What Is Anti-Game?

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Actually, it's called human interaction. And at least 90% of the text make perfect sense to me. It's a logical breakdown (kinda funny how people whine about that while being supposedly 'aspie'...) of human behaviour patterns. And for me. it's quite interesting because I have to deal with sensory issues, depression, anxiety and all that AS-bullsh** instead of being able to 'socialize' intuitively.
I'm too lazy right now to write stuff about the whole thing, so let's just say most points in the links just point out the fact that in a relationship both persons should be on the same level of worth. And that might be hard to understand if you struggle with social interaction on a constant basis preventing you from having the ability to pretty much choose your mating interest from a number of alternatives instead of hoping 'the one' will magically appear and save you from all your pain thus 'being better than you'.
And from a purely emotional point of view, I understand all that because my life is no different.
It's not like no girl is attracted to me, I just can't deal with the cues, signs and unwritten rules of it.
Some of them make sense to me, others dont. Which doesnt change the fact that they exist and I have to accept that even though it's too much for me at times.
And many things mentioned in the link are actually pretty natural for me, but my lack of nonverbal skills make my look like a complete douchebag in the process. That's on me, not them!

Also, I'm kinda curious: Why do you think the article is a joke?

No, I mean do any men do those things to the exaggerated degree listed there. I am agreeing with hyper on this one.
Besides, some things listed there are normal things, I see nothing wrong about them, they don't need to be anti-"game" or whatever.

So I understand that this as the 'not to do list in order to appear alpha'.

I agree that if you act like the article states exclusively it would make you pretty pathetic. But most stuff makes sense, at least to me. And to a certain degree I also agree with hyperlexian, which is more a matter of mindset where you show some degree of appreciation for your partner. And I think you can have such a mindset while acting like the article states. It's no contradiction I think. Totally get your point though.

If there's any chance that game and anti-game could mix to form a black hole I'm hoping that experiment doesn't happen at any club near me.

hmm, by pathetic do you mean too nice?

Nah, actually I meant the original link to the anti-game article. 'Pathetic' meaning just being an a**hole for no reason. Like I said it might depend on the mindset.

It depends on what you mean by "constantly". Every 10 minutes would be annoying. Every other day wouldn't be.


I don't mind this. Some people do it. Some people prefer a more deadpan style. Either one is fine.


What if her "jokes" are actually jokes and are actually funny?



I agree.

Here I guess it depends on what exactly is being defined as sh**. I have always lived by the policy of cutting others slack so they will cut slack for me (either gender) and it has worked out well in all relationships from familial to romantic to preofessional. I don't know how that intersects with yours (which I realize is meant to be tongue in cheek).


That would be a problem if it was 100% of the conversation. But trying to make it 0% of the conversation is distracting and uneccesary.


This is quite variable. Of course it is anti-game. But it's also one of those things for which there isn't a hard-cut rule that no man should ever do it or every man should always do it. It's entirely situational.


Nothing wrong with that.


It depends on the woman. Some will be annoyed that you weren't prepared. ZSome will be flattered that you didn't (seemingly) intend from the start to have sex. The problem with Game is its' insistence that there is a one-size-fits-all way to interact with women and all women will react exactl the same to specific input. This is an example of where there is guarenteed to be variability.



That would be annoying, agreed.



Is that actually anti-Game? I bet Mysterioso (or whatever his name is) doesn't fart around the women he's trying to pick up.

Some women find it endearing. Some find it annoying.


Agreed



Agreed. That is exceptionally boring and annoying.


This may be anti-Game but why??? Do they actually advise men against doing this?



Again, why?

Agreed. Talking about exes in any way on a date or while working towards a date is a bad idea.



Did they just advocate rape?


I wouldn't advise getting wrathfully anything. Wrath is generally a bad idea.



Agreed. But then why is it also advised to not be impressed by them? Are they advocating being oblivious to them?




Agreed. No man should try to talk a woman out of dating him. He'll eventually succeed.


I don't know what that is. This must be modern slang that I am too old to get. Men and women haven't changed but slang sure has.


Agreed. It's a bad idea and unsustainable for a LTR. I think my husband would go insane if he actually gave up the things he loves that I have no interest in. Luckily he never tried to do that.

Agreed. Nobody wants to be denigrated and it's a mean thing to do. Objecting to that is a good thing.


No link but it's probably a terrible video.


Agreed.



Agreed, but only because of the "constantly and insipidly" part. Never asking at all isn't a good idea either.


Agreed


Huh?


Again with the "opening a girl" phrase. This must be some Game slang I'm not familiar with. Makes no sense.




I don't know what a cold read is but I agree that nobody likes to be interrogated.


Is there a rule? Ok, whatever.


YMMV



Does this mean they otherwise advocate skipping? Ok. That's fun. But a date can be skip-worthily succesful without sex.

Agreed



Agreed only if you're faking it for show. If it's genuine support rather than faked, that's fine.

A bad idea if it's a lie. A good idea if it's true.



Is this so she won't wonder if you are gay? If you actually aren't gay, it shouldn't be a problem.


No such rule.

Agreed. Too much self-deprecation slides easily into whining.



Very much agreed. That's stalking! So Game is anti-stalking. That's good.

Instead? How about taking turns with plans?



I am too weirded out by the phrase "have sexed her" in place of "had sex with her" to think of a good comment.

That's a rule? Why?



Agreed. No talk of exes.


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Agreed. No talk of exes from either of you.


Agreed. It's boring.


And what constitutes "too soon" is quite variable.


A pass for office executives? Why?

I don't care how cool a cat you are, iof it's muggy and 95, you will sweat profusely. And that's ok.

[/quote]Eagerly say yes to every one of her requests. (“No” is a powerful male attractant. The mere utterance of it can electrify vulvae.)Be hopelessly indecisive.Fail every sh** test in spectacular fashion. (Example: vehemently deny you are the thing she says you are.)

No, that's ok. You can do that anytime.