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05 Sep 2011, 8:45 am

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Hmm

I thought:

"nice guy" was a guy who was fake respectful so he can get either a relationship or get sex out of a girl, and either doesn't want to know her if the answer is no or flips out.

"sweet guy" seems like a man who has the vulnerability of a little boy.. or acts like a girl.

Is this accurate?


Yeah on the second for me. As for the first well when I say someone's nice I mean they're genuinely nice.


Sorry, I meant "self proclaimed nice guy".


I always read 'sweet guy' when someone is describing someone they're not with as 'pushover'
like 'he's a real sweet guy, he did this, this and this for me' - when the girl is clearly using him.
but i'm kind of cynical about girls...



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05 Sep 2011, 8:49 am

emlion wrote:
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hale_bopp wrote:
Hmm

I thought:

"nice guy" was a guy who was fake respectful so he can get either a relationship or get sex out of a girl, and either doesn't want to know her if the answer is no or flips out.

"sweet guy" seems like a man who has the vulnerability of a little boy.. or acts like a girl.

Is this accurate?


Yeah on the second for me. As for the first well when I say someone's nice I mean they're genuinely nice.


Sorry, I meant "self proclaimed nice guy".


I always read 'sweet guy' when someone is describing someone they're not with as 'pushover'
like 'he's a real sweet guy, he did this, this and this for me' - when the girl is clearly using him.
but i'm kind of cynical about girls...


Yeah I think pushover is a sweet guy. BUT he could also be a self proclaimed nice guy trying to get a relationship out of it.



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05 Sep 2011, 8:51 am

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After licking my arm, I've realized that I am more of a salty guy, kinda of bacon taste.

Does that mean I am a 'pig' guy ?


Wait, wait wait, you taste of bacon?
Marry me?


I can be your eternal sandwich.


Oh baby, you're so dreamy.


Hot dog bread, baguette, or pita bread?



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05 Sep 2011, 8:53 am

I always thought it meant that the guy would be perfect, but not challenging or confident enough.



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05 Sep 2011, 8:54 am

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Yeah I think pushover is a sweet guy. BUT he could also be a self proclaimed nice guy trying to get a relationship out of it.

That's also true. I think overall it's down to the tone of the description.
also i've found 'aw he's such a sweet guy' usually means 'he's such a good guy for you, you should date him, however i don't want to.'


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Hot dog bread, baguette, or pita bread?

Baguette, naturally. 8)



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05 Sep 2011, 9:04 am

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Yeah I think pushover is a sweet guy. BUT he could also be a self proclaimed nice guy trying to get a relationship out of it.

That's also true. I think overall it's down to the tone of the description.
also i've found 'aw he's such a sweet guy' usually means 'he's such a good guy for you, you should date him, however i don't want to.'


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Hot dog bread, baguette, or pita bread?

Baguette, naturally. 8)


That choice suits me. 8)



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05 Sep 2011, 9:13 am

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Yeah I think pushover is a sweet guy. BUT he could also be a self proclaimed nice guy trying to get a relationship out of it.

That's also true. I think overall it's down to the tone of the description.
also i've found 'aw he's such a sweet guy' usually means 'he's such a good guy for you, you should date him, however i don't want to.'


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Hot dog bread, baguette, or pita bread?

Baguette, naturally. 8)


That choice suits me. 8)


Hmm love connection.



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05 Sep 2011, 9:23 am

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I always thought it meant that the guy would be perfect, but not challenging or confident enough.


This. And not interesting (because of lack of confidence and challenge). I also think some women use it to describe men who aren't conventionally physically attractive but who have qualities they admire (but wouldn't want to date, themselves).



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05 Sep 2011, 9:36 am

mv wrote:
smudge wrote:
I always thought it meant that the guy would be perfect, but not challenging or confident enough.


This. And not interesting (because of lack of confidence and challenge). I also think some women use it to describe men who aren't conventionally physically attractive but who have qualities they admire (but wouldn't want to date, themselves).


I cannot be the only one who uses it to describe people who are fucken sensual as anything.

Maybe hale_bopp's friend goes by this definition too if she gave off the idea it meant attractive.

Oh and whoops I am trying not to cuss cause I learned it was against site rules but apparently my less obscene variation of a cuss starting with the letter F doesn't cut it.



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05 Sep 2011, 9:40 am

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mv wrote:
smudge wrote:
I always thought it meant that the guy would be perfect, but not challenging or confident enough.


This. And not interesting (because of lack of confidence and challenge). I also think some women use it to describe men who aren't conventionally physically attractive but who have qualities they admire (but wouldn't want to date, themselves).


I cannot be the only one who uses it to describe people who are f**** sensual as anything.

Maybe hale_bopp's friend goes by this definition too if she gave off the idea it meant attractive.

Oh and whoops I am trying not to cuss cause I learned it was against site rules but apparently my less obscene variation of a cuss starting with the letter F doesn't cut it.


I think it all depends on context. I've only heard "he's a really sweet guy" when a woman is describing a guy that she's just not interested in (in that way) but feels bad that she isn't and is trying to get someone else interested in him (or she's at least trying to third-party save his dignity because there's nothing inherently wrong with him, she's just not into him).

I don't think anyone's ever described their own partner to me like that, which would be an entirely different context.



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05 Sep 2011, 9:45 am

mv wrote:
smudge wrote:
I always thought it meant that the guy would be perfect, but not challenging or confident enough.


I also think some women use it to describe men who aren't conventionally physically attractive but who have qualities they admire (but wouldn't want to date, themselves).


This 100%.

physically unattractive men who have qualities they admire = sweet guy.


physically attractive men who have qualities they admire = a gentleman, a hot guy, or just handsome.


women...



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05 Sep 2011, 9:48 am

Anyways, the lesson for guys here : don't be sweet, and don't try to be. Bath in bacon, with hot spices and tomato sauce.



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05 Sep 2011, 9:50 am

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Anyways, the lesson for guys here : don't be sweet, and don't try to be. Bath in bacon, with hot spices and tomato sauce.


is this you?
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05 Sep 2011, 9:51 am

This is my grandpa, may he RIP.



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05 Sep 2011, 9:55 am

A really good friend you can count on but not the datable type is what I always thought it meant.


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05 Sep 2011, 9:56 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Anyways, the lesson for guys here : don't be sweet, and don't try to be. Bath in bacon, with hot spices and tomato sauce.


+1,000,000

"Sweet" and "Nice" are NEVER labels you want you want to acquire from women you are attracted to. You may actually be nice, but NEVER get caught looking like you are - unless you actually like being "friend-zoned". It's a difficult act to master, and I've not even come close, but I'm trying.

What women say in this regard, and what they do are often polar opposites, I think this causes Aspie guys problems in particular because they tend to take things too literally...