sit / stand like that too. Is it a bad thing? I think its just a high neck thing. :D

Blahh, either way I don't see it, maybe its an Aspie thing...


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18 Aug 2011, 11:05 pm

The picture, you look more relaxed but the concentrated look is there. I always look tired or like (Data from Star Trek) when see I myself in photos or other times its like the top part of the face is not communicating with the bottom or vice versa.

As for invoking laughter do you walk with your shoulders back or are you hunched over? Someone made fun of my walk in high school by imitating it. I had no idea because I only did that when I was walking fast. It was concrete though maybe even cruel at the time but I don't walk that way anymore.

You didn't color you hair again by chance?

You probably don't do these but I'll mention them, talking too loud, walking on toes, staring into space (I know this one is hard not to do) overly neurotic behavior.

I get comments sometime but only from idiots. I actually embrace my awkwardness. I don't mind people watching me sing in the car, or do anything with deliberate movement (so my brother says) its me and at least, I'm not boring.



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18 Aug 2011, 11:05 pm

I dunno, Grisha. I guess I'm just bad at "reading" these things, but you don't look that "different" to me...

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19 Aug 2011, 12:27 am

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The picture, you look more relaxed but the concentrated look is there. I always look tired or like (Data from Star Trek) when see I myself in photos or other times its like the top part of the face is not communicating with the bottom or vice versa.

As for invoking laughter do you walk with your shoulders back or are you hunched over? Someone made fun of my walk in high school by imitating it. I had no idea because I only did that when I was walking fast. It was concrete though maybe even cruel at the time but I don't walk that way anymore.

You didn't color you hair again by chance?

You probably don't do these but I'll mention them, talking too loud, walking on toes, staring into space (I know this one is hard not to do) overly neurotic behavior.

I get comments sometime but only from idiots. I actually embrace my awkwardness. I don't mind people watching me sing in the car, or do anything with deliberate movement (so my brother says) its me and at least, I'm not boring.


Actually I can't remember the last time I appeared to invoke laughter, I think I said it more for dramatic effect... :roll:

That picture's about one year old, I think my hair has gone through at least two iterations since then. :wink:

I sort of embrace my awkwardness too - it doesn't really bother me very much at all - I like me - I was just wondering if it's killing me romantically speaking...