What I do and don't like in a guy - help looking for a guy

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How old are you OP?

I am a young adult, and not a teenager (I'm in my early 20's). I would say I don't look my age, and I shouldn't post my actual age, because that's possibly a bit too personal right now. That's why I'm just trying to give you a rough idea about my age. I want to note that I am a female, and I have Aspegers Syndrom, Touretts Syndrrome, severe anxiety and depression, and a seizer disorder that was milder when I was very young, but now it's only triggered by strobing (flashing) lights or images moving really fast. I only had one severe seizer one time in my life so far, and almost hit my head that time, and I was told that it happened when I was playing a Wii fit/Wii sports game with my younger brother. I havn't had a bad seizer since then, and I have been trying to not look at anything that may be too flashy for me.

You need to go to some Game design/ game programming academy..... you might find your hunky/designer/programmer/baker/ , the ratio of male:female would be for your favor too. Do not expect to find plenty of strong and fit guys there tho.

Also do not expect that every strong and fit guy (= healthy) would pick someone with multiple health conditions while he can pick someone who's completely healthy. Would you accept a guy with similar conditions or one of those conditions for example?

9. World Peace

I am guessing that you are missing either a vegetable garden or a gym membership.

That's the problem with these incredibly specific lists. The odds of having somebody tick off every box are low, even if each box taken alone is reasonable.

Two fair points.

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It's okay everyone. I think I found a guy who fits alomost all the things on my likes and dislikes lists. He's a member of this forum, but I won't mention his username, unless he says it's okay for me to do that. The only downside is, we live too far apart, so it's going to start like a good friendship with this guy and me, and it will be online (unfortunately. So I probably will never meet this guy in person).

Not to mention it's so easy to lie and say, yep, I'm into all that. Especially if you engage in an online relationship.

Surprisingly I Fit somewhere between 8.5/10 and 10/10 Across the board.
The only answers where partial to full credit are up in the air is numbers 5 and 6. I pass on all other points.

Regarding #5:

Gardening: Not so much. No particular problem with it, just not a personal hobby.
Making music using software: Do this and enjoy it.
singing: I've done a little, but its not really a hobby.
Drawing cartoons: Do this from time to time, and enjoy it.
Baking: I watch various cooking/travel shows and have an interest in the art. Alton Brown has the best shows = Science + Food. Which is a tad strange as I am a bit of a picky eater.
3d Computer graphics: I do 3d Graphics for a living. (Also do some programming as I made my own website and am slowly working on an indie game.)
2d Computer graphics: Ditto, but 3d more often.
working out to stay fit: I do small exercises(push ups, sit ups, pull ups) on rare occasions. I have a natural tendency to run in short bursts up flights of stairs or across lots/fields when arriving at a destination, although I generally don't work out per say. Nothing against it though. One of my favorite shows is Ninja Warrior(Sasuke in Japan). If there is any sport that I think truly represents the absolute of the human body/mind it is that obstacle course. Plus its only competitively passively. Competitors can cheer each other on and even those who have no shot you enjoy watching to see how many obstacles they are able to complete.

Regarding #6:

I am fit physically. However, Strong might be the Uncertainty. Though strong for my build, I am no muscle man. I have an Athletic/thin build, on the lower end of the "Healthy/normal" BMI index and only weigh generally between 130-135 pounds. Lean is a good description for me.

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It would seem from a purely academic standpoint, I place as a 9.25 out of 10, if we were to accept partial answers for 5 and 6.
This makes me happy just to know I can measure so closely to someones intended preferences. (I find it even more fascinating that we are of similar age.) For this reason, as some members such as toad also scored closely, it seems strange others consider these preferences too steep.

To answer your question on how to find someone offline. As stated before: You could join a group/club that specializes in 3d, or take classes (possibly at a university) for 3d graphics. The ratio of male to female participants in the field is strongly in your favor if you wanted to increase your likelihood for a relationship.

Beyond that, it seems you are interested in athletics? (You mentioned a number of things like gardening/wii fit/working out) So going to the gym is another possibility, however, you will be less likely to meet people with your other preferences unless someone happens to be into CGI and they happen to start up flirtatious conversation.

Well congratulations! That was fast. A woman that knows what she wants, goes out and looks for it, and gets it. Gotta love that Be safe! and good luck.

Hero, I think it's cool that guys do computer graphics, more specifically for games. I love making game art too, but I am still at basic level of basic programming for game making. Luckilly, I have a family member who knows a lot about programming to help me learn it. And yes I was taking a computer graphics class at collage once, and I wish to someday be a 3d computer graphics artist of some kind (maybe an animator, or 3d modeler) or game developer (or the whoever thinks up the ideas for games), (but right now I have to get a required course out of the way). I guess I should keep my self open (and my eyes open) to seek out someone who could really relate to me, but I think right now I'm stuck between one other guy I won't mention unless he says I can, and Hero, who also seems to match up to my likes and dislikes. But then again, anyone could just be saying lies about themselves to get hooked up with anyone else, so yeah, I should be carefull.
Thanks everyone for the replies, and the heads up about anyone posting false information.

The bolded ones should only be preferential IMO and not total deal breakers if the guy doesn't fit those criterion.

sure u can mention me

but dont think that just becuz hero and i share similar interest with u, that ur "stuck between" us

shared interest help build a relationship but they arnt the core part of what determends whether or not a relationship will be good or not

what shared interest do is simply give topics of discussion and allow others to relate to one another to some extent

so dont think that ur stuck with those who share interest with u, ud be surprized where relationships can form and between who they form with (my best friend's girlfriend hates anime but loves nascar, and he hates nascar but loves anime, and theyve been togather for 3 years)

dont ever limit urself (unless of course there is something that u just cant stand example of mine: smoking)

"its always best to keep ur opinions open" as one of my friends often says, then again shes dating 3 guys at once right now, that just might be alittle toooo open lol

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It's not a sock puppet account of boo's is it?

Online or in real life?