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Real Life or Online Relationship
Real Life 85%  85%  [ 47 ]
Online 15%  15%  [ 8 ]
Total votes : 55

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15 Sep 2011, 1:40 pm

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Online relationships can turn into real life ones. They're not all bad.


But the title says "Real life OR Online Relationships". If when I suggested we meet up, you were to say "No thankyou, I'd prefer this to stay online", I'd have been gutted.

So I'll say real life relationships are far superior. It's all very well having Skype etc, and it's certainly helpful, I don't doubt that, but it's just not the same as being able to cuddle up to your loved one and experience them in the flesh and smell their aroma etc. I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation. For me there is just some higher level of happiness when I am properly with my partner.


Very true I do think real life are superior and I voted for it in the poll.
I just think that starting off online is nothing to scoff at.


I totally agree. :D


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15 Sep 2011, 1:50 pm

rabbitears wrote:
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Online relationships can turn into real life ones. They're not all bad.


But the title says "Real life OR Online Relationships". If when I suggested we meet up, you were to say "No thankyou, I'd prefer this to stay online", I'd have been gutted.

So I'll say real life relationships are far superior. It's all very well having Skype etc, and it's certainly helpful, I don't doubt that, but it's just not the same as being able to cuddle up to your loved one and experience them in the flesh and smell their aroma etc. I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation. For me there is just some higher level of happiness when I am properly with my partner.


Very true I do think real life are superior and I voted for it in the poll.
I just think that starting off online is nothing to scoff at.


I totally agree. :D


It annoys me when people say it can never work when starting online, or they go on about how crap it iswhen they don't know shiz.


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15 Sep 2011, 2:01 pm

MONKEY wrote:
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Online relationships can turn into real life ones. They're not all bad.


But the title says "Real life OR Online Relationships". If when I suggested we meet up, you were to say "No thankyou, I'd prefer this to stay online", I'd have been gutted.

So I'll say real life relationships are far superior. It's all very well having Skype etc, and it's certainly helpful, I don't doubt that, but it's just not the same as being able to cuddle up to your loved one and experience them in the flesh and smell their aroma etc. I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation. For me there is just some higher level of happiness when I am properly with my partner.


Very true I do think real life are superior and I voted for it in the poll.
I just think that starting off online is nothing to scoff at.


I totally agree. :D


It annoys me when people say it can never work when starting online, or they go on about how crap it iswhen they don't know shiz.


Well, I suppose it's different for everyone, and we all have different experiences which influence our opinions.


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15 Sep 2011, 2:02 pm

Indeed and I am of course biased.


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15 Sep 2011, 2:04 pm

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Indeed and I am of course biased.


Same! :lol:


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15 Sep 2011, 2:08 pm

real humans only is my policy.


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15 Sep 2011, 9:16 pm

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OTOH I'd rather fail spectacularly with someone amazing than succeed well with someone mediocre (for me/her).

that's it, right there^^^^


Hear Hear!! !

THIS is exactly where I'm coming from. hence why i'm not bothering with people right in front of me


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15 Sep 2011, 9:25 pm

rabbitears wrote:
I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation.


This is EXACTLY how I feel. It's also the reason I don't use skype.

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Man, I hope I'm not the only one who just stopped respecting you.


I have never met someone in real life who I talked to on line where it felt natural. Actually, I have once, once out of about 50 or 60+ times. I've met a lot of online people. If people are going to "stop respecting me" or assume I don't know anything for my experiences, well, you're welcome to.

It is different for everyone. It may work for some, and in that case, that's good that you've found happiness. It doesn't work for me.



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15 Sep 2011, 11:48 pm

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I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation.


This is EXACTLY how I feel. It's also the reason I don't use skype.

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Man, I hope I'm not the only one who just stopped respecting you.


I have never met someone in real life who I talked to on line where it felt natural. Actually, I have once, once out of about 50 or 60+ times. I've met a lot of online people. If people are going to "stop respecting me" or assume I don't know anything for my experiences, well, you're welcome to.

It is different for everyone. It may work for some, and in that case, that's good that you've found happiness. It doesn't work for me.



If she thinks it's stupid, then YOU should respect her opinion. I think online relationships are a time-killer to just keep you away from trying to integrate into real life. So, besides being stupid, online relationship are a bad thing (unless there is no way to get your out of home)



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16 Sep 2011, 12:32 am

Me I've been in a meaningful relationship that started real -life and went online because he moved to a new place. we were still very into each other and I liked being away from him because it was sort of freeing. I think a bit of both and not just one exclusively will work for me. I don't mind going long time without seeing the person IRL.



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16 Sep 2011, 1:45 am

hale_bopp wrote:
rabbitears wrote:
I always feel so pressured to talk on Skype as well, to keep the flow going, but in real life the flow is just there regardless of conversation.


This is EXACTLY how I feel. It's also the reason I don't use skype.

Phonic wrote:
Man, I hope I'm not the only one who just stopped respecting you.


I have never met someone in real life who I talked to on line where it felt natural. Actually, I have once, once out of about 50 or 60+ times. I've met a lot of online people. If people are going to "stop respecting me" or assume I don't know anything for my experiences, well, you're welcome to.

It is different for everyone. It may work for some, and in that case, that's good that you've found happiness. It doesn't work for me.


Lol, I respect Hale_Bopp very much, she's very smart and people has a lot to learn from her. I also agree with her post.

People keep saying oh well online relationships are good because they turn into real life relationships. But... that's admitting real life relationships are better. I know a lot of teenagers who wage online relationships over the internet, with partners who live thousands of miles away. So... yeah, rabbitears is right when I say online relationship I mean a permanent online relationship. Like people who are invovled in this kind of online long distance relationship for years... and never meet. That's actually pretty surprising as to why would people prefer this over real life relationship.



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16 Sep 2011, 5:48 am

I fell for someone online and our relationship was very real for both of us even if we lived on the other side of the world to each other. I even put a deposit on airfares to meet him. However things didn't work out. I would have moved countries eventually for this person. :)

My current man i met online also. In fact on the same webforum. We are very serious in real life even though we met online.

I like online as long as it leads to real life.



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16 Sep 2011, 6:35 am

Only two relationships I had were mostly online but my 2nd(my current one which will probably be my last) is planned to became mostly an offline thing 1ce life circumstances permit. I never had any luck but bad trying to find a relationship offline. I cant vote in this poll because it's needs the 3rd option~ online relationship that turns into offline one


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16 Sep 2011, 6:48 am

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Only two relationships I had were mostly online but my 2nd(my current one which will probably be my last) is planned to became mostly an offline thing 1ce life circumstances permit. I never had any luck but bad trying to find a relationship offline. I cant vote in this poll because it's needs the 3rd option~ online relationship that turns into offline one


Nope. If you are currently waging your relationship online, than it's online. If it turns to real life than it's real life. You can't have both states simultaneously. What you can do, is vote which state you prefer. Do you like to touch feel and hold hands with your partner, or do you prefer just chatting and having a long distance relationship.



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16 Sep 2011, 6:57 am

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Only two relationships I had were mostly online but my 2nd(my current one which will probably be my last) is planned to became mostly an offline thing 1ce life circumstances permit. I never had any luck but bad trying to find a relationship offline. I cant vote in this poll because it's needs the 3rd option~ online relationship that turns into offline one


Nope. If you are currently waging your relationship online, than it's online. If it turns to real life than it's real life. You can't have both states simultaneously. What you can do, is vote which state you prefer. Do you like to touch feel and hold hands with your partner, or do you prefer just chatting and having a long distance relationship.

I still cant vote because it depends on how serious the relationship is for me. I think online is better in the very begging of the relationship because I communicate a lot better & feel more comfortable online but offline is better after things get more serious & we know each other better & feel more comfortable


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12 Nov 2011, 1:00 pm

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The key factor here is just how often would you be able to meet in real life. If you are in an online relationship but can only meet once a year, then it is very likely one person will just tire of the other with simply talking all the time and not doing any real life activities (I don't mean THAT, perverts :P ). But say, perhaps every few months one of the people has the ability to go over to the other person's house and stay there for a week, and this is while working at getting a better paying job so they can visit more, and then eventually live together a year or a few from now. If that was the case then perhaps starting online and talking with webcams and so on might be better, because then you initially get to know each other through talking first, instead of just jumping into sex and believing you are in love.


well said :) most definatly agree though communication is important and you cant go too long with out a decent convo otherwise it just becomes annoying and depressing (yes, real life experience)