What is your primary driving factor for dating

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I was thinking the same thing. The poll is not an accurate description.

It's not that I fear loneliness,
but more that I pursue companionship as my incentive.

Hmmm, maybe I should rethink my response. I chose "sex" because it's what gets me out of the house, to actually put some effort into dating when I do it. I don't really get "lonely", I'm much too solitary for that. That being said, though, I can't just have sex without liking and respecting my partner and feeling some sort of connection to him. I don't know, maybe I'm between answers? To me, "companionship" is hard to define succinctly. And I would have a hard time staying in a relationship that was only about companionship and never had any sex in it.

what about bordom?

Companionship. I want to know someone who thinks like me. Considering how unusual are my thoughts, it'll be nearly impossible.
Also, I don't want to even think about marriage. I want to live alone.

To sum it up: loneliness with a little boredom are my main reasons for wanting a relationship. Not to mention the free therapy I would get for my social anxiety. Yeah, I'm weird like that.

I just want to find someone I can have adventures with (life, sex, general). If it lasts, it lasts, if it doesn't, it doesn't.

I don't know about pursuing a girl exclusively for sex. Don't get me wrong, I would do it provided the sexual interest was mutual, but currently I still live with mum, and I don't really have the kind of finances that can support regular meetings at hotels (it's kinda sleazy too lol). So I would like to have that area of my life sorted out before I really begin proper dating.

I want to start a new family some day, since my existing family simply doesn't care about me on any emotional level anymore. So i picked loneliness...

One more thing. When you do get that area of your life sorted out, try to enjoy your independance for a while, before you get stuck with your gf the way you are now stuck with your mom. That is something I should have done. But I was so worried about the need of approval that I never appreciated just how cool it was to be FREE and spend 100% of my time on studies.

Oh trust me I will, as much as I would love some female company, I value my own space a great deal

Well, I want to have fun at first and meet a lot of different people to see what personalities I get along with well, then I want to get really close to someone so much that we start to think/feel alike (unfortunately, this happened before the first one and caused some recent heartache...but I recovered)...then I want to marry someone who can provide for me and a family and yet still always want to improve themselves ad help the other person improve (and also the sex thing when I get married. ).

I chose "loneliness", but my situation is complicated.
I am quite lonely at times, but at the same time I value the fact that I don't have to take other people into the consideration all the time. Especially now, I just started university.
I haven't actually had a crush on anyone for years, I suspect it might have something to do with the fact that my antidepressants are taking my natural highs away. But they also take away the lows, which makes it worth it. It must be either that, or I'm simply asexual. I know I've had a crush on people before, but I'm not sure if I've ever... I don't know. Figuring out if you're asexual strikes me as hard. Especially because, from what I've read on the condition (or syndrome, whichever one it is), people who are asexual might be attracted to someone without the desire for sex.
The good thing is that I have a really bad track record when it comes to dating (which I think is part of the reason I started using antidepressants in the first place), so at least my current predicament keeps me from getting hurt, if nothing else.
Sometimes I like to dream about sex. Not because I neccessarily crave it as a part of my life, more because I'd like to know what I'm missing out on. I've had sexual... encounters in the past, but never actually "done it".