02 Sep 2011, 12:38 am
02 Sep 2011, 12:04 pm
02 Sep 2011, 12:08 pm
AsteroidNap wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
I used to believe casting a wider net was the way to go...but what I realized is that I did this because I didn't know myself very well, or accept who I was. I would become attracted to all the wrong women...it wasn't until I started using the preciseness of a fly fisherman that I started to have more success (and by success, I mean at least mutual interest if not dating or relationships).
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
Ah... if only this worked for us female nerds. Most people that comment on my shirts do so because they're really just staring at my chest.
Well, the shirt only gets one so far, so don't feel too put out
Once I start talking, and stammering, and the Aspie thing kicks in, it doesn't go far. But it's good practice I must say.But... it doesn't even get that far for me! Half the time they have no idea what's on my shirt. They're just looking for an excuse to talk to my boobs.
02 Sep 2011, 1:08 pm
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
AsteroidNap wrote:
I used to believe casting a wider net was the way to go...but what I realized is that I did this because I didn't know myself very well, or accept who I was. I would become attracted to all the wrong women...it wasn't until I started using the preciseness of a fly fisherman that I started to have more success (and by success, I mean at least mutual interest if not dating or relationships).
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
Ah... if only this worked for us female nerds. Most people that comment on my shirts do so because they're really just staring at my chest.
Well, the shirt only gets one so far, so don't feel too put out
Once I start talking, and stammering, and the Aspie thing kicks in, it doesn't go far. But it's good practice I must say.But... it doesn't even get that far for me! Half the time they have no idea what's on my shirt. They're just looking for an excuse to talk to my boobs.
Hey nice boobs, what's that stuff written on them? I don't really do reading.
02 Sep 2011, 1:10 pm
02 Sep 2011, 3:11 pm
02 Sep 2011, 3:45 pm
AsteroidNap wrote:
I used to believe casting a wider net was the way to go...but what I realized is that I did this because I didn't know myself very well, or accept who I was. I would become attracted to all the wrong women...it wasn't until I started using the preciseness of a fly fisherman that I started to have more success (and by success, I mean at least mutual interest if not dating or relationships).
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
For me, this involved flaunting my geekiness, embracing it, doing geeky/nerdy things. One simple thing I do now is wear geeky t-shirts that are like the Cardinal's red plumage to female geeks. I've lost count of the number of conversations that girls have initiated with me because of a geeky t-shirt I'm wearing. This never happened when I cast a broader net. But you can't just wear any shirt...you have to know the subject behind it. Anyway, that's just one example.
Your mileage may vary.
I salute the wisdom of AsteroidNap yet again!
also, what Tea said. personally, I believe that happiness lies within oneself, being single should not be a problem for someone who is capable of being truly happy. if you believe that your happiness is dependent on another person, you need to realise that that other person will most likely never be truly perfect nor truly accepting of yourself nor truly constant - and that you're putting yourself up for a lifetime of misery if you believe otherwise.
personally - I've never tried to "broaden" my horisons in terms of relationships (and had no luck so far, understandably), but in terms of casual encounters - sure, as long as you're satisfied with that. it does work but I wouldn't recommend making a habit out of it.
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