How late is 'too late' to get started with a relationship?

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Don't forget that many marriages fail--which means that many women who marry become available again.

http://www.divorcerate.org/

As your economic position improves, your relationship prospects will expand. That is one of the best things about being a guy.

Reason #968,324 to never get married.

I'm 27 and I deeply suspect I'm f****d. So I've given up on dating. Women are a waste of time anyways. I'm striving for better things. Forget them, forget love, find your own happiness, and make a truly lasting mark. So many waste their lives with their wife, cranking out kids, and when they all die, there is nothing left but a rotting tombstone. Leave a painting, a sculpture, a building, something lasting behind. Devote your energy to it, and quit worrying about women. They're not worth it, believe me.

Oh thanks.

If it becomes harder and harder, why do viagra sell so much among senior citizens then?

Well, clearly Viagra makes it really hard.

That may be true if you haven't made too many attempts but on the flip side as you grow older you should become wiser with every attempt that hasn't worked out.You begin to recognize your strengths and weaknesses and make better choices.it's never too late depending on your expectations going in.If one desires a family with kids then of course you don't want to be starting at an advanced age but if all you desire is a casual girlfriend then that is a different situation.

I don't think it's too late at all! Personally (all other thing being equal) I'd rather go out with someone your age who'd not previously had a girlfriend than someone the same age who had kids or was divorced. I think you should do whatever makes you happy.

With no or very little actual experience, regardless of the number of attempts, you can't grow wiser in this field.

By attempts I mean the method you use to try to get into a relationship.I would speculate many aspie males are perpetually single because they simply do not go after women ,they don't ask them out.Every time you try you increase your odds obviously and can learn from each experience.

to the OP: i would say about 90 is too late to get started with a relationship. Even that arbitary figure seems a tad harsh on certain parts of society

Well, yea...I am not much of pursuer.

It's not like I don't approach at all, I do.

But from the first sign of disinterest, I stop.

Btw, I find PTSmorrow's advice too unhuman, unrealistic and for some reason a bit offensive too.


It was like saying "it's ok if you're not having relationships during your life years , you will find a woman easily at 80, if you live that enough. It's ok if you missed out all these years and didn't had and experienced what 98% experienced and had ".



First, it's too non-human, relationship is a fundamental adult component.
As much how we 'aspies' are seen as robots, we also have our emotional and sexual needs, by not having relationships like most people do, we would be (at least most of us) struggling with the lack of those needs on a daily basis, and most of us are living in a world of couples, so we are always being reminded by what's lacking in our life, people would also literally keep reminding me and bug us about our chronic single state. Those simply can't be just switched to 'off'.

And time can't be compensated, there's no time machine to re-try, what passed is passed, what has been lost is lost, a one who never had a gf as a teen, would keep wondering how it would feel like back then , a one who never experienced love, sex, and etc during 20s, would keep wondering how it would be like back then ......



So saying something like "..ok...live the happiest...wait till 80" , is not too feasible or even human, it's also offensive here.


So to the OP, theoretically yes...it's never "too late" , but the more time passes the more is too late for a lot of things.

I'm happy to see positive responses on here. I'm 20 and have never dated anybody and have no sexual history to speak of. Sometimes I'm afraid I'll end up alone and be unhappy. Not that I need a man to be happy, I just want to at least experience having a significant other. I've had a HORRIBLE history with every guy who has shown an interest in me and usually I'm too afraid to make the first move. But, I will not give up hope!

If you happen to find yourself dead one day, it might be too late.

yellowLedbetter: I never even held hands in a romantic way until I was 22. Other members on here got started many years later still, but it eventually happened for them. Glad to hear you're not giving up.