Why your life isn't over at 30

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No, not over at 30; but at 30, the beginning of the end is in sight.

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somebody else is making me feel like my life has just begun. i'm actually looking forward to hitting 30. it used to feel like a ticking clock where i was desperate to change as quickly as possible in order to get things done. Now I'm looking forward to becoming more like my true self because for once I've been made to feel like it actually has some value.

HAHA! I love this thread.

But is should read: Life begins at 30!

My teens and twenties were miserable. I didn't really wake up and start living until I was 31 or 32. I was a scrawny, sickly kid. Depressed all the time. Wanted to DO things, but didn't have much of any skills, coordination, strength or endurance. And definitely had NO social skills.

Thinking about AS as being (literally) a social ret*d, around 30 is when you start to catch up with the NTs. Mind you, ret*d means "slower," literally. So when I was about 30 in my body, I was bout 16 in my brain. I started having fun when I went out, actual FUN. I started enjoying other people's company, instead of being stressed out trying to understand the facial expressions, body language and such. So I had the excitement and exuberance of a 16 year old kid, but had slowly developed the strength and coordination to do major projects. Like hand pulling 1000 silkscreen prints in a day. Or dancing (mosh pit body surfing) for 14 hours straight. Or biking for 80 miles in a day pulling an 80 lb load.

And I had skills. Lots and lots of skills by that point. The old adage "can't teach and old dog new tricks" is total rubbish. Learning how to learn is a skill in and of itself. And it gets easier, much easier, to pick up new skills as you mature. Now I feel like anything I want to do, I can make happen. I built a guitar last year, having never done anything like that before. Just decided to do it, and a couple months later it was done. The 20-nothing kids were mystified.

The only drawback to aging is agism. Kids that think life ends at 30 and want to blow you off.

For huge masses of people in my free amateur psychology practice, the first 25 years are for physical and mental development, producing children and pairing up. The rest of life is all about the mind, the personality, the wisdom, self discovery, self enrichment.
If all you care about is physical attraction, sports, and other such high energy performance based stuff, you life does end at 30.
After that, your sex drive goes away drastically for male and female, and you can begin to think more rationally without so many hormones getting in the way. That is, until the menopause/andropause comes around. After that, all that matters is keeping sane while you slowly fade away.

For us, life probably does begin at 30. I can't wait to find out. No, scratch that, I can wait!

^ regarding women past 30. *rawrr*...

Incidentally, life ends at 30? Really? Crap, I'd better start Running to stay one step ahead of the Sandmen...

Now if only the 30-something women wanted me...

A cartoon that I saw years ago (hagar the horrible, I think) shows the main character sadly stating "I'm not as young as I used to be" but then stopping and thinking about it, he says "But I'm not as old as I'm gonna be!"

And then I remember that Josph Conrad didn't publish his first novel until he was 60.

Life is just what you are doing right now. If you do nothing, that is all that you can think of and that is all your life will be. Do something interesting right now and you will be alive in that moment and all the other moments that you are actively engaged in your own life. It's not always easy. It takes work to be actively alive. But in the end, what are your options? Do something or do nothing.

I agree entirely hale bopp thanks for sharing

Yes, I am back. : )

RE: the thread topic, being over 30 is like being in your 20s. you feel the same only your body is a little older.

It is like being forever about 18 inside but all these people who you thought were younger than you start getting older and you stay the same.

Such as when I went to a family birthday party and realised that the boy cousins who were toddlers in nappies when I was starting university are now all 6"2 and I cant believe they are now men towering over me.

A bit unnerving, and I am finding my upcoming birthday pretty unnerving too, it is the first birthday I remember feeling this sense of panic.

But there are good things about being in your thirties. 3 is a prettier number than 2 for starters. And 34 is prettier than 33, though I did like the symmetry when I turned 33 last year.

But anyway, life goes on and we get older and there is no way to slow it down, besides get cryogenically frozen or something like that.